My husband had an affair with a very good friend of mine. It went on for 2 years. Am I going to be held financially responsible as well as him, we've been married for 15 years, and have two children ourselves. She is the single parent of 2 children now. She does not receive support for the other because she refuses to say who the father is.
2006-08-17 15:31:55 · 32 answers · asked by melissaj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YES! IF you stay married to him!! He MUST pay support. And if you stay married to this idiot, it comes out of your money too.
2006-08-17 15:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the laws in your state, but your family income will probably be checked as well as the other mother and then a family court will decide how much your husband will have to pay in child support. Do you work yourself? Make sure that your income is not added to his when they are doing the paperwork! Also since she does not receive support from the other she must have some type of income. Anyway what are you still doing with a man that carried on an affair for 2 years, especially with a so called very good friend of yours, I sure hope that you at least put her to the curb!
2006-08-17 15:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by KO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if the laws from state to state vary . . but in PA, the only person responsible for the payment of the child support is the mother or father (depending on which one is receiving the money) . . my husband pays support for a child from his first marriage . . only his income is used to determine what he pays . . I have no legal claim, etc to that child so my income is NOT considered . . you will need to check the support guidelines for your state . . you can do it online or speak to an attorney
On another note, if you stay with him after his having an affair for two years, I feel sorry for you. Even tho you have been married 15 years, that is a long time for him to be doing you wrong. I would divorce him and take HIM for child support! Nail him to the wall.
2006-08-17 15:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laws may vary from New York state, but here the father is morally and financially responsible for child support only for the child he actually fathered. You're not technically liable, but in reality his financial burdens almost always become his wife's burden too. All earnings, absent a prenup, are joint property in a marriage - so whether it's child support or he goes out and buys a flashy sportscar, it'll impact the family unit's finances. If you two signed a prenup that gives him the right to maintain finances seperate from the marital budget, then the impact concievably would not fall on your shoulders.
At any rate, I hope you've "settled his accounts" - he done you dirt, woman, and he owes you big time.
2006-08-17 15:42:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with beer and True Blue - about parenting only one's own children. But I will add - unless the person CHOOSES to parent someone else's children. I note that The O'Neill, Duke of Ulster, was adopted into my grandmother's clan by his own choice, and was fostered by that line of descent from Niall himself. Fostering is an ancient and honoured profession, and had obvious merits in past times when early death was a constant. The issue is that the Staat has assumed the mantle of dictating that a person will foster on command, even after it has been proven that the parenting was accepted initially under fraudulent terms. That in itself is a major issue of whether or not that Staat and it elected government, and indeed its allegedly independent instruments as in the courts, have some Divine Right to dictate at whim. Upon this bloodied ground have many civil wars been fought, and will be again in the near future.
2016-03-27 06:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, legally they can not hold you liable, but if you stay with him, in a sense you will be paying support. He will be paying the money, but you will be helping support him.
My husband has a child by a previous marriage. The lawyer told me they can not count my income. But if you think about it I am still paying his child support also, because I help pay the bills, so he is able to pay his child support. So, it really is just the way you look at it. By the way, I am in the state of Georgia, so the laws may be different in other states.
Good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-17 15:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpeachiebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the father of the child he is responsible for child support. There's no way around it unless she has something legal and in writing that alleviates him of his parental rights because the state can hold you responsible for child support even if you don't want to pay. They took a chunk of our tax return to pay off some past owed child support when my husband was out of work. The state's are really looking out for the kids these days. Consult a lawyer if your husband and friend want to modify a child support arrangement. Being married to him, he is ultimately responsible for support, but again, they can come after your joint monies if he falls behind in payment.
2006-08-17 15:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are going to be financially responsible in the sense that there will be money coming out of your household to support your husband's other child. It may not be your money that is being taken for child support, but you may have to contribute more to your own household to make up for the shortfall. There is a child involved who is innocent of the affair that must be supported if the court orders it to be so.
2006-08-17 15:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By virtue of still being married, you will be financially responsible, because even if the support is paid out of "his" salary, that deficit in income will have to be made up somehow, which means paying the support will affect you both.
I sure hate that for you. I'm assuming she's no longer a very good friend.
2006-08-17 15:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to my husband for 3 years and we were together for 6 years. In the time that we got married he slept with my sister in law and we ended up seperating while we were seperated he was seeing a stripper and got her pregnant. she had the baby while we were still married but only seperated. I didnt have to pay for anything for the baby even tho we were married. and I Have finally got the divorce finalized about two weeks ago. And i didnt have to pay nothing for that child he had with her. but he does and DID pay child support for the child threw HIS paychecks. so NO even tho you are married THAT IS HIS BABY NOT YOURS. the child support will come out of his paychecks. BUT LET ME TELL YOU THIS... if he stops working and or isnt working and expects you to pay for the child support i would kick his *** to the curb and tell him this IS YOUR PROBLEM.. YOU cheated you deal with the issues from it. YOU shouldnt pay the child support for him. AND i know people probley have already told you once a cheater always a cheater...well 6 years with one man who cheated on me over 14 times....i finally got smart when my girlfriend told me well yelled at me WHAT R YOU DOING WASTING YOUR TIME WITH HIM you can do better....... and you know what U can too.
2006-08-17 15:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by peachy101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There are laws that protect the 'injured spouse' but he is still financially responsible. However if he puts everything in your name and she can prove it was done to keep the money from the child you can go to jail.
2006-08-17 15:36:47 · answer #11 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋