i love my bf to death..but my personality is really ugly .. im a jealous type of person..and the weirdest thing about me is that im m ost jealous of my bf;s sister.. if some girls talked to my bf or something i wouldtn get as mad at him laughing with his sisters.. i do not know why.. but ive been with him for a year..and i cannot stand them.. i mean i always have to act like someone im not around them like..pretty high class clothes and i hate that and i cant tell my bf that i cant act myself around them.. and i keep on thinking if i marry him.. i know some times i will get jealous that he has to do things for them.. i mean i dont mind but it drives me crazyy..why am i jealous over his sisters.. what is wrong with me.. morally i m dumb..but i cant stop this jealousy..cuz i know one day it will really be a big deal.
2006-08-17 19:09:35 · 9 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jealousy comes from someone having something that you want. You probably want the type of relationship with your BF as he has with his sisters; Not in a perverted way, just in closeness. You're just going to have to realize that what you have with him is special, just in a different way. His sisters are his sisters because they were born that way, you're his GF because he wants you to be.
Familial love is different than romantic love, but you're trying to make them equal. It's like comparing apples and oranges. You have the right to hate them because they're stupid girls, but not to get angry at him for fulfilling his duty as a brother.
2006-08-17 19:34:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to just get over yourself. His sister was in his life before you were and she's family. You're not. If him being around anybody else but you drives you nuts, you should probably get some counseling because chances are, unless the rest of the world is obliterated in some freak meteor shower or something, you're gonna have to share him. Are you an only child by any chance? Also, why can't you act like yourself around them? If your boyfriend loves you for who you are, chances are that his family will, too. Don't obsess too much and just relax. They're just people! Don't give them the power to make you crazy!
2006-08-17 19:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to resolve this issue ASAP if there is to be a future between you and your b/f. Surely he realises that you are not yourself around his sisters, seems that you feel inferior to them for some reason. Need to address some self esteem issues and face the fact that regardless of your relationship he will always be related to his sisters. Dont cause him to choose between you and his family especially when there is no major reason to do this. Accept them as an extension and unless you are living with them you are only going to come across them every so often. You dont have to love his family or even like them, show maturity and tolerate them
2006-08-17 19:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love 'em or leave 'em...you have no choice but to live with the fact that his sisters will be forever part of his life. Face it. And ask yourself why would you get jealous over his sisters. Try spending girl-time with them, you might just get along well. Make some effort of liking his sisters. I'm sure your bf will really appreciate it. Unless their a bunch of evil bitches. But if they hadn't been bad to you, why the hostility?
The world is a good place to live in. Try fitting in. =)
2006-08-17 19:16:50 · answer #4 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to look inside and see where this problem stems from did you se something you didn't like? why are you jealous over her? and don't be someone your not for anyone your only hurting your self if he can't except ya the dump his *** and find someone new no one needs that!!
2006-08-17 20:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by munchkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be your self and if they don't like you then it's thier loss..i would be polite to them any way..you don't really want to come between the siblings it will onmly cause more problems..good luck
2006-08-17 19:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gee Whiz!!! Get therapy and get a life.
2006-08-17 19:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your right you need to go buy a life
2006-08-17 19:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea what you are going through, sorry.
2006-08-17 19:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋