to talk???

Question

oh,im a cool guy, in fact i got a lot of friends, but got a problem, when i get to a new place where i dont know anyone, its really hard for me to talk to people, i dont know how so start a conversation, i usually dont talk just stay there without saying anything, and ppl usually cuz of that thinks im arrogant!! can u help me and give me some tips to iniciate a conversation? i think is beacuse i have some problem with my selfsteem :(...ad is worse when i have to talk to a girl!! plz some tips :(

well thank you seriously, thnx god no1 made a stupd joke about it, there is always a moron that does that

Answer 1

Growing up, I was so shy, it was awful. I felt very self conscious and it really stood between me and life. It started small, but I actually started to "act" vs be myself because I felt more comfortable pretending to be confident than feeling confident. With time, the transition occurred whereby I was no longer "acting" but rather interacting. More than anything, listening to people and asking them questions, especially if you're new in the district there are lots of questions you may have. If your eyes meet someone else's eyes, smile and say hi and then when the person smiles back, you can tell them your name - and ask a question about the district....practice this in store line ups, like at WalMart or at the bank...just little conversations here and there. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Learning the social skills of life is rough at first but with lots of practice it will get easier as time goes on. Most people find the weather a good ice breaker to start with, its so general that most people can identify with it. Don't make the mistake of talking politics or religion it gets people real upset! Stay as general as you can and make little jokes in regards to the general statements like if it keeps raining out I'm going to start saving on gas and start swimming to work. A good ice breaker also is asking people real genuine how they are feeling. Everyone likes to unload about how their day went most always. Always be compassionate toward their feelings especially if it is a woman! Women love sensitivity. Anyway before you know it, you'll be a regular socialite. Everyone will always want to come and talk with you because you are so easy to talk to. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hi,

For more tips on how to get people to talk to you and how to converse with people, I suggest that you read How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Alternatively, you could do what my friend did. I had him come up with a mental checklist of questions to ask.. and they go in the form of FORM..

F-Family.. so how many people are there in your family
O-Ocuppation: What do you do for a living? Why did you choose to go into this line?
R- Recreation: Do you have any hobbies? WHat do you do in your free time
M- Money: What is your work like? Gee, you must be earning alot of money!

All you need to do is ask the questions and then wait for them to answer.. and then.. JUST LISTEN ;)

A man talked to his plane companion and when he alighted the flight, he told his wife he met the most interesting guy on the plane! Truth was, he did 80% of the talking.. the other guy just asked questions and listened intently.

Good luck.

Answer 4

try lines like
"great party, huh?"
"didn't you go to Washington High School? No? Oh, well you have a twin!"
"You look just like one of my neighbors/ a celeb/ my best friend's girlfriend ect"

most importantly, relax, and have a good time! People go to parties to have a good time with the other people there, and that's what they expect from you!

Answer 5

My boyfriend has that problem as well. I suggest, you get therapy. Apparently you have an Anxiety disorder.

Answer 6

http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/72.cfm

Answer 7

it is not your fault.the people from different places have different way of approaching the newcomers.try to study their culture and you will know how to get their sympathy.