You don't feel like cooking, and your husband offered your services for a family gathering tommorrow without

Question

consulting you first.. YOU ARE ANGRY... DO you tell him? What do you serve? Do you cook? Or how did you handle the situation?

Answer 1

You slap that ***** right upside his damn head...say wtf you think you're doing not consulting me first? and order a cheese/meat platter from the deli.
THAT'S what I do.

Answer 2

Dear Lady, do not cook, do not fear...because the grocery deli is OH SO NEAR!

Tell your husband, that you do not feel like cooking (unless by doing so you can gain something for yourelf that you REALLY want) ;-)

Maybe order a nice honey baked sprial sliced ham, and pick up a tub of tator or macaroni salad, or have the deli prepare some veggie trays and dip or cold cut trays or something. Even if you go by and pick up a big box of fried chicken you still need not be tied to that hot stove, when you do not feel like it. Too many other people are already cooking! So I say, tell him to get his money out and decide if it will be ham, even roasted chickens from the grocery, or the party trays? Give him a choice of grocery store/deli/take out large tubs of salad and a honey sliced ham or I think if you give them enough time, they will make special things like turkeys or whatever you order and put a deposit on (in some cases they may want a deposit), the food will be hot (or cold) and ready when you go to pick it up and you, will not be in the kitchen.

Perhaps he will learn a lesson from this trip because the truth is that this route is going to cost more than if you slave over that hot stove for a few hours/days to prepare foods. Remind him that if you prepare something you would require money to buy the food, the energy/fuel required to cook the food, the heat that the cooking would generate in your home which makes things more difficult on your AC. The fact that you do not feel like cooking, and that he did not give you enough time to really feel enthusiastic about doing this cooking project. If it's a party where you can get by with pizzas or something like that, then why not? Be firm, but gentle, and if this one stings him in his wallet, he will (maybe know better the next time)...

Good luck sweetie, chances are if your heart is not in the food preparation that it may not be your best efforts either, so if anyone makes any remarks about you bringing store-prepared foods, you can admit that you have not been feeling well. Make it sound serious, sad and something that had really been difficult for you, that could mean anything from PMS to being overwhelmed by the heat or chronic headaches. Deli foods are good, and although they are more expensive, they are a lot easier on short notice, and since your husband did the offering, let him decide what and how much to buy and take...If it's a covered dish dinner type deal, you could call the others and ask what they plan to bring so you do not duplicate any of their efforts.

Lighten up...it's hot, nobody blames you for not wanting to cook when you were not given adequate notice. You can still bring some good food, without being a galley slave!
The Rattykins

Answer 3

How RUDE!!! I would definitely tell him, because otherwise he will do this again and again, because men are clueless. Tell him to offer his own services, yours aren't available on such short notice. Maybe he could pick up some fruit, vegetable, or meat trays at the deli, if it isn't too expensive. How many people? Maybe a BBQ - chicken is always good - or potato salad, macaroni salad - you can usually buy these at a store, as well as precooked chicken. Or just hamburgers and hot dogs. No need to get fancy the day before. If it is to be indoors, I might go for mashed potatoes, steamed vegetables (you can get frozen mixes), maybe a frozen lasagna dish (they have big ones that will feed a lot of people) - on such short notice, people really shouldn't expect much.

My mother used to do this to me when I was still living at home - volunteer me or my belongings without me knowing. She gave away my dorm fridge to a friend of hers because she didn't think I wanted it anymore!!! She told my uncle he could borrow my car on a weekend that I was driving a friend home from college!!! People can be so annoying. And get this - she asked me to let my grandparents use the fridge when theirs broke. She didn't even remember giving it away! OOOH I was so mad. But she put me through college, so I shouldn't complain. Your husband, now, is a different matter. Be sure to set him straight so this doesn't happen again.

Answer 4

Get a few of those big Bassili's lasagnas and some big bags of salad that are already made, just add cucumber and tomato. get a couple of loaves of garlic bread and pick a rich dessert, like pecan torte, which is satisfying, even if you eat a small piece! Add anything else, but that's what I would do! It's a compromise...don't be mad! The day will be over soon enough...don't let it get to you! Take a nap while the lasagna is in the oven, as it takes about 1 1/2 hours from the frozen state! That is what I do...it'll be our little secret!

Answer 5

If you have time,call everyone and have them bring something, (salads, bread, veggies etc..) if you don't have time, and the weather is good, and a hot dog and hamburger BB-Q. or go get some take and bake pizzas, and some soda. If your event is more formal, and not alot of kids, then get some chicken breast some mushroom soup and bake it all together, pure it over rice and a salad. If you haven't choked him already, yes tell him that it would be most help full to "GET A HEADS UP" sooner than later. I have had this happen many times, and he said"well your such a wonderful wife, I just knew you could handle it." I said, yep, and you such a loving wonderful husband, that will be more considerate to his wife, or HE will be hosting it SO LOW good luck!! :)

Answer 6

Don't worry and only be angry for a little bit. He must love your cooking and want to impress his family. It's a great way to show your great talents so all can appreciate them! Try to think of it that way because that's probably what he was thinking before he volunteered your services. Granted, he could've consulted you first but he must know how giving and understanding you are so he assumed it would be fine. This is a great opportunity to handle the situation with grace and love.

Answer 7

its summer time break out the grill and BBQ. ask him what do U want to grill? in our family u get out food and u will have 5 men who just happen to be experts on grilling. men like to grill.you can get potato salads, macoroni salad, baked beans, potato chips, etc. at the supper market. get disposable utinsels so no washing dishes after.
it doesn't make it rt. but this would take the pressure off u.
unfortunutly we take the ones we love for granted the worse and alot of the times we don't even realize it.
make sure before u go off half ****** he just didn't have a human brain fart.
if he is demanding then tell him to F.O.

Answer 8

Yes, tell him, and yes, cook. BBQ is a great quick-fix. Tell him the next time he volunteers without consulting you first, he better be willing and able to cook for them himself.

Answer 9

Either have a barbeque - which he could do; go to a restaurant - which he pays for; get take-aways - which he also pays for or he could make a nice and big dinner himself - seeing as he offered. Offer to buy the ingredients and give him a recipe - what a nice time for him to learn to cook! There's even tasters to test the food for him!

Answer 10

You order from a restaurant and let him know you wish he had of consulted you first to come up with a solution for the party together.

Answer 11

First of all that was very insensitive of him . Second of all I would not even worry about it , because I wouldn't even cook anything I would leave the house and tell him I already made plans with some friends or family members . And I bet he wouldn't do that again .