in a marriage with the same man for the second time trying to make it work just not cutting it i try and he says he is happy i can not stand him i need out and he holds on stonger but it turns into more controlling and no space at all i have not done anything wrong just hates everyone i talk to even my mom. i want out but don't know how to say it
2006-08-17 16:34:31 · 15 answers · asked by angie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Say I want out.... blah blah blah
2006-08-17 16:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why say anything? It's actually quite pointless with a control freak. Do what I did. I rented an apartment, changed my mail, got everything in order and ready and when I had it all ready, I moved out while he was at work and never went back. It didn't require any words at all...he got the message.
2006-08-17 23:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell him he will hold on stronger in a way you need to be cruel to be kind i wouldn't tell him my plans you'll just make the time before you move hellyou'll drive him crazy because he probably loves you. Move withhout him knowing then if you want call from another phone he can't trace and say goodbye.
2006-08-17 23:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're brave enough to be on your own, you first have to find the courage to tell your man you're leaving him. He deserves the truth, however much it will hurt him. As the saying goes, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Go break his heart for the last time. He'll get over it.
2006-08-17 23:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, why did you go back to him if he is so lousy? Were you bored or something?
He only controls you because you let him. You are a grown up and can leave of your own free will any time.
2006-08-17 23:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by mightyart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both have bigger problems than just what you have described, and , should be working on them, instead of bailing out!
You are confusing the problem with your potentially 'best' ally!
You two have a co-dependancy that you both should overcome, THEN, you both can move on!
2006-08-17 23:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, why should you allow yourself such unhappiness just because he's happy? He is selfish or he would not make up so unhappy. Get your family with you and tell him, you need their support and do not marry him again!
2006-08-17 23:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my dear,it hurts!but if you really feel youll gonna be out with that relationship then go think about it many times,ask yourself why you really want it then tell him what's on your mind and what you feel.
2006-08-17 23:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by richel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am drunk and at work right now, but i figure that you should tell him that it didn't work the first time and now its not working again, tell him you want out and he failed, thats it
oh god, if i had a dollar for everytime i pressd the del key right now i would be a milionare
2006-08-17 23:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need counseling - to help save your marriage.
The grass may be greener on the other side - but it still needs mowed!!!
2006-08-17 23:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by addicted2stamping 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God girl and even if you get out your still married to him because you did at the altar you said till death do us part. so make it work we woman know what to do to make it work.
2006-08-17 23:42:28 · answer #11 · answered by cute_girl_shantie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋