Does anyone know why a man would talk about everything else that went on during the day BUT the fact that his exgirfriend/friend (from 8 years back) called and they had about a 10 min conversation? And if a man says simply "It was not a big deal" what is he really saying?
2006-08-17 16:31:53 · 35 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either you let it go
OR
find the samurai sword from the attic and let him have it?
2006-08-17 16:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by protos2222222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in this situation not to long ago.
I was on the sky strain and my cell phone rang. It was a girl asking for my husband, I told this person that he was at home, and she hung up. She was a bit rude to me. So I let it go. A few minutes later I waiting to call home (as he was getting a phone call) I asked him if a girl has called in the last few Min's he said yes it was his ex. I than went and told him about the phone call, he said that he was going to talk to her.
I don't mind if his ex calls because with this ex they have a child together. Since we have been together (almost 7 yrs) not once has he been able to see his first daughter (it's not because of me) So now they are going to be writing and talking to each other a lot more. And I think that is great.
But if there was no child involved, I would be asking a lot of questions?
2006-08-17 16:48:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been following your questions with great interest but now feel compelled to add my thoughts. Your husband still has feelings for this girl. This is as clear as the sunlight. He knows it, she knows it, and you know it, whether you admit it to yourself or not. Perhaps these feelings are not realistic, perhaps they hark back to happier, freer times past, but if so, these can be the worst kind. There is no defense against a fantasy. Your husband is lying about this conversation with his ex, perhaps because he doesn't want to fight about it. But you have to ask yourself, what else is he hiding? You are right to be worried. She is a lot younger than you and has the advantage of the fantasy factor. My advice: watch him like a hawk.
2006-08-17 16:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with him carrying on a 10 ten conversation over the phone with an ex-girlfriend. Now if he met her at a bar for a couple of hours and didn't tell you, that's another thing. But they were friends, and he MARRIED YOU, so your the one he wants to be with!
2006-08-17 16:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dorothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably telling the truth. It's no big deal to him but he knows you will make a big deal out of it. Most guys I know normally do that to avoid awkward questions from their current girlfriend/wife.
You know him better than anyone else in this site. =)
2006-08-17 16:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had the right reaction when you found out. Unfortunately, he saw the reaction you had, so he will probably NOT tell you the next time it happens because of it. Which means you will always be wondering. You will start to badger him about it more because you are suspicious and have a right to be. This will bother him. He will then turn to his ex to complain about you, thus bringing them closer. In other words, nip this in the bud!
2006-08-17 16:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it just was so unimportant that it didn't cross his mind. 10 minutes isn't what I'd call a long conversation. Just long enough to say hi, how are you, what you been doing, just wanted to check in. Personally, I never care who my hubby talks to or for how long. He married me and anyone else is just what made him the man he is.
2006-08-17 16:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be looking into things way to much, although it was wrong of him not to mention it. Maybe he didnt think that it would bother you or that she wasn't important enough to mention. Or maybe you have a reason to be suspicious. Either way talk it out with hubby, tell him that him not telling you made you feel uncomfortable, either way just talk it out with him you may be turning something small into something big.
2006-08-17 16:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by hearts_bleed_dark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are extremely simple beings. I think he is being completely honest with you when he said it was not a big deal. It meant so little to him that he didn't even mention it.
Good luck!
2006-08-17 16:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he knew you would be upset. There is absolutely no reason he should be talking to her. Block her number, so she can not phone him. Do this without him knowing it. "No big deal" mean "hey we haven't slept together yet, so back off and let me see if I want to have a fling".
2006-08-17 16:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋