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Question

me and my husband slaved away all day a couple weeks ago to put up a fence along our property line on our 35 acres we got and someone pulled up the end post out of the ground! we think its our neighbor because he is known for having arguments over property lines etc. He is probably in his 30's and is a big guy, i'm afraid my hubby and him are going to go at it cuz my husband is mad (and i have to say i am too, it was hard work doing that fence) We looked on the map of the land and we followed the line exactly we did drive on his side a little and maybe he is mad about that. i don't know, he has always been nice to us before. But i really don't want them to start fighting. Any suggestions?

I didn't know he was like that when we were doing the fence, we found out later from another neighbor that he makes a big deal about that stuff.

we both just bought our land it has been surveyed just recently and there are little flags everywhere!

Answer 1

Ok, so you've "heard" that this guy is mean. You have put up a fence that took "blood & sweat" .. and someone has pulled the post. Yup, it's irritating, but you have to look at the big picture. He's been nice to you before, right? Go over to your neighbor & explain the situation & that you drove on his side & that you're willing to fix it. (Come clean, don't have any hidden agenda's with this guy, you don't want legal trouble just because you are mad) If he's ok with that, no problem. If not, let him be mad and fix it anyway (the way it was before - now you're legally ok (i think)) The second thing is, you can't prove he pulled the post, so...let it go. If it happens again, ask the neighbor if he saw anything and question any kids in the area. Just let it be known that you are watching & I'll bettchya it doesn't happen again. You don't want trouble with neighbors, it can be a pain right in the *****

Answer 2

You say you have 35 acres and you think you might have gone over on his side a little. But he's been nice to you both. How about waiting until you both have calmed down and go speak to the neighbor. Be honest. Say that you noticed the post was moved and that you were wondering if you had gone over on to his property. Work it out. I can't imagine thats hard to do with 35 acres and all. If you are going to be neighbors for a long time it would make sense to live in peace.

Answer 3

I'd try my very best to make better friends with him. Invite for lunch / dinner with his wife. Fun stuff. He may chill out when he sees that you're not out to fight / hurt him. Because, honestly, you're not.

Kinda "play stupid". Go over with your husband and have your husband come across just puzzled, not upset (in case your neighbor did do it, you want it safe for him to admit it).

"Joe, I'm stumped as to what happend to that fence post. I hope I didn't upset anyone. I thought it was a good idea. See, we've been having the problem of ________ and I though a fence was a good solution."

If the guy did do it, and doesn't fess up soon after that type of non-accusational conversation, then he's definitely not trustworthy. Hopefully, that's not the case.

Answer 4

communication, you get more with honey than vinegar.i hate fences ,but i see the need.maybe a gate for him would do the trick,just ask,don't fight and if you do,do it in court,why get dirty.i had a friend that a neighbor built a fence a little on her property and she found out from a lawyer that if she took it down she would be liable for what ever happened on his property;like some stealing his boat.sometime people have trouble with changes,especially country folks.my neighbor gave me a hard time and would not help me do any thing, then one day he just decided i was ok.

Answer 5

Talk to your neighbor. Just be polite and see if there might have been a misunderstanding.

You might say something like, we just put up our fence and it looks like we'll need to adjust it. Want to help? Or have you seen any kids running around who might have pulled it out? Follow it up with, we tried to be sure we followed the map so that we'd get it right.

I'm sure if you are humble, that it should all work fine. :-)

Answer 6

First,get a surveyor's lay of your property line.Then put the fence back up-on your side of the line-and set up a camera to see who tears it down;or simply go ask what is wrong and how it can be fixed without everyone getting their panties in a bunch.

Answer 7

get the plat map from the hall of records in your city have them clearly mark the lines of your property in comparison to his document the damage with the police department give your suspicions to them and let them handle it do Not get in a fight with him he isn't worth going to jail over if it was indeed him let the law dispense the punishment because if he did it they'll will make him pay to fix it where as if your hubby picks a fight with him and get caught he will most likely get a find and could be held responsible fro any medical bills that stem from the fight hmmmm get the fence repair paid for or have to pay medical bills seems like a no brainier to me

Answer 8

Ask the neighbor if it was his doing. Show him the documents proving the matter if he is questioning your property line. Monitor fence and situation carefully. Notify local law enforcement if necessary or if you feel threatened.

Answer 9

get the land surveyed again...then make copies of the survey and laminate it and post it on the fence, THEN if it happens again take legal action and post a sign that says PRIVATE PROPERTY and if he touches the fence he can be prosecuted.

Answer 10

Just ask him if he pulled it out and why? It there is a dispute over land ownership have it surveyed professionally while both parties are there to observe. Then if there is a problem after that you will have to take legal actions against him.