i love him and he loves me but there is a problem with my family, they don't like him but he is a very nice guy beleive me u all what i do .....
2006-08-17 20:13:21 · 15 answers · asked by Claris 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You don't mention your age, which is crucial in this situation. If you are very young (and I mean in your teens) then I can see why your family objects. Again, it depends on your age here. Of course I would choose happiness with the person I loved, but if you are VERY YOUNG, you really can't know what love is all about even though you are SURE you do!
2006-08-17 20:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the happiness of your as it's of utmost important for rest of your life without any doubt, provided U R confident enough & really love & trust, each other, but also C that your family doesn't get hurt in anyway in the process. Afterall, U owe a lot to your family too. Decide carefully whatever U do, to avoid any future situation of repenting. All the best.
2006-08-18 04:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the #1 problem for young couples. After that, it becomes money, lol!
Anyway, you must either convince your family that he is someone worthy to be accepted by them, or you must appeal to your family to support whoever you love.... because they love you.
What is the reason they don't like him? Find that out, and look into it in a detailed way. If there is a problem between two single people, put them in the same room together, and let them say their peice.
What is comes down to is that you don't want to have to choose between family or the one you love. Sometimes people choose the one they love and are estranged from their familes. Sometimes the families come around.
But if you truly believe that your family has an irrational reason for not liking him, you must tell them exactly that, and why.
If there is some justification in why they don't like him, then you must be open-minded about the fact that they might be right.
Lots of times, these situations are never perfect and you must do the best with what you have.
Good luck!
2006-08-18 03:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by Scott Rinke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strictly speaking your family members. Because they have brought you up & its their duty to see a nice person for you. In the long run, your happiness will be permanent if your family members choose your partner. If you choose it will be short lived as you cant live with out the support of your elders all alone. & you will feel their absence in the few days after marriage. Dont hurt your parents. They are the living gods. You cant go behind a person whom you have seen recently leaving behind bad remarks for the people who have struggled for you to see you at this stage. You create happiness where ever you go, & where ever you be which will make others happy. You will find true happiness.
2006-08-18 07:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by sujathaprm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You should not be asking as an answer for this question.
2. You know your family and yourself and your situation much better than anyone here can even fathom.
3. This question does not fall under philosophy.
4. If you are undecided on the looming choice between your parents and lover, decide. Weigh down your options. Decide who you cannot live without. And do accordingly.
5. Sigh.
2006-08-18 04:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sudhir 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family loves you as much as you love them you wouldnt be asking this question. Sometimes in life the people we love interact with people we may not like. But because of the fact that we love them we find a way to accept them because of our love. You will have to choose between your family and your man. It will have to be without regret or reversal. The reason is simple. If you choose to go against your familys wishes they will always remind you of the bad qualities in your man. They will try to sabatoge your relationship just to say I told you so. Knowing that you should always defend your lover without regret. That will reinforce his confidence in the relationship knowing you put him first. And over time your family will learn to accept him to be near you. Dont sacrifice true love for family. We are to make our own families in life......but it is nice to keep the ones we have.
2006-08-18 03:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by Luke S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea of your social / religious background, so how much your decision impacts your family or immediate social circle is worthy of consideration, however your life should be your own and anyone that disagrees is neither your friend nor your protector. Follow your heart and reach out for what YOU believe, and a happy life will follow. Would you prefer to make a few people unhappy for a little while, or to make yourself unhappy for the rest of your life ?
2006-08-18 03:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in such a case u should go with your love as he knows you and about your family they are happy only when you are happy if your are happy with your love then go with him cauz he will keep u and your family both happy at the same time . and if u go with you family then u will destroy many lives . you will destroy the life of the person u will marry later and the one who loves u the most and also u will bring shame to your family cause u wont be able to give the same love and affection to another person after your love.
alwayz remember one thing believe in your heart. do what your heart says cauz he says only truth..
2006-08-18 05:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sandeep S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your family object if he is such a nice person? Or is he only nice in your eyes. Sometimes love blindfolds us, we cannot see even the most obvious faults. And later on we regret that 'why didn't I bother to notice when my people showed me?'
Well...... The secret is to strike a balance between both, your happiness as well as their wishes.
2006-08-18 05:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by MintyMint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is experience-based.
No doubt happiness of self for life (your love) is more important than beliefs of family and you should marry your love
BUT
it is always better if in such cases consent is obtained from parents/elders. The family members criticise your friend to discourage you. If you feel that he is nice and you both have perfect tuning and he is suitable match, you decide mentally that you will marry that person only. Continue to obtain consent tactfully. Donot hurry. After sometime they willbe compelled to consent.
If you fail to obtain consent, go ahead.
Last but not the least pray to God for self - your love -family members. His blessings will support your cause.
BEST OF LUCK
2006-08-18 03:28:28 · answer #10 · answered by PK LAMBA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋