Every day she asks me about the people I work with, what they look like, who I have talked to, ect. Then she checks all my phone numbers in the phone and drills me on who they are. If she even sees a phone number from my old area code she is convinced it is an ex girlfriend, and will call the number to see who it is. If I am late getting home, its "what woman have you been with and the cold sholder for the rest of the night. She is 33 years old, Can anyone offer advice on how to stop this childish jealously other than to actually cheat on her?
2006-08-17 17:30:03 · 15 answers · asked by Glynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Time to ask urself why she's doing this.. what have u done, said ect in the past to make her feel like u are very capable of cheating on her.. did u mess up once and she cant forget and now she's looking for it, cause she thinks u have the tendecy to cheat on her, are u one of these guys that are constantly looking at other woman or making comments about other women when she's around? Do u talk to girls on the internet? Do u during arguements make her feel like shes less of a woman? 99% of women dont just all the sudden wake up one day and start interigating their spouse and going through their stuff, usually things have happened even if they seem trivial to u , their not to her and have made her believe that u could very well cheat on her.. If ur not.. GREAT , find out why she's doing it.. and see if u can work on that , perhaps its just low selfesteem on her part, and if ur not up to anything is it really killing u to answer a few questions? and letting her go through your cell phone? maybe if u just told her what is going on in ur life upfront with out her having to question u , she'd start realizing that ur being on the up and up.. instead of seeing this as a huge irritation u should be alittle fladdered that someone loves u so much that they are actually worried about losing u, trust me, it sucks even more when ur spouse doesnt give a damn what u do , or whom ur with.. shows a lack of caring.. but talk to ur wife, find out whats going on in her head, work on it.. and so what let her go through ur stuff, eventually when everything turns up nothing for so long she'll give up.. ..if u love her.. realize she's afraid of losing u, and find out why she feels this way and do all u can to put her mind at ease about it..
2006-08-17 18:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds exactly like my ex-wife and there is a reason she is my ex. She was so jealous it suffocated our relationship after 10 years and 2 children. I never cheated on her or even thought about it. In the end, she was the one that cheated. she convinced herself so much that I was cheating that she went out and cheated. Try and get your wife to seek help. There are some past experiences why she is like this...maybe abused childhood or unloving parents. Believe me it will only get worse and will not end up good. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 17:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by curtf1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well cheating on her will not make any thing right so forget that idea. I think in time she will get tired of playing FBI and get over it. But, you think maybe u could scare her a little by saying "I haven't done any thing yet but ur driving me to it" or some thing like that. Or would that make it worse? I think time will fix things.
2006-08-17 17:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not cheating, then there's nothing to hide. My wife was like that too, but since i wasn't cheating she can go through my stuff all she wants. But it does get annoying if she calls those people to find out who they are. I would tell her to quit doing that. Also let her know you are not cheating and if she thins she is, she should go ahead and walk.
2006-08-17 17:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by DaNewGuy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is in love with you, so consider yourself lucky! Go out with her on a vaccation with her for 10 days and leave your cellphone at home. Spend more time with her and not with your cell phone, she will be convinced! But do not expect her to change overnight, enjoy her obssession about you.
2006-08-17 17:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by P S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her about it? She obviously has some issues that need to be dealt with. Maybe you should try a family counciler, that should help her talk her feelings out and get you two the advice you need.
2006-08-17 17:37:07 · answer #6 · answered by luv2bactin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to grow up ! In a marriage there is no room for jealously ! If there's jealously there is no trust, if theres no trust there no love. So take it from there.
2006-08-17 17:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to be reassured of ur love. if that does not work, u need to go to a marriage counselor. Or let her be involved in what she likes so that she can develop her own potentials and be less insecure. Tell her u love her and if she loves u,she will have to trust and love herself first.
2006-08-17 17:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by betchie_30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is insecure and u need to tell her to stop it or ur gonna cheat on her bc u cant n wont put up with it and if she is gonna say ur doin it then u might as well do it...why does she think this of u if ur not doin it what set her off in this direction
2006-08-17 17:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need counseling ASAP. There's something that causing her insecurities. It's only going to split you two up and that's not good.
2006-08-17 17:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by mimalmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋