I feel like i am hollow. All I can ever feel nowadays is grief and anger. I just can't cry it out, i reall CAN"T. A girl loves me and I love her, but I can't feel simple joy or happiness, so how can I feel love? tell me that. Tell me why can't i feel my love for her. WHY??? I love her dearly, but all i feel is just a cold space. Did i do somethig wrong to deserve this?
2006-08-17 17:31:54 · 18 answers · asked by coolcat123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh my gosh, I heard this same thing from my Mom when I was growing up up until now. I'm hoping depression isn't apparent in your family, but that is a sign of it.
If the feeling that you feel is JUST towards your girlfriend, then you aren't as in love with her as you think you are. Tell her the way you feel, maybe your relationship has grown stagnant. If so, (and if you want to salvage it) do new and exciting things together, get out of the "NORM" and the safe place. Make her dinner and have it layed out on the livingroom floor on a blanket with candles and soft music playing to surprise her and to make her feel special.
If you have felt like this other than just with her, you really should turn to God and ask Him to help you. If you have already done that, then you need to be on some type of anti-depressant to help you deal with these feelings until you figure it all out. Medication is just there to assist you with the feelings in your body that you don't understand.
You are concentrating too much on how you are feeling inside your heart. Put happy thoughts in your mind, do your favorite things, take time for yourself to reflect. Concentrate on helping your family members, friends, co -workers. By helping other people, you forget about yourself. An idle mind is the devil's workshop my friend.
I hope everything works out for you. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of love and peace that passes all understanding.
Find your niche. Live, Love and Laugh.
2006-08-17 17:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by blaze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have partially answered the question yourself but you may not realize it. You stated " all I can ever feel NOWADAYS", which means that at one time you were able to feel that which you wanted to. Something changed that. You need to do a memory search and find out what it was that affected you so.
You know that you love your girlfriend and to use those words, " I love her" should tell you that you are capable of loving and having that feeling but for some reason, emotionally you are holding it back. Could it be that you are afraid to feel emotions? Some people are and you would not be alone in this.
Perhaps you are just thinking about this in a wrong way, giving you fear and anger. You say she loves you and you love her, that is feeling, you are sensing love. You say you love her dearly. Think about that. Unless you are just using a word, you are feeling "loving her dearly."
Think about your relationship with this girl. The tenderness you share, the simple joys of being together. Let the beautiful thoughts of "I love her dearly" enter your heart.
2006-08-17 19:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a hold of Ivan Neville's great song, "Why Can't I Fall in Love?" and laugh at yourself until you cough up a lung.
OK the hard truth --grief comes before love. You have to feel grief and clean up all the ashes out of the fireplace and get soot all over yourself and clean up in the freezing river before you can feel love.
I strongly suspect the girl you love is trapped in grief HERSELF now. Just a vibe.
The Iriquois have an ingenious grief removal ceremony, but I've been forbibben to use it or I would try to help you with that. "Catharsis" would solve your problem, too, but it is very, extremely, inexpressibly rare.
Don't worry about the filthy ashes and don't scare yourself with how cold the water is going to be. You'll get through this.
2006-08-17 17:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It feels more beneficial chilly than empty, i guess. it truly is only been so long considering i have had genuine-existence, face-to-face human contact from all and sundry pleasant. i'm thus far previous operating on fumes i do not even recognize how I do it--how I pull it mutually and flow by ability of the motions in any respect. it truly is like I ignore what my heart needs _every time_ and positioned the blinders on and do laundry, get nutrition, and in reality only curl up in a ball as many of the time as conceivable. i'm pathetic at the moment. I _never_ in my worst nightmares imagined both that my man or woman existence might want to be like this, or that the twenty first century might want to be so tousled and failed. No love, no wish, no peace, no relax. No relax.
2016-11-05 01:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by rangnow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. Pray about it and I'll tell you like someone told me (good advice) if you cant cry or get tired of talking about it then write it down. You dont have to let her read it but at least it will be out. You can only carry around so much for so long. Dont ruin what you have over something a lil writing, time, and prayer could heal
kandi
2006-08-17 17:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kandi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u feel like u dont deserve her that u dont deserve to be happy with anyone so let that go tell urself u deserve to be happy and deserve to be loved n to love back something in ur life has made u feel cold inside n its up to u to change that about urself
2006-08-17 17:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you may be severly depressed...... the doctor can find u the right kind of meds for that. Its a serious problem and can only get worse, do some research online and see for urself! Pls see a doctor.
2006-08-17 17:38:40 · answer #7 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
coolcat, you're not very cool if you are experiencing this kind of problem. Believe me when I say that you don't love this girl. If you did, you would not feel empty and you would feel happy. Break up and move on or you will damage both of you with your fake feelings...
2006-08-17 17:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u know what is love? love can not be explain! love just a feel! why u can't to feel love? because your heart not yet fall in love... if u love somebody, ur heart never feel empty! you sure you and your girl are fall in love? if you want to feel your love, just think what can you do for her? anything? sure? if that want to sacrifice another your love thing, can you?
2006-08-17 18:08:16 · answer #9 · answered by aihuko 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ican fill it up for if you wanna try me. Seriously try not to think of it and spend more time with yourself and with things you like most but as i said Im willing to fill it up a chance is what it takes.
2006-08-17 17:39:07 · answer #10 · answered by lloyd c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋