Ok im 13 and i feel like my parents dont love me, there always to busy to look at me, when there home im like there slave, and they pretty much ignore me. My brother just left for collage, i feel like i could run away and never turn back, im all broken up inside,i ve tried talking to my parents and it doesnt work, i have a mentor to talk to , what should i do i have people who would take me in if i came to them, i just wanna get out of this house, what should i do, i really need help.
2006-08-17 17:10:02 · 21 answers · asked by Me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ive been 13 and felt that way...but when u get older, you will realize that your parents are just doing the best job they know how to do to give u and your family the best of everything... and bliv me girl, whatever they made u do, you're gonna benefit it in the future..they love you! bLiv me...and always remember to be patient and always have an open mind!
2006-08-17 17:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 13 very many years ago, and now I have 3 kids older than you and one more that is is way yopounger than you. I felt the same way. My mom had 3 sets of twins by the time I was 8 years old and her husband left her so I was the only one left to really help her around the house....I really felt like a slave!!!! BUT, I did benefit from it. I know how to manage my own home and family. Also I don't know your parent's situation, but nowdays it takes both parents to work to make ends meet. It is hard for parents to find the time to spend with their kids. Parents come home wiped out from work, having to put up with with other people all day long and in some of those situations they have to put up with difficult people all day. Try and find time to talk to them at dinner if you eat together, and if you don't then talk to your mom and see if you can help her plan meals and grocery shop (tell her you want to learn how to do it). See if you two can cook together. As far as your dad goes.....ask him if he needs help when you see him doing any kind of work around the house and see if maybe he'll take you to a show or something. Also suggest watching a movie together as a family.
2006-08-18 01:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by true blu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have talked to you parents about how you feel and they haven't adjusted the way the act then you need to tell your mentor that you feel neglected, have tried to speak with them, nothings changed and that you would like to stay with whomever for the time being. I understand how you feel & there is a hotline with people who can help you just as well. The number for the hotline is 1-800-4-A-CHILD and is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Please call them & get in contact with someone who can support you more than anyone here could..
2006-08-18 00:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want you to think I am trivializing your feelings but I think that anyone who has been 13 has felt this way, so hang in there. As a parent it is hard to hear that your child feels neglected, your parents care more deeply for you then you will be able to comprehend till you become a parent yourself. You should definitely find a mediator to help you discuss your feelings with your parents. Maybe an aunt, uncle, grandparent or guidance counselor. Who ever you choose should be an adult who you trust. Tell them the whole story about how your feeling and ask them if they could help you discuss it with your parent.
You should know that as our hormones change and we enter into our teenage years it is common for people to become depressed. This might be the cause of your frustrations with your parents. You should talk to your guidance counselor at school they are trained to recognize both teenage depression and neglect. I'm sure they would be able to help you sort through your thoughts and emotions, as well as help you form a good game plan with your parents
2006-08-18 00:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by marla m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not too sure about the "people who would take you in" are you like 100000000% sure it would be better? You better be sure, becuase from what it seems, you could still grow up in the house you are in, as long as you stay sane, get an education, and stay healthy. Don't let your mean parents affect your personality! By the time you are 18, you'll be out in college too, and after that you have your whole life to do w/e you want.
But yea, I'm not telling you to totally abandon the thought of the other people who would take you in, Its good to know on some of those days when life is REALLLLLY down in the pits, to know that theres something there that you can escape to.
2006-08-18 00:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your mentor think? Stay put for now - school will start and maybe things will get normal again. I know how it feels to want to run away. Calm down, try and remember school will help, talk to your mentor and give it some time. If you still feel like this in a couple of months, at least your teachers and guidance counselors will be around to listen.
2006-08-18 00:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by puma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy your parents are together =) my parents arent together anymore,, i remember when i was 13 all the way up tilli was 18 my mom would always come home from work and just yell at me all the time abotu leaving a dirty fork in the sink, making me clean up the dog poop, mow the lawns. i wanted to run away too cause i knew there was something better out there for me, but in reality thre isnt. your parents love you no matter what they just dont always show it all the time. it gets better once you start getting out of the house once you get a job and your license then your basically loose when your 18. lol i remember when i turned 18 my mom would tell me i couldnt go anywhere and id be liek "ha you cant tell me what to do anymore im 18!" im 19 now and still have a curfue of 11:30! haha i think its funny at least i dont have to pay rent and im usually not out most nights anyways. Things will get better with time though. just focus on your grades, go to college, stay off of drugs and dont have sex! yikes.
be chipper! =) things will always get better with time =)
-morgan
2006-08-18 00:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheer up, life's much fun!
I'm sure your parents love you, but are just very busy. Forget the "slavery" perception. We all need to chip in with work at the house. Talk to your mentor or somebody else that you trust. Let them help you with how to start the conversation with your parents. Because you need to talk with them in a way so they listen.
By the way: You are far, far from the only 13 year old who feels that way. It's completely normal for that phase in your life.
2006-08-18 00:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ivan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off all 13 year olds feel this way, that is part of growing up. It will get better. Next you need to tell your parents how you feel, maybe they don't know your not getting enough attention. But please don't run away, you will get no were in life by running away. Hope things start to go better for you and good luck
2006-08-18 01:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by twodogg72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey girl, even though you feel that way you should think about trying to leave. im sure your parents love you their just busy being "parents". think about it, if they didnt love you they wouldnt be working to support you, they could be out there doing other things. just hang in there and get the though of running away out of your mind because thats when the real trouble will start trust me.
2006-08-18 00:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by kaleimakana420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋