I have an Ex who can let go easily from anyone and everything with no problem, She doesn't regret nothing and learns from it. I on the other hand have been raised without friends so letting go of someone is hard when the person is strong, smart, beautiful and just "One in a Trillion" you know? She tells me to leave her alone, But she likes the phase "Find the one who makes your heart smile". She painted this smile I will forever have and she wants to erase it. Am I being selfish?? I know I need to let go. But there's no reason to let go. If to work or do things for yourself is a must in life, Why is it bad to think about yourself when it comes to wanting to be important in someones life when they just all of a sudden don't like you no more? I know the answer ya'll gonna say, Just take it easy on me, Hit me up.
2006-08-17 19:59:33 · 9 answers · asked by TinyLOKSTER 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
YES, YOU KNOW THE ANSWER ALREADY.
To me it sounds like your attracted to her because the "person is strong, smart, beautiful" ( like u said ), which is a very good reason, BUT it sounds like you have a confidence issue with your self, and YOU don't feel like you are strong, smart or beautiful (yes men can be that). Once you start feeling good about yourself, and start loving yourself, then someone else can really start loving you. Find the answer to this: How can someone love you, when you don't love yourself?
2006-08-17 20:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You no the answer, close the door and open another there is no use fretting over what cant be despite as much as you want it to be. Your ex does not want a relationship with you at the same level you do and you have to acceopt this fact. Be positive and grateful that you got this experience in life as many do not. Comparing yourself to how your ex copes is not a good move, your way also has a positive to it as well as you reflect evaluate and accept. This is called grieving and that is what you are doing. Your ex floats on to the next opportunity not resolving issues even if you think she does. There will come a day when she will have to look back on her life and see what has influenced her current situation be it good or bad.
2006-08-18 03:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so sure. You are absolutely right when you say you have to work for things in life. If you ask me the things that you don't work for aren't worth having anyway. Clearly you are in love her and I can tell you from experience that love doesn't always blossom easily. Tell her you want to be friends and hang around her a lot. Don't harass her or fawn over her or anything, just try to show her what a nice guy you are. There aren't a lot of really good and caring people out there and once she sees what a rare and good person you are, she'll come around. You're right: there is no reason.
2006-08-18 03:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by The Lobe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you have no reason to let go. The fact that she's told you to let go is the reason for it.
Unfortunately you can't always make the people we love, love us back. Remember the good times, keep them with you always and take them to the next relationship. It may take you many years to find the perfect person, but they are out there. I found mine ... I was 30 at the time.
2006-08-18 03:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the answer why ask the question? SHE obviously doesnt want YOU anymore so fimd someone who does. There are alot of wonderful people out there who just may be waiting for you. Pick up the pieces of your heart and hit the road
2006-08-18 03:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by Karenthezookpr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the answer to this question then why are you asking? I am going to say it anyways. Move on. You may find someone else that will make you happy.
2006-08-18 03:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know much abt u but what i suggest if anything i.e lover what ever leave it alone and wait for it to come back if it returns back to u then that belongs to u else think that it never belonged to u. this really works. if she really loves u she will come back to u else it is worth less for u to shower ur valuable love for a person who cant feel it. completely trash so try in keep ur value.
2006-08-18 03:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, i hate to say it, if you dont let it go, you are the only one that will be hurt in the long run.......give yourself some space to think over how this woman has treated you.
2006-08-18 03:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find new friends for you to be able to let go...she is not the only girl in the whole wide world...soon you'll find the right one for you...think positive...Goodluck!!!
2006-08-18 03:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋