I'm about 4 weeks pregnant and the father of my child doesnt know yet. I am kind of scared to tell him...when I thought I was pregnant the first time(about two years ago) he said he would leave town and never come back.. my question is how should I approach him with the situation and what should I expect from him? We arent together and dont think we ever will be. I want a relationship with him, but obvioously he thinks he can do better....I dont thibk he can.
2006-08-17 19:44:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Why are you having sex with a guy that told you he would leave you if you got pregnant. What a jerk! Tell him that it takes two to tango baby!
2006-08-17 19:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself if u want this child and if u can do it by yourself.if the answer is yes then ****** what he says or does get him for child support and handle your ****. u should know anyway that a child is forever and and man can come and go when they please. if u are woman enough to to do this then **** it its about u yr life should not revolve around him. and is he will leave town yr relationship wasnt shittt to begin with. if you have support from yr fam and friends thats all u need yr baby will be loved and well taken care of.he is a punk to just leave but u should of not let him bust in u anyway if this was gonna cause a problem. but in the end your the mother of this child and u dont need a man to raise a healthy beautiful child.
2006-08-18 02:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by grandis420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is how he feels then you are better off without him. Never stay with a man who feels that he is better than you or above you. I learned that the hard way. Tell him straight up that you are pregnant and do it over the phone. That way you can hang up and let him mull on it. When he's ready, he can come talk to you. And if he decides to run away, then you don't need him anyway. Sock him for child support and raise your baby on your own. You don't need a deadbeat dad around. You need to be thinking about you and your baby now.
2006-08-18 04:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things wrong with this situation. First of all get some self esteem girl, YOU can do better then HIM. As far as telling him just do it, if he wants to help then good, he's finally being responsible. If not, all the better, he sounds like an *** anyway.
I understand how you got pregnant and let me tell you. It doesn't matter how many times you have sex with him, if he doesn't want you he's not going to. To him you are just some chick he booty calls at the end of the day when he couldn't get anybody else. STOP LETTING HIM USE YOU.
2006-08-18 02:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank goodness the courts are cracking down on deadbeat dads to pay child support. Obviously he is scared of the resposibility that will be coming his way. And if he didn't want a baby on the way the both of you should have used a condom and you should have been on birth control. You should tell him. And if he does skip town take him to court for child support.
He isn't the one that can do better. You are the one that can do better.
2006-08-18 02:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it's you who can do so much better then with that dead beat dad.
He made it clear that he doesn't want any children so don't let him know for awhile yet and then when you do tell him make sure you are not alone when you tell him cause he just might hurt you and your unborn baby too.
He will have to pay child support once the baby gets here and I hope you go after him for it too.
Both you and you baby will do just great as long as he isn't in the picture at all.
If he thinks he can do better then just let him try because we know he can't but you surely can and you will.
Take care and congratulations.
2006-08-18 02:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by fedupmoma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guy told you that if he got you pregnant he would leave town and never come back and you slept with him again? on behalf of your unborn child I would like to thank you for your self-centredness. 10 years from now when you are an exhausted, poor, lonely and angry single parent who is unable to control her kid or provide it with the guidance it needs you can look back and say, "man, I could have done better than that guy, what was I thinking?"
that guy is an idiot too, and from the advice I see you're getting from all the other witches out there he's going to spend years running from the consequences of sticking his dick somewhere he never really wanted to stick it in the first place.
2006-08-18 02:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whew. this is a tough one. first...you approach him like a WOMAN. and tell his trifling azz that he is about to be a sperm donor, whether he likes it, or not. bluntly, if you are not brave enough to tell this man that he is expecting a child...then i have doubts about how you are going to tackle the courage you will need to raise your child alone. and trust me, you will be raising him/her alone (as a parent.) you might as well test out your courage now. what you should expect from him? not a damn thing. that way anything he does will be a pleasant surprise.
on a darker note. you never said whether you wanted to have the baby. i don't want pro-lifers sending me hate mail. but i must ask if you have thought this alllll the way through. AND NO, i don't necessarily mean abortion. there are other options, like adoption. make sure you do what's right for that child! it does not deserve to be born for the sake of "my mama was trying to keep my daddy around." meaning- don't try and raise a baby for the purpose of trying to keep a man you want in your life. TRUST ME TRUST ME TRUST ME...it-never-ever-never-ever-ever-ever works. you will be miserable and so will that innocent child. just make sure you think this allllll the way through. you still have time. AND I DON'T NECESSARILY MEAN ABORTION! i just mean, you still have time to CHOOSE alternate routes. and i am most certainly pro-choice.
God bless you.
2006-08-18 04:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by sexy law chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he leaves town, he is still legally responsible for your child. Sounds like he is less then a man if he is willing to run from his problems.
Have a DNA test done immediately after the birth. Have him legally declared the father then go to court and get a court-ordered child support payment. If he fails to pay it, they will haul his *** to jail.
Good luck.
2006-08-18 02:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have all the information you need about him ....full name, social security number, address, addresses and phone numbers of family members ... so you can be prepared to sue him for child support.
Then tell him goodbye. You and that child deserve to be treated better than that. If you won't be able to take care of the baby, please contact an adoption agency who will help you find a loving home for the baby.
2006-08-18 02:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Wisdomwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him and if he leaves town the he his not worth your time! He will be the one that loses in the end because you will have a beautful child to spend your life with and he will have a child that hates him for leaving! If he leaves it is his lost not yours! Good luck and congrats!
2006-08-18 04:59:35 · answer #11 · answered by sweet_kaylie_on_the_way 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋