I'm in a relationship with a man who has an ex wife n a son in the Phillipine, I'm not pinoy so I can't understand their conversation or text. When they talk I don't like 2B in the same room it hurts me coz he would ask me 2B silent. He don't want her to no about us b/c he claim she can take her son n hide or run. I understand how much his son means 2 him considering we are gonna have 1 ourself. But now that their annulment is final he claim that a group that's against annulment in the Phillipine is filing some kind of petition against his annulment so is not really final. I don't no. He had told me that his relationship with this women was over b4 I even came in2 the picture so I don't really feel bad but sometime when I see what she text him or once when I sat there n listen to how he talk 2 her it doesn't seem over. Like there is still something there I mean I understand if there is b/c she's his baby mother. He tell me I'm the one he want 2 b w/ wat should I believe my gut or him?
2006-08-17 16:35:43 · 6 answers · asked by Sexy C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you know, from the two letters you asked me to translate, I believe you don't have to be worried about his ex-wife asking him back or anything like that. She is no threat to you. She's made it clear in her letters that she's lost interest in him already, and the only reason why she's still keeping in touch with him is because of their son.
But as for your boyfriend, I really don't know about him. Frankly, it doesn't look like he's leading his ex-wife on based on the two letters I translated. I think that it could be a possibility that he doesn't really give you the details of what's happening between him and her because you're pregnant and he doesn't want to stress you out or anything.
2006-08-17 20:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by vivere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough nut to crack. At least from the communications point of view; I cant speak to the involved relationship factor because I have nothing to offer you there. But, regarding gettng someone to open up, and having a second language and hidden references to deal with, I can give you the benefit of my own experience.
My current wife would not open up to me about how she felt, what she thought, or what she wanted. She was veiled about her many friendships at work with men, most of which I knew were harmless--just friends (which they really were, I finally realized, but this was when we were first married). The one area where she was most reluctant to talk was about sex. One night I sat down with her and interviewed her as if I were a journalist (which had been) and from a list of questions asked her directly the things I'd been wanting to know. She answered and I prodded her when the answer seemed incomplete. I learned a good deal from that. We still do not have very open communication, but it is better than it was. I think her reluctance came from an abusive first husband who she did not share much with about things for fear of being beaten, especially about her three children, about whom she was the most guarded with me at first.
Previously I was married to an American woman who had been married to a Puerto Rican man. Her daughter, who lived with us when she wasn't at college, was, of course, half Puerto Rican. They talked in Spanish when they wanted to be secretive or private, made references to things I couldn't know and even, I realized, talked about me right in front of me. This was a tough one, but I did get it curbed by either making remarks to them, sometimes snide, and by talking to my wife. Once the daughter came to accept me this problem also lessened.
Good luck with your involved family problems with the wife, much less your getting answers to your questions. Sometimes it gets just messy. Sorry.
2006-08-18 00:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, my husband use to tell me the same about his ex.... that he can't tell her about me because she won't let him see his son, bulls... Finally I have to confront her because she start flirting with him (even having a boyfriend)....This almost cause me the divorce (yes, we where married and he don't want her to know). but finally everything clear off, But you know I still don't understand my husband atittude
2006-08-18 00:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i read ur latest post before answering this one...
as what i have read, dante is a bad man...
he even wants his wife to have sex with other man..
u should get to know him more... if he does those naty things to the mother of his own child whats more with you??
2006-08-21 02:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by cutiepie29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get out of the relationship. if its so stressing find yourself another guy who's single and unattached and willl appreciate u.
2006-08-17 23:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her love and understand him
2006-08-21 04:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋