How do I explain to my boyfriend that I need more in the bedroom?

Question

I have been with this man for 2 1/2years. He is really a great guy. I just need more in the bedroom. I was married before and my ex introduced me to toys I enjoyed it alot. But now with my boyfriend he is way to quick for me and I need more then just for him to stick it in for 3 minutes and hes done. I want the touching and feeling not just the kissing. He tells me he wants to satisfy me first so I have to fake it. How do I tell him I need more without hurting his feelings or his male ego? Am I wrong for this? Other than the bedroom everything else is great.

Answer 1

try just talking with him about it, if that doesnt work for you then, you take control, tell him that you are going to show him how you like to be treated, then do him as you would like to be done...as best you can....if he cares at all he should get the message....when you get him inside you, make sure u are on top, and you control the tempo, pay close attention to his reaction, and how much he is enjoying the feeling, when he gets close to c u ming, then pull off, and wait for a few minutes, you can squeeze the tip of his penis with your thumb and forefinger, for about 5 sec, that will force enough of the blood out for him to regroup, then start over, tell him you want to c u m together, at the same time, for him to try to hold off until he feels your ready,,,,my girlfriend are able to do this, it took work expecially on my part, but she wanted it and I was able to hold off until she is ready, it usually only takes a few trys, maybe a week and then he will be able to satisify you....but sometimes now I cant c u m on cue...and it takes me longer than her now sometimes...but she understands and will do whatever I wish after she has c u m. so that i can reach it....good luck and enjoy.

Answer 2

U know - if he do u it for a 3 minutes - it's just how he is. Yr mistake - u fake all the time yr orgasm - it's bad and unfair and unhealthy. U had to try to change it 2.5 years ago. I think if u will tell him now - he will not understand u and will not be able to for give u - coz be fake all the time - it's can kill all the feelings. what to do? i guess just stop to be fake and begin tell him u wasn't satisfy (but very carefuly). I heard to keep potency helps some ring for the penis - check it out in the sexshops. And about toys - what kind of r they? if it's not some artificial dick, which u will try to put in his ***. IF it's maybe handcuffs - he should like it. good luck

Answer 3

I think you need to grow up a bit. Frankly, everyone on this site (or a great many) are OBSESSED beyond belief with all this kind of raunchy talk and sexual escapades. Dear, if he is in you for three minutes, that is all MOST guys last, so I don't know what your problem is. If it bothers you that much, see a sex therapist! Geesh!

Answer 4

Quit faking it for one. He thinks he's been doing a great job all this time. How you gonna tell him, it's just not so? What else do you lie to each other about?

Answer 5

It's your choice. Want to have this experience every time for the next 20 years, stay silent. Why should he change if it's obvious you will put up with it the way it is? Want more, tell him it isn't working for you the way it is, and if it doesn't change, move on.

Answer 6

you've been faking it, so now it's all uphill from here.

why don't you just get over the fear and tell him exactly what you want, show him what you want and ask for what you want.

and don't let him get off until he gets it... once he gets off he'll lose interest

Answer 7

break out your toys after he is done, he should get an idea, unless he is brain dead, his feeling might be hurt but explain it to him nicely

Answer 8

Tell him he's not up to it, improve or get out!

Answer 9

Just tell him, he can't improve what he doesn't know about.

Answer 10

you are one hell of a horny b**ch.