what do i do?

Question

i dont no how to trust another guy when im ready to get back out there how doo i no i will not be hurt again how do i tust again and love im scraed i will take all my angery out on someone diffrent cause what my x bf did he messd me up for life and i wish he could see that

Answer 1

I completely understand how you feel. Trust once broken is never given again without some misgivings. You must have been is a real difficult relationship, however, from someone who has been in the same boat, believe me you will meet someone again and it will not be easy, however, you will love again.
Should you meet anyone, and if he is interested in you, be open to him about your previous relationship and see how he reacts. If he is willing to take you on, with all your misgivings and still love you, in spite of it, than you will know. Until then, just do not unload your previous frustrations or misgivings on any new relationship for you might just lose something good.
Being scared of a new relationship is very normal, there is nothing to be ashamed of, it just shows your human side and the fact that you were hurt badly.
I hope that you have ended this traumatic relationship and you have to begin to heal yourself. Get involved in any kind of work - and keep yourself busy and find something that you love to do and do it. Channel your negative energies into something positive and believe me you will see the change in you.
I wish you all the best.

Answer 2

You get up and shake yourself off and learn from the past. Having this terrible experience has now armored you with something powerful. You know what to look for in a guy. As the saying goes 'once bitten, twice shy" in other words you won't make the same mistakes again. take your relationships slowly, take charge of the relationship so you can see where its going. Don't automatically assume that all men are the same, they're not, but if you think that then you will lonely and bitter for the rest of your life. The last thing you want your X to see is that he messed you up, no,no,no....you want to hold your head up high, no matter how hard it may be and go get that other guy. Good luck

Answer 3

without trust there is nothing for a relationship to stand on. you have to accept the fact that you are not in control of what others do or the choices they make. You need to accept the fact that they are gonna do what they want whether you are there or not . You have no control over what happens in life, Just worry about yourself. Ty to be a strong confident woman and you'll find out that it's not so hard after all.

Answer 4

I understand what you're feeling.....I was in a similar situation just the other way around. It took me 2 years until I was ready to trust enough to go out seriously with anyone. I still went out with girls but just to go out. I refused to trust anyone as I didn't want to risk being hurt again. Though time did help and know I'm happilly involved again:-).....So don't totally close yourself away from the world but just keep looking and in time you will find someone that will take care of you the way you deserve, like a princess.

Answer 5

You say you're 13. Do you have a mom to talk with? Whatever your problem is, please dont allow a male to mess up your thinking. Let your mom know that you'd like some support and counseling.

Answer 6

don't just because of one tree, you have given up the whole forest.it is not worth to destroy yrself cos of him or her.yr parent will be worry & sad to see you in such state.

Answer 7

be mature and forget your ex , life is an gift of god enjoy it ,make new friends and look for someone who is honest,cheers

Answer 8

You'll be fine when you find the right person.

Answer 9

love is wonderful..

it's about the guy who you pick that decide the destiny...

Answer 10

to heavy for me