ok my best friend in whole wide world told me that she was a lesbian and it kind of creeps me out becuse I think the times when we slept in the same bed , changed clothes togeter, danced together and this is just as friends. and now that is think a bout it like when we tried on clothes together she looked at me weird when we were changing and also my reigon isn't too big on lesbian or gays. what do i do it creeps me out!?
2006-08-17 16:16:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well I would hope all that time you were best friends you had built up some sort of trust and understanding within eachother...obviously she told you because she wants ure support...if you can't give it to her...then stop calling ureself her friend...don't think about the past in terms of what she might have been thinking...just remember how you felt...and how close you two are/were...she really needs you.
2006-08-17 16:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should support her, because lesbian or not, she's still your best friend. If she wants to hook up with you though, then tell her no, because you don't want to miss up your friendship. Don't tell her it's because her choice to be gay creeps you out. If she still wants to hook up with you, and can't accept your decision to say no, then maybe it's time for you to get a new best friend. Other than that, you should just forget that she even told you that she's gay, and realize that she's still your best friend, and that you always want her to be. You guys should just keep on doing what you're doing now, but if you don't feel comfortable anymore sleeping in the same bed with her, let her have your bed, and you sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor. And if you don't feel comfortable with undressing in front of her anymore, then just ask her if you can use separate dressing rooms or take turns in the bathrooms, that way, you can seem surprise when you see each other's outfits, and tell each other how good that outfit look on them. I hope my advice helps you.
2006-08-17 16:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Milya F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard but you will have to be honest about your feelings. First though you need to figure out just what those feelings are and why you feel that way. You also need to realize that this isn't something you can change about her, and what that means to you. If you still want to be friends then when you talk to her you cannot attack her. Also keep in mind that she is the same person that you have had fun with all this time. Really nothing has changed, except that she is being honest with you and herself. It was probably a lot harder for her to tell you then for you to hear it.
2006-08-17 16:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by marla m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about where you want yall friendship to go now for-real but if my friend told me she was a lesibian. I still would stay friends with her because I love her her. Just think if she was your daughter. No matter wut you would still love her but all that stuff about yall trying on clothes is nothing majorly unless she tried to HIT on you but most lesbians don't hit on their best friends who are st8. But if you feel you are not confortable then I think yall really need to talk 1st.
2006-08-17 17:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by CaRaMel KiSs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep thats a problem.......I feel for you........I have a friend who is Bi, not that she'll admit it, but I have a hell of a time getting her to keep her hands off me and whenever I am talking to a guy in a bar she manages to ask him if he'd like to sleep with both of us.......which pisses me off, thats when I walk out and let her find her own way home!
2006-08-17 16:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of my oldest friends came out to me and i used to think that every time we changed clothes and slept over each others houses that it was all a way to get closer to me in a intimate way and when i asked her about it she was like hell no and that i wasn't even her type so i say just ask her about it you might surprised she might not even be remotely interested in you in a romantic way
2006-08-17 17:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by greenluxi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta tell her how you feel and let her know you know my body belongs to me and I would appreciate if you just treat me like a friend no more than that. I'm straight and I don't want to wreck our friendship sooooooooo....OR you can just cut the friendship and kick her lesbo self to the curve. whichever dudette.
2006-08-17 19:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You honestly speak to her about this and if she agrees you stay or you leave. Best is to leave her now and be friends from outside. This is the time for the decision..
2006-08-18 03:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by drsuria_cbe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your best friend in the whole world, you will accept her no matter if she is gay or not. my best friend and i used to kiss each other goodbye....but that didnt mean we were lesbo, the point is, when you are good friends like that, you shouldnt judge them for the way they are.
2006-08-17 16:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're her true friend you will still accept her for who she is but tell, how you feel. If not I guess you two should should make your part of friendship. (best friend wise) good luck!
2006-08-17 16:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by Hello Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋