My brother hurts me...I have scars to prove it. What do I do?
My brother is violent. Im 12 and he is 14. He grabbed my neck and pushed me into the wall and wanted to choke me but he let go. Then he smacked me and scraped my forehead. He dug his nails into my arm and now I have purple marks on me. This isn't I lie I swear. Please tell me what can I do. Some people think i'd die by 18. My mom found out but didn't do a thing. I was so mad. I cried. I thought she would do somthing. Please tell me what I can do.
2006-08-17 20:32:31 · 65 answers · asked by Cecilia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
call the police
2006-08-17 20:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Go to the police right now. Your family might be angry with you for a long time, but that is their problem. You need help. Or call child protective services and report the problem (pretending you are your friend). Have a friend call too and then there will be two complaints.
I don't know what state you are in. You can do a search on google using your state name and the words child protective services. They will give you a phone number to call. 1-800-342-3720 is the phone number for new yourk. They can probably direct you to someone local. Do it now. This is not ok.
The authorities may put you in the care of another relative until your brother and parents recieve counselling and they are sure you are safe. It sounds horrible, but it will all work out in the end. You are a strong, wonderful, human being and you deserve more.
2006-08-25 10:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by sgeorges13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to tell you mother again and if she doesn't do anything you have the option of calling the cops. If your brother is violent towards you and your mother can see the bruises, but says nothing about it you don't need to be in that home any way. If that is not an option or something that you don't want to do you can try talking to your brother and explain to him that you are much younger than he is and that it hurts you when he does that to you. You can also talk to your mom about going to stay with a relative. If that doesn't work pick up something and knock him out. I'm not saying kill him or hurt him severely. I'm just saying to get his attention and let him know that you will not put up with his abuse anymore.
2006-08-25 09:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by strawberries_r_cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I feel for you. My oldest brother used to do the same thing to me. Telling someone who cares is the best thing to do. Try the school counsellor, but you need to be earnest about it because some people just brush it off as a little brother and sister spat. I know this. Also, if the counsellor doesnt believe you, tell them that you are going to call child family services. The very people that are supposed to protect you are often the ones that hurt you the most. My step-father molested me and I told my mom but she just looked at me and walked away, then she even married the guy!
2006-08-25 15:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity Bay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something. You can call the police, you can tell a teacher at school, if you go to church you can tell the Pastor or Priest, you can call whatever violence hot line there is and I pray they will help.
But I am being honest with you, this is what I would do (and what I have done when people picked on me and I was your age) I showed them I'm no fool. The day you give your brother a taste of his own medicine he will never lay a hand on you again. Here what, enroll in a martial arts class. Tell you mom or dad you want to join and just join and learn to take care of yourself. You won't regret it, especially of you want to survive.
2006-08-24 12:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well considering that u r young and go to school tell someone at school what is going on and that u fear for your safety. sometimes they can help keep things more a secret until u r safe and ready to confront the situation. do not ignore this and do nothing...it will only make it worse. call the police if u really have a bad fear that something is going to happen really wrong. call social services look them up in your local phone book under your state government. get help dont back down...if your mom won't help what about another adult that u can trust? dont give up and dont give in abuse is never the answer and dont be a victim be a survivor!!
2006-08-24 18:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is really that bad, you need to tell your parents you have to move. Do you have any close relatives that you can live with? Grandparent? Aunts? If these are not options, talk to your guidence counsulor at school. If no help there, keep going. talk to teachers, the principal any and all that will listen. You need to get away. Your health and well being is more important than any hurt feelings you might bring to your parents or brother.
2006-08-24 04:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by wolfie_amour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have other family you can talk to. Someone your close to? You need to get help soon or he is going to hurt you bad. Maybe you should mention it to your school counselor and they can discuss it with your parents. That is a terrible way to live. Your home should be your safe place. If you can't tell them then call the police. That should get your moms attention. I'll say a prayer for your sweetie!
2006-08-17 20:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whole family needs help, but you have to look out for yourself. Talk to some one. Where's your father? Grandparents. Anybody - neighbor, friend's parent. Do it today. Who are these "some people" who thought you'd die? Why aren't they helping you? If there's no one, then you HAVE to call Social Services. I know it's a scary thing to do, but you can't go on living in fear. No one has to tell you the danger you are in. Listen to your inner voice and take care of yourself. I am so sad for you. You shouldn't have to take this step yourself. I wish you all the best and I will be praying for you.
2006-08-17 20:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you are going through this,especially without your mom.i know what it hurts like when your mom is there but truelly is not there.i've been there & done that & i feel for you.i went to my aunt-she was kinda like an older sister cause mom & i lived with my grandparents when i was little so we kinda grew up together.as an adult she is still there for me & is my daughter's godmother.do you have grandparents that will listen?a bestest best freind's parents that are like a second parent to you that will help.next time he goes after you go crazy mad like he's never seen before & hit him as HARD as you can where it counts.when he goes down to the floor in pain jump on him & beat the holy daylights out of him.that will make him think before he does it again.good luck.
2006-08-25 20:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by k.ctina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a very simple solution to this. You are old enough to call 911. If you are afraid to use the phone, get on the city bus and ride to the police station and make a report. I guarantee you this behavior will stop!
2006-08-24 12:10:49 · answer #11 · answered by painterman19723 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋