only for ex's with shared custody of at least 2 kids.?

Question

do you all truely get over your ex? does your ex get jealous now that you found someone you care about? do you feel sorry for your ex? do you feel for Her? do you not like your present love to say anything negative about your ex why? Do your ex do stupid things to make you mad for no reason? Does your ex want you back because you have someone? Do you all talk about your past? Do you feel that your partner now who has no kids or ex' suppose to believe and understand? Do you ever think about wanting them back? Is the conversations only truely about the kids?

Answer 1

1. yes I got over my ex
2. No, he doesn't get jealous, because there is no love between us anymore, that's why we got divorced.
3. No, I don't feel sorry for him, ....why would I???
4. No, I don't feel.....anything for him!!
5. Actually, I don't care, My bf and I don't even talk about him, unless is me complaining he doesn't pay child support.
6. Yes, my ex makes me mad, when he doesn't even call the kids to see how are they doing, and he doesn't even give no child support, but I don't think he does it to make me mad but because he is such a dick
7. No, he doesn't want me back, and I don't want him back either
8. No, I left my past where it should be...behind me, I live my present and look forward to the future!
9. Well, It is very hard to get involve with someone who is divorce with kids, so the ones who have to understand is us, and give a chance the newbies to get used to the all drama.
10. NO!! I love my boyfriend, I would never think in wanting my ex back.
11. I barely talk to my ex, and when I talk to them is just when I answer the phone when he calls the kids and that's it!!

I HAVE TWO KIDS FROM THAT MARRIAGE, DIDN'T WORK AND WE GOT DIVORCED, THERE WAS NO LOVE BETWEEN US, FOR 6 YEARS WE DIDN'T TALK AT ALL,BUT ALL THE ANGRY WE MIGHT FELT IS JUST GONE, WE TALK CIVILIZED, BUT WE KEEP OUR DISTANCE. I LOVED HIM DEEPLY WHEN WE WERE MARRIED BUT 7 YEARS LATER THE LOVE WAS GONE, WE DIVORCED, AND I FOUND A NEW LOVE WHICH 7 YEARS LATER I STILL LOVE HIM DEEPLY, WE HAVE A HAPPY FAMILY AND NOW I KNOW HE IS MY TRUE LOVE, (NOT MY EXHUSBAND)

Answer 2

if u have kids some form of love will always be there no matter how hard you fight it ,never feel sorry ,their an ex for a reason,a current love should have no reason too say anything except if the ex is playing mind games with the other partner,OK wanting the ex back hell no ,wanting the kids /you did say shared custody/ never works my ex kidnapped two of my sons and has nothing to do with the third remember ex there has to be a reason or they would not be one!!!!!!

Answer 3

Lot's of questions love. First, I was married 14 yrs and we have 2 kids. For us, we still connect daily because we share custody (no child support involved so no $ arguements) and arrange who is picking up from school, drs, practices, who gets off work when etc. That connection makes me not miss him like I would if we just quit talking. If my new man said a word about the ex it would be a problem. My ex is a good man, dad, guy. We didn't work out but we respect each other and act like it. For us our talks are about the kids but sometimes other stuff, he is still my friend.

Answer 4

the first year after our seperation was the hardest.. i was very jealous of him, yet never let on about it.. from the moment he left.. it was all business as far as the kids went.. i fell into the late night talks a few times, when things would go wrong with his love life he'd call me as if i was his best friend, but all it did was give me false hope that he would come back, so i had to put an end to him treating me as a best friend only when it was convient for him.. it took me 7 years to get over my x husband, constantly finding excuses why every guy wasnt right in hopes that he'd one day come back .. he was mean when he had a gf, and nice when he didnt.. he played alot of games at the kids expense, so no matter how i personally felt about him i did have to protect them and that was by being strong and being civil but only talking to him if it concerned the kids and cutting him off when he tried to stray away onto any other topic.. i realized over alot of time the person i once loved didnt exsist anymore that they were someone else.. and the person he became, i didnt want back.. and the person i did want back wouldnt of ever hurt us the way he did so to me that person is dead.. do i still love him.. yes.. but i love the person he once was, not the person he is now, and ive come to the realization that i'll always love that person.. and my now husband understands that.. the person i still love is dead to me as if i am a widow mourning over her dead husband. And he understands that.. i wasted to many years on a man that didnt deserve my love or energy.. I use to hate it when people would say anything negative about my x husband even though i knew it was the truth i didnt want to admit to it, and only made excuses for his actions.. but all that did was prolong the inevitable truth of who he really is..not only to me, but to our kids.. since i made the most excuses to them to cover for their fathers behavior, which only caused them more pain in the long run, so ive learned that isnt the right way to go.. I wish my x husband no harm physically.. but i pray that he one day wakes up to his own emotional misery, just so he can feel the pain that he inflicted on me and our kids.. and if they day never comes, i know he will have to answer to a higher being..and he will pay for the hurt he caused..

Answer 5

You need to move on. An ex is an ex for a reason.

Answer 6

WOW too many questions..over-load. Sounds like you still want to be with your ex. I am seperated, and my ex and I are still at the not-on-speaking-terms time. We swap the kids, and have casual conversation, like strangers.

Answer 7

too many questions at once. Get back with her or him/

Answer 8

i would suggest broadening your search and not making your question sooo exclusive... but then again, thats just my opinion