HELP!! what can I do???

Question

I have a confession to make. At school i am very quiet and shy. Most people use me and think I am so easy. They boss me around and treat me like I am the loser and I feel like a jerk. They tease me, lie to me and hurt my feelings. And also, there ae these group of boys and whenever they see me they say bad stuff about me and try to trick me and make me feel like a loser and jerk in front of everyone. And also there are these bunch of popular gals. They hate me and swear at me. They try to use me and make me the loser and make them feel better about themselves. WHAT CAN I DO?? I dont wanna feel like a jerk and have a unhappy life at school. No one likes to play with me and be my friend and I dont wanna be a loner.i only have one best friend she is the only freind i have and i wanna have more friends than one. i want ppl 2 like me. because when i go to high school,there will be more worse people that will get me and give me the pain in the neck and use me more then in primary school. help

Answer 1

Go absolutely nuts on one person in front of as many witnesses as possible. Do that a couple of times and people will stop messing with you. So long as you let people treat you like a doormat, you can expect it to continue.

Answer 2

First of all you should understand that these people are only acting like this because they are cowards. DO NOT let them ruin your life because they are unhappy with their own. Don't let them affect you. When they are mean to you, just walk away. Don't let them see that they upset you, because that is what they want. They are wanting to get a reaction out of you. You sound like a really sweet girl and I'm sure there are loads of people who would love to be your friend. Don't feel you have to win the popularity of those jerks! I suggest you join some sort of club or take up a hobby. Do you like something musical? Or something arty? You need to really start working on your self esteem and try something that will make you feel good about yourself. A great confidence booster is drama. See if you can join a play or even help out with one if you are not really into acting. All in all you need to spread your self out to a few activities to meet new people. You will love it! Give it a chance! I wish you all the best and hope you have a fantastic weekend!

Answer 3

Everyones school life is different... and while many will say that what you are going through is normal... I am inclined to say that you are getting a pretty bad helping of mistreatment.
What you can do to remedy this is not going to be a quick fix... but, it should get you started in the right direction. For starters... you need a make over... and not a physical one (since I don't know if you are pretty or not) but a mental one. You need to find a way to build up your self esteem because you treat yourself just as bad as the popular girls do. By letting people treat you the way you describe... you are doing yourself no favors.
Assert yourself. I DO NOT mean become this ultra-violent girl power vixen... but, try standing up for yourself. These people that use you... don't let them. You allow it because in some way you feel you deserve it... but you don't. SO DO NOT LET IT HAPPEN! They continue to treat you so cruely because high schoolers in groups are the equivalent of animal packs... and they smell the weakness in you... BIG TIME.
Volonteer for community stuff as well as school activities. Get involved with organizing school dances and functions... places to let your creativity and ideas speak for you. You may discover that as you more assertively pursue improvement, those around you may ease up and start letting you be a high schooler instead of a joke.

And... lastly... remember that all these people that make you feel like crap only do it because they are trying to draw attention away from their flaws. They are not perfect... so take them all off of that pedestal of perfection you have them on and look up to other people who actually have more substance to back their actions up.


and stay focused on your school work... don't let the nobodies around you ruin your potential for a future!

I wish you luck and hope everything gets better for you.

Answer 4

Each morning when you get up in the morning look in the mirror and say to yourself ... 'I am a really good person'. Make sure you go to school looking very neat and tidy, not dirty, hold your head up high. Make sure you eat a good nutritious breakfast too. Looks those losers in the face with your head held high. To make friends you have to be friend, so I have been told. Sometimes, some of us do not have lots of friends. We may go through life with maybe one or two really good friends, the rest will only be acquaintances. High school is tough, life can be tough but if you respect yourself and like yourself you will survive. Good luck with your studies and remember, you are a good person. Bullies never win, so take no notice of those people who put you down.

Answer 5

My dear, your problem is not uncommon, try to become slightly bold and make friends by helping some and saying no to some others. This will create a reputation for you. Stop being pushed around. If you are not too good at saying NO, try making excuses to people or delay your help. You must be good at something, some subject or sports or something else. Use your talent to attract people by way of providing help-sometimes timely sometimes witha little delay. Form groups of people who need your help on various subjects. Look good and feel good and SEE THE DIFFERENCE. if you need more help get me at [e-mail]

Answer 6

dont let people push you around, that's why people wawlk all over you...be more confident and talk to people then you won't look like an easy target, don't woorry what thew "popular girls" think of you because they don't lik anyone that s different form them so unless you want to stoop to there level they're not going to like you....keep around other people or a group of people all the time then you'll have a lil bit of bak up when the guys are teasin you etc...

Answer 7

None of these people you are so desperate to like you will be walking with you for the rest of your life, ignore the idiots and be better than them. Your day will come just remember nothing anyone thinks about you will change or has to change who you are. Do not care what people think or say about you, its them trying to boost themselves. Good luck.
-NmD!

Answer 8

i am 54 male. when i went to school i had fights every day through junior high. a group of kids picked on me everyday. everyone thought beating me up was the way for them to be popular. well, high school changed that. noone ever picked on me again and the daily fights ended. i am sure your torment will stop also. you will have many new friends. have fun.

Answer 9

You need personality development....PRONTO!!!

True, that the guys and gals in your school are IDIOTS for making nasty remarks... Still.... you have to develop yourself for your own worth.

Be confident. You may be quiet and shy but be quiet, shy and nice. Be fashionable. Be neat. Little changes wont hurt but will go a long... long... way.

Do it for yourself girl...

Answer 10

Just continue to surround yourself with positive people. Continue to look for things that you like to do and enrich yourself from the inside. Just continue to make yourself a beautiful person and things will come to you.