I have six girlfriends. Few years back, we used to go out, hang out, at times we do overnyts in each other's house and talk til wee hours in the morning. But 3 of them are already married now, the two are getting married, too. If i plan that we meet for lunch or even coffee, they are all unavailable because of their status. It just felt weird that they find fulfillment in getting married. I have a boyfriend but I don't see myself getting married anytime soon. Everybody seemed so excited with the thought of marriage. I personally don't. Being single gives me fulfillment and I want them to realize that.
2006-08-17 18:43:10 · 11 answers · asked by jen_good girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Or maybe you want yourself to believe that?
2006-08-17 18:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throughout the years, I have learned that marriage and especially having children changes friendships from childhood. Being single allows individuals to explore the world freely and frees up much time with friends. Unless you live with your boyfriend, you do not share assets and responsibilities with him like you would a husband. It is easier to leave a relationship that is not on a marital status. Generally speaking, your girlfriends have more of an obligation to their husbands than with their friends. Some find comfort in knowing that they will spend all eternity with someone they cherish while others rather not be so tied down. Although you and your friends do not share the same view, I would not suggest convincing them that the single life is the way to be and vise versa. Do you resent the fact that they don't have as much time with you as they use to? That is what this sounds like. Wait til children comes along, it will make them even more unavailable.
It is normal to feel some disappointment when time changes and you miss the good old days. The question is are you changing with the time?
2006-08-18 01:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change overtime.. regardless in their status or personalities.. you just have to face the fact that they have many other commitments to meet after they're married. You girls can still keep in contact even though its difficult to meet up.. a simple hi or hello (phone or email) would definitely make their day. Although there are no more giggles or hair twirlings while talking about boys (hehe) you can still relive the moments by saying.. hey u still remember the time when... Treasure the friendship and it will last forever.Good luck and say hello to your friends for me...
2006-08-18 01:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with you being single is more freedom, though and because I am married! If you find you are comfortable staying single, don't bother make them realize. They will or they will not realize that, but you enjoy your status now!! There is plenty of time left for making a mistake.
2006-08-18 02:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don' t have to prove anything to them. If you are happy where you are in life, be happy. But by single you are going to have more free time than your friends. Don't give up on them they will be free eventually to hang with you, but you might want to find some single friends for when you need them. Just remember that your married friends are going to have less time when they get kids. But as a bonus you can spoil them and give them back.
2006-08-18 01:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by Cassandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to change for others but remember other won't change for you. Maybe they even view you as interferrence now in their married life. Be their friend and not a Yippie grouppie..
2006-08-18 02:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by boom_ady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your reply is in your question itself...!!
You said that you do not want to get marry so soon right ? So, it's you who is going away from them and not they.....What if you too were married?? Put yourself in their shoes and than complain my dear friend !!
2006-08-18 02:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think ur thoughts are right maybe u can contact ur friends to the feedback from them after marriage how they feel .
2006-08-18 01:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by santhosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
up 2 u !
if being single is better than being a wife..
so, pick that !
2006-08-18 02:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by freaky_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing is happening to me but unlike you i wanna get marraid but im just not ready yet
2006-08-18 01:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋