Recently for some reason my b/f of 5 1/2 yrs. suggested we split-up but live together??????Now why would I want to be stuck cleaning up after him,cooking for him,watching our 2 yr old son 24/7...all the usual stuff with NO fringe benefits while he roams from one whore to the next under MY roof I pay for(he un-employed for last 5 yrs.) he has been working for 90 days and acting like king sh#t of Terd island,I never made him beg when I was the one working but he has left me home smokeless, cashless,etc...when I am upset after being home all day with no smokes and a 2 yr. old non-stop son,he screams at me and TRIES to make me feel guilty somehow.I always made sure he had smokes,a few bucks in his pocket,I even paid to have internet hooked up while I was working,FOR HIM,and I have learned to HATE the internet BECAUSE of HIM...he uses the internet for porn and "emotional" affairs???? I will appreciate input from ANYONE!!!Peace,Love&Happiness to All!
2006-08-17 16:13:34 · 24 answers · asked by xaviersmother2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
from the way you say it, your man sounds like you are housing a PARASITE...... its about time to clean-up...
2006-08-17 16:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by (◕‿◕✿) 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should read what you wrote. It's easy to see you are not receiving anything from the relationship but you are still in it. Why? Is the relationship doing more for you or more to you? Maybe you like feeling like a martyr. Maybe you think you are self-sacrificing when really you might be self-seeking. Obviously, you have your reasons for staying with him and taking care of his needs. Who is taking care of you and your son? Doesn't sound like he gives a damn about either of you. The internet is not the problem... the problem is you are not standing up for yourself. He wants all the conveniences of having a housekeeper and none of the inconvenience of having a relationship. Sorry Sweetie, you've got nothing.
2006-08-17 16:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am young...1...but to me it seems like he wants you there so that he can mess around with you/have sex and so that u can take care of him. If he is using the internet for "emotional" affairs and porn then get the service cut off...and if he wants it that bad then HE can pay for it. He should be showing some kind of appreciation in some kind of way since he has been unemployeed for 5 years and since you're in the house taking care of YA'LL son. Ya'll are NOT married and you do not have to put up with the bullshit...let him do what he do since he dont wanna be with you, but tell him that he aint stayin in your house...hey...you can do bad all by yourself girl.
2006-08-17 16:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by chocolate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been providing him with the easy life!!!
Kick him out now!!! If he wants to stay then tell him he gets a job and you both go to counselling!!
You need to get some counselling to figure out why you will put up with a guy who has continually cheated on you!! Also porn is and addiction and is not healthy for any relationship and he needs to get help for that as well.
First things first is to kick him out and then take the steps to repair your relationship if you still want him. Maybe check out some DR. Phil books to get u started.
2006-08-17 16:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by georgie98 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAHA tell him to shove it where the sun dont shine... lol say I DONT NEED YOU HERE so if you want to leave GO... cause were not spliting up so you can see other people yet have me still be your maid and possibly provider.....tell him there are plenty of men out their that will help take care of you and your child and you dont need him but you will make it a point to fill for child support! :) then when he tries to get you back DONT DO IT because thats grounds for cheating if he doesnt get his way he will let you think your getting what you what but in reality he will be out whoring around.
2006-08-17 16:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by peachy101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason he would suggest this seems simple...it is because he expects you to allow it....if you have been suppporting him for this long, and he enjoys not having to pay for anything, and still wants unlimited access to your child, it would make perfect sense to him to continue on in this manner, just with more freedom on his part to "play around". If this is the example you wish to set for your child, go on and do it...if not, then he has to either completely turn around RIGHT NOW, and get a job, get responsible, and commit to you, or he should be firmly escorted out the door.
2006-08-17 16:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by dolly3371 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some men get comfortable with a woman being there all the time. dont do it! it wont feel right and like you said you'll be stuck with all the cleaning and cooking especially if you dont have a job, he'll fell as if your his made. trust me i know this from expeerience. stand clear and dont fall for his B.S. although i know it may be hard right now, considering the fact that your still madely in love with him but be strong.
2006-08-17 16:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly...yeah, you're rather short for a guy yet i've got seen lots shorter, so which you at the instant are not that undesirable once you're happy with your top, nevertheless, then it relatively is no longer proper if different persons think of you're short (i'm 5'8 and that i do unlike being so tall for a woman)
2016-10-02 05:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to use you for a housekeeper and babysitter and whatever money you are giving him. You need to think of yourself and get out of that situation. He will use you until you have nothing left including your self esteem if you let him. Find someone better because you deserve better.
2006-08-17 16:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by pedwards51558 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady,
Throw the loser out. Get a job. Quit smoking. You have a kid fer chrissakes. Step up and do your best to make an independent life for yourself and child.
2006-08-17 16:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by badslaw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if it is time for you to move on. He is using you is why he would want to break up and live together. Hey that way he has no rent, but a place to say, no money for food, but food to eat. He wants to have his cake and eat it to. You are a valuable person show respect for yourself, then perhaps you will get respect from him, as it is now you are getting none.
2006-08-17 16:19:55 · answer #11 · answered by doicu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋