I have asked three questions about my husbands friend who was his ex girlfriend 8 years back, and I just want to ask you guys do i need to worry about a girl who HAS a man and who is excited about mabye getting engaged, calling my husband and wanting to hang out with his family again and his sister? And when she calls he doesn't mention to me that he talked with her......the whole thing confuses me when she has her own man. ( they only broke up because of distance 8 years ago.)
2006-08-17 16:57:56 · 17 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
keep your eyes and ears open but, as soon as he feels untrusted or that you are jealous/being protective, he will pull away from you.
2006-08-17 17:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by mimalmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all that's your husband and ya'll should be able to talk about anything. Second, if distance was the reason then when did she get back within hanging out radius? I would be a little concerned due to the fact that he didn't mention anything to you. And being excited about MAYBE getting engaged isn't good enough. You should suggest that all four of you hang out. If you're secure in your relationship don't sweat it, but if you aren't re-evaluate the whole triangle. Let him know it bothers you, watch how he responds because that will tell you a lot. Never trust a single woman around your man at any time, married women are just as bad, but the single ones are trying to get what you possibly have.
2006-08-17 17:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by ksfinney17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep.. anything that promotes a relationship of any kind between any spouse and the opposite sex where the other spouse isnt included is means for trouble.. the fact that he's hidding things from u (by not mentioning it) only makes it more damaging.. my husband has a best friend that is female.. they were never intimate, and he never goes around her with out me by his side because he never wants anything ever to be misconstude as possibly cheating.. my husband and i have a strict rule that when it comes to the opposite sex, that we are very open about it and if either of us feels uncomfortable with it, that person is history no questions asked, because when ur married u are suppose to put ur spouse before anyone, friends or family.. anything that is possibly damaging or negative to the marriage has to be eliminated .. My husband has told his best friend to never tell him anything that he cant tell me , because we have no secrets from each other.. and im friends with her now as well and ive seen with my own eyes that they are just friends nothing more and i do trust them now .. although my husband still doesnt waiver on the never being alone with her for any reason.. and he doesnt turn to her for a substitute for me as someone to emotionally go to ..
2006-08-17 17:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was 8 years ago and you are with him now. Dont worry so much unless they are spending alot of time out late at night together!!! People can be friends after a relationship. Dont always think the worst!! You may be worrying about something that will drive you crazy and no reason.
2006-08-17 17:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by adoll_35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eight years ago is almost a decade ago. Besides your husband married YOU. There is nothing more sexy than for a woman to have confidence in herself. Right now you are showing you are insecure. Don't let this chick do this to you. There is absolutely NO REASON for her to hang out with you all. It has been 8 years, your husband has moved on and is married and she needs to respect that and stay away. If your husband suggests you all should hang out with her tell him no and he should respect that. If she keeps calling tell your husband that it is not right that he is talking to her. (However, I do wonder how she got his phone number?)
Be strong and let this go!
Good luck!
2006-08-17 17:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your husband had NO business talking to her. If she wants to hang out with the family again, she is trying to get back into the picture. You better watch your man very closely but don't suffocate the dude cause you may drive him to her,,, just watch from a distance....good luck
2006-08-17 17:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dont seem like you have anything to worry about, but you can never be too careful, either she is not telling you that they talked because it was nothing of interest or importance, or it could be because she dont want you to know they talked. just because she is excited about her enguagement dont mean she dont like him, just kinda be on the look out if you dont know how she is. or if you have complete trust in your husband, dont even give it a second thought, but then again, why would an ex call up and wanna gang out after 8 years? its the guessing game of love.
2006-08-17 17:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have issues with it. Your part of a team now, take up the problem with your husband. Tell him how you feel and find your solution to this problem with each other. Isn't that one of the benefits of marriage, work together and get past this.
-NmD!
2006-08-17 17:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and ask your husband about it ! Don't act like your accusing him of cheating or going to cheat .... just tell him that your worried that he might fall back in love with her !!! Hope all goes well !!
2006-08-17 17:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys do things as couples or is the communication strictly only on their part? Express to him that this is making u uncomfortable and see what he says. Sometimes our intuitions are right on target.
2006-08-17 17:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your eyes open and be alert....she may want more than she seems. Who knows...ask your husband. Good luck.
2006-08-18 04:35:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋