i'm wkg with stable job. married wth 3 kids. met him & his married with 3 kids too. we must see each other at least 3 days a week fm mon- fri only. sat,sun & PH for family only. relationship only 3 months old. we are extremely close like a pair of luvers that can't be separated.we had promised to be together no matter what happens because we really luv each other & need each other.1 fine day recently someone had smelt it n inform his wife. he deny n i,him n his wife met and i also deny.i don't know wat to do now because i'm lost and can't concentrate on my work. when i met him with his wife i saw he's quite miserrabel n messy. i don't know whether he miss me or he scarce or panic that his wife had smelt his affair hard to said. now i'm like crazy missing him and feel very, very down and felt like crying but i can't because i'm in the office. he have nt called me today. i really miss him n not eaten proper meals for the past 1 week. i'm confuse and don't know what to do???
2006-08-17 20:26:16 · 20 answers · asked by hai s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well shame on you. You have a husband and 3 children. What are you thinking!! Don't you care what they will think of you when they find out? Pull yourself together, get a different job and plan what you can do to make it up to your family. And hope they never find out!
2006-08-17 20:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously deep down in your heart u know what u did was wrong but u refuse to admit it. U want to feel that love flames again as u felt during your younger days. Maybe after few years of marriage and having 3 childrens have taking its toll on u and u feel that your husband has been neglecting your feelings. Its tough being a working mom and sometimes u feel life is so stressful and meaningless. Then u met someone. He makes u smile again and he knows how to cheer up and without u realising u are attracted to him.
I know u dont mean to cheat on your husband its just happen. So now this is your opportunity to correct what did wrong. Try to find love again with your husband and cherish the good times u had with your family. Remember the joy u felt the first time u met your husband. Remember your baby first cry during your labour. Search deep inside your heart i know u can do the right thing.
2006-08-18 09:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by juz_aim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.
However, If there is one flaw in women,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
Your better then this situation that you have gotten yourself into ..... Beleive in yourself dear
2006-08-18 07:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by MrsDave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how are you missing another woman's husband, not to mention you are a married woman. Unreal. Get a grip. He he was that miserable, he'd get a divorce. Same goes for you.
Second what is smelt? I could hardly understand your situation do to the grammar and spelling errors. Concentrate on getting yourself together, be there for your family and children. Go to school. Preoccupy yourself with other things because your situation is not cutting it.
People get hurt over these kinds of things. You looked his wife in the face and lied. Do believe she'll be back to confront you again. You both must be messy if she knew enough to come to you to confront you. Get it together because it won't be long before your husband find out.
2006-08-18 07:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not in a position to comment your peronality. Basically, what you are doing is actually destroying the happiness of 2 families and the kids. Can you imagine what will your kids think of you when they found out what you have done behind your husband? I believe you have to be strong and carry on with your life and not wait for the guy to call you. What is the point of not having proper meals over someone whom you may not be able to be together. I rather want you to move on with your life. Yes, it may be diffcult for you to forget him but you have to give it a try for the sake of your own family happiness. If your husband is going to find out this sort of thing, What is the consequence you should know better than me.
2006-08-19 07:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. Find out why you are putting yourself through this. You know deep down if he will leave his wife. Be strong and except the answer. This will pass, and you will heal. One day this will just be a memory. There isn't a bone in your body that can't survive without him. Things will change, because nothing remains the same. The pain will go away, if not entirely, than to the point where you can eventually reflect on why you have choosen this path. Take care.
2006-08-18 03:33:48 · answer #6 · answered by molly b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've been there before but it was my wife that had an affair.I don't know if you have a domestic problem.People who are susceptible to these kind of problems or temptations are those who have problems in their marriage.The reason is because they're trying to escape their problems thru meeting people.If I were you I'll just try to concentrate my problems thru activities,mainly family activities,think of your kids first.Partners are replaceable, but children are not.Why not do out with your peers,women are more susceptible to temptations than men,especially when they are given emotional support.Try to settle your indifferences with your husband/or family.They can give you all the support they can than your lover.
2006-08-18 03:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by jojoferrer2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind over matter, sweetie. Sometimes, listening to what your heart says can't be good for you. Definitely a bad thing in your case. Be strong. Don't be selfish. Think of your kids. They need you more than you'll ever need an extramarital affair with a married man who has three kids and a miserable sex life with his wife. Sorry. :(
2006-08-18 03:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both ran away from your life's and have a lusting affair. You both felt not a care in the world because you both were away from your real lives. You both are playing with lust and you can not think straight. You should get your head screwed on straight and find yourself. You cant think straight when lust is involved.
Stop, change jobs if you need to. You are going to a one way street to complete breakdown. You are going to loose everything it you haven't already.
2006-08-18 04:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your most important task is to take care of yourself. Then focus on your children. It is not healthy to be so dependent that anothers actions cause you to lose your ability to function. When he does call you or if you see him you don't want to be a clingy mess. Confidence in one's self and handling stress is the most attractive quality.
When you are stronger in yourself you will see reality in the proper prospective. Then you will want to be there for your children who need you more than anyone.
If you continue to be struggling GO to a therapist to help you sort out your thoughts and needs.
2006-08-18 03:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋