I Think Something Might Be Wrong With Me...?

Question

When I was 13 until I was 17 I was only interested in guys. Then for a few months when I was 17 I became only interested in girls. Then after a few months I became interested in neither.

Two years later and now I am 19, still no interest in either gender. I also noticed I have become more passive and bitter, since I was 18, which I think might be connected to lost interest in either gender...

Do you know what could of caused me to turn like this? All I know is it makes me very miserable, but I do not know how to change...

Answer 1

read the bible...preferably naked in bed with a nun

Answer 2

Interesting dilemma-- Gender is always a difficult issue to debate about. Personally, I have always believed that gender truly doesn't matter, and that, essentially, our souls are really what we should judge people on, and not our bodies. I think perhaps the reason you were only interested in guys at one point, then girls at another, then ultimately, neither, is because you're basing your gender on the people you DO feel attracted to at the time. You were probably always bisexual, but just didn't meet any attractive girls until you were 17, then you didn't meet attractive guys for a couple years thereafter. Now, you probably just don't feel attracted to anyone at all, and believe that it's truly that you have no interest in either gender, when you most likely still have the potential to find someone of interest, just that you haven't for a while yet.

Regarding the passivity and bitterness... perhaps you're suffering from depression? Most people in their late teens go through a lot of stress and a myriad of conflicting emotions, at times resulting in depression. The best way to change may be... to get out a bit more. Talk and get to know new people. Try new things or get into a hobby.

Hopefully that helps a bit.

Contact me if you ever want to talk!

Answer 3

You are a Child of The Bush-Clinton-Bush Decade - - - all of your life television shows have said SEX was Bad & Evil. Yes, Pretty Women are a must for selling Beer & Insurance - - - yes there are Pamper commercials that use Sex as a sales point - - - but the actual act of inserting a penis in an orifice has become synonymous with evil. Watch an episode of L & O or CSI and why do people die? Because of a sex act - - - seventy to eighty percent of the time. Every television comedy made during your lifetime has used the sex act as a reason for mostly negative humor. A couple cannot simply break up, no it has to be a traumatic situation. Certain Late Night Comics called actresss whores when they have more than one sex partner during a lifetime. During your lifetime monogamy & condoms have become mandatory. Even the Gay crowd has fled into matrimony. Anyone who breaks up with that first great love of their life is viewed as tainted to the day they die. Listen to modern couples argue over past sex partners as if it matters. You are possibly right to give up on sex - - - the Evangelical Christians won't be lynching you any time soon - - - but they will get upset if you do not settle into a monogamous relationship by age thirty and start pumping out children. PS IN normal societies people get sexualy active & curious at the onset of adoloescence and don't dsettle on a sexuality until their late twenties early thirties then they settle into a life style they are comfortable. Some people are comfortably bi till the end of their lives. It is Modern American society that tries to force people into rigidly defined boxes. Peace.

Answer 4

Could be a hormone problem or it could be that you just haven't found anyone that floats your boat er that makes you wanna drop your anchor...Anyways, nothing wrong with being picky. Guess I wouldn't worry too much cuz that could also be the cause. Some times society can put a lot of pressure on people when it comes to sexuality and relationships. Maybe time is all you need!? Sorry, I know I'm not much help but I'm sure everything will turn out all right.
Good Luck to ya!!!!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Hmmmm.. that's a form of male frigidity I suspect, although I don't know. My terminal degree is not psychology -- but to be honest Thomas -- you NEED a psychologist. Sexuality is almost certainly determined chemo-genetically; but sexual dysfunction at your age -- usually psychological. It could be anything from depression to trauma. Depression strikes me as likely, since a drop of (I think, its been years since I read a paper on this) 10% in dopamine receptors -- just enough to make you feel down and nonaggressive also causes you to lose all interest in sex.

Please, for your own sake, see either a psychologist or a psychiatrist.

*hug*

It will get better with help.

Kind regards,

Reynolds
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Answer 7

You have been growing and changing, both your hormones and your mind.

Have you gone through any traumas that might have affected the way you see sex and relationships? (Even bad dates?) You don't have to articulate them to us; I'm just trying to tickle your mind so you can remember. What made you become "more passive and bitter"? You may need to work on that before you try a relationship again. This could be your body and mind's way of telling you to work on yourself first.

If you are on depression meds, or are clinically depressed, that can also reduce your interest in sex.

Also, sometimes it does go in cycles. For me, my sexuality varies with my monthly cycle. I always love my wife, but during ovulation I prefer men and during PMS I prefer women. That's not an issue for you, of course, but all kinds of variations are possible.

Answer 8

It is quite possible that you are experienceing more advanced stages of depression. The best thing you cna do right now is to talk to your parents or a friend and then get proffesional help from someone who is educated in said symptoms.
If these emotions are paired with zero sex drive you may have a serious problem and seeking help would be the best thing you can do for yourself.
Good luck.

Answer 9

I doubt anything is wrong with you. It's most likely that the right person hasn't come along, of either gender. Just try and have some fun in as many ways as possible, and it'll all pass, and you'll find yourself totally into someone.

Goodluck.

Answer 10

If you have no sexual energy at all, no interest in either gender for an extended period of time, you could have either a chemical unbalance, or a psychological problem. Please speak with either your own MD, or with a psychologist or counselor to get guidance. You deserve to have a happier life.

Answer 11

I'd definitely suggest seeing a doctor. It may be a chemical imbalance that's causing the lack of interest in anything or anyone.