If a man watches his father...?

Question

If while a man is growing up he sees his father be abusive to his mother, is he more likely to abuse? How about if the father is unfaithful, is he then more likely to cheat? Just out of curiosity.

Answer 1

Yes, the likely hood of both result from no respect towards women, and it is a learnable behavior. They have to not want to be that way, and it's alot of hard work.

Answer 2

"If while a man is growing up he sees his father be abusive to his mother, is he more likely to abuse?"
........yes, if the kid admires the abusive dad.
but it could go the other way where the kid decides to be different from his dad because the kid doesn't like or respect the dad.

"How about if the father is unfaithful, is he then more likely to cheat?"
.......yes or no based on same principles as above.

Answer 3

Unfortunately yes.. we tend to imitate our parents.. as far as who we become as adults.. Not always but most of the time yes.. some can see outside of the box and want to be exactly the opposite of the bad role model, but for the most part those that abuse were either abused themselves or watched it.. happen and think thats how to handle anger or that its ok to be unfaithful because well dad did it and mom accepted it..

Answer 4

Well, there isn't a certain rule...My father never smoked or drinked or flirted around and I smoke, drinks and flirts too....!! Again, my 14 year old son is so much straight forward, so much into studies while I started flirting when I was 14 !! We still live in joint family and so much attached to each other but I am not as my father and my son is not as me !!
But yes, I believe that parent's activities sure make a impression on child. For example, a hero in movie will do adventures and meanwhile smoke in style.........so if father is smoking, kid will see him as a hero and try to follow him......

Answer 5

Genetically, should be. He would attain some of his aggressive gestures and all. Unfaithfulness is a whole different thing, it depends on him. No one has the same feelings, feelings change. If he had an unfaithful father, he could change if he wanted.

Answer 6

ACtually, on some Times magazine article about fathers and son, they mentioned something about sons being opposites of their father. IF a father is impulsive, the son will tend to be patient and look for better solutions. An abusive father will lead to a son that has taken abuse and learn to change into a non-violent father. Idk, try finding that article.

Answer 7

I've seen it go both ways. Often children do what their parents do. But I've personally known some people that hated what they saw so much, they made themselves a better person and went the total opposite way.

Answer 8

yes most definitely. He sees it at a norm.
A few years ago I had my nephew over, he was about 6. He asked my hubby, where his girlfriend was...

His father (my brother) is a womanizer.... SO kids learn what they see.

Answer 9

Yes. Kids learn from their parents.

Answer 10

it all depends. he may hate the way he sees him treat his mom etc...and vow to NOT be like that as he grows up.