We are both in our thirties but i have been out of the dating game for many years, we have had four dates so far and i feel passion is running high, should i assume that she will want to sleep with me i don't want to show her the spare room if she was expecting to share my bed and i dont want to scare her off by seeming to keen, do you think that now is about the right time in our relationship or to soon, it fels right to me but then i am a bit desperate lol.
2006-08-17 20:05:35 · 24 answers · asked by sister 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
put hazard tape across the spare room door and declare it a health hazard.then make sure you trip and spill wine on her top and crotch area and say "oh my.let me help you out of these wet clothes" then say "i have something you can change into in my bedroom"
2006-08-17 22:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Don't think about it too much or you will not enjoy the evening.
Part of the pleasure of a new partner and a new relationship is the anticipation.
If it feels like the right time to you then hopefully it will be the right time.
Am sure after a nice dinner and a couple of glasses of wine then things will progress as you want them to.
Good luck and have fun
2006-08-17 23:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by bobbi b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awkward moments like these are the fun part of dating somebody new. I don't know how far down this route you've been with her. Maybe you could just ask. You could say, "here's my room, or would you be more comfortable with the guest room?" But they you're putting yourself on the spot by telling her you're ready to have her share your bed. But then you ARE ready, right?
If you're way too shy for that, you could start her in the guest room, but hope that by the time bedtime rolls around, she comes to your room anyway.
2006-08-18 01:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a choice. We have the spare bedroom, or if you feel comfortable you could share a bed with me. Don't imply having sex, just see what she is comfortable doing. All that she may want to do on this "first sleepover" is cuddle and see how comfortable you both are together.
2006-08-18 02:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by mgrboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her the choice. Don't put her in the guest room and think she will come over to you. If you put her in the guest room she may think you don't want her.
Of course, things may start off on the couch downstairs, in which case a move upstairs to the bedroom follows and she won't have to choose.
Good luck - 'first times' with people are always exciting and special.
2006-08-17 21:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Trish D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good Tough Situation man. Make sure you make a move!!! It has to be done right though, when its getting late and your drinking wine playfully try and take something off. She may playfully reject you but if you dont try you lose!!! Trust me on this, I was with a chick and because i didnt try and have sex with her she thought that I didnt like her and she is with another guy now. Try Playfully and even if she "Rejects" it you still win, if she wants to suddenly you wernt joking. Good luck man
2006-08-18 16:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by purplewingduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u guys havent hit the sack, then show her the guest room; u would look more gentlemany... if she comes over ur room in the moddle of the night, then be casual and show soem romance. kiss her, make some small touches in the arms.. so it wouldnt seem like u r rushing into someting.. if she grabs u and kisses u too, that means she wants something better.. give it to her..
2006-08-17 20:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd offer her the spare room. If she wants to sleep with you, it'll happen no matter what room you offer her. Who knows, she may not end up using the other bedroom at all!
2006-08-17 23:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Paige 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just go with the situation. If it feels right, then go for it. If not, then wait. Make sure that both options are available though, just in case.
2006-08-18 02:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take it slowly proving she turns in daylight I am sure that by the time it's bedtime you will be able to work it out Good luck and enjoy each other
2006-08-17 20:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by paul s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋