I've been friends with Heather (all names have been changed) for 9 years. The past few weeks shes been spending more time with Jenni. The 3 of us have been friends for appx. a year and a half. I havnt hung out with heather for at least 3 weeks. Shes been lying to me for at least a month and im getting sick of all of this. Me and Jenni have been talking and agree that we have to talk to Heather about A LOT of things but i still dont know what to do! I love both of them (as friends) and this is the worst way to end a 9 year relationship.
What should I do about Heather????
2006-08-17 16:26:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Confront her, but nicely, just say you feel like you've been a bit out of the loop, abit left out, & feel like she doesn't want to hang out with you as much & you feel like she hasnt been totally honestwith you... Ask her & say we've been friends for so long, please just be honest if there's some reason you've been acting like this, or am I going loco, or was it all just unintentional? I think you're better off just approaching the subject head on.... Especially if you have been friends for so long & it's a friendship you value... Good luck..
2006-08-17 16:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should confront her with her behavior. Tell her she is hurting you. and you don't like the way she is treating you. There could be something going on in her life that has nothing to do with you and she doesn't know how to handle it. Do not think I would go 2 on 1 this may seem threatening to Heather.
2006-08-17 16:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by doicu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an issue i had in college, although the friendship was not as long. I ended up facing my fears and just asking what was going on, making sure I was accusatory. My friend was completely honest when I asked. Turned out she just didn't know how to discuss it with me so she was trying to avoid it altogether. Facing it hurt a lot, but not having to wonder was better than having nagging questions. The down side was the connection fizzled.
2006-08-17 16:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as time gose by some people change. It seams that heatherr may have change and isnt who she once was. I would expalin to heather how you feel. It may be that thing has change and its to much to keep the friendshiop
2006-08-17 16:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she's been lying. There might be some reason behind it. Go frank to each other. It is always much more harder to keep a relationship than to start a new one.
2006-08-17 16:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh.... kids.
Put your mind into your studies a bit more than this.
Life is a lot harsher out there in the real world.
Be prepared.
2006-08-17 16:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Kanda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. listen.. just be strong.. hu sed dis had to end.. i had sort of the same prob a week bak.. i spoke it out with ma friend.. n now we are better friends than we were.. just takl it out.. dont get in to fights.. tell her wat u really feal. if u want get another close friend to help u with it.. knok some sene in to her.. n then.. everything will be fine.. take it easy.. all da best
2006-08-17 16:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by sungi_rulez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having the same problem!!! what i did was confronted Lola** (names have been changed as well!) and told her how i felt about the situation and what i wanted to tell her. well she was at Erica's** house that night (who i was having a problem with because Lola was always at Erica's.) and they were on MSN IM. well when i got on i told them and it started a fight. like a major fight! so i told her that our conversation was going no where and we eventually worked it out. my advice is to confront her and tell her your feelings about it and how your friendship needs to be saved! i hope that i helped you out!
2006-08-17 16:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why end it, give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she's got problems she's too embarressed to talk about. Sit her down and tell her how you feel and how much you care about her and your friendship.
Good luck
2006-08-17 16:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋