Was the divorce rate the same back then? (I don't think so)
2006-08-17 15:30:21 · 15 answers · asked by uglyvanity 3 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
The USA has become much more culturally diverse about gender and family issues.
Back then, there was a more standard expectation of what was expected for a husband and and a wife.
Like Dellajoy said, the wife would take care of the children and the house.
People had more children.
The husband would work to provide for the family.
Often the sons would learn the father's profession and inherit his business or farm.
Now, women have less children so they have time to work and take care of themselves.
Schools teach children a profession and then many work for corporations.
Few do the same jobs as their parents.
This way husbands and wives depend on each other less.
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2006-08-19 02:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Eric Inri 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey
I feel that there are two primary reasons.
1) People are marrying for the wrong reasons. The obvious, money, looks, etc. and the not so obvious reasons, sex, and infatuation. There is no foundation to those types of relationships and when the fun fades away they are left with nothing.
Your love should be your best friend first, and it really helps to have a lot in common !!!
2) People do not want to be bothered with working out a problem. They just want it to be perfect or get a divorce and try again. Well ALL couples will have their difficult times and just like you would stand by a true friend you need to stand by your spouse and work on it.
At least until all hope is lost or there is a danger present. Like abuse.
And you know what, You need to change that screen name GF. It is so not you...
2006-08-17 21:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people want too many material things, women going out to work to help finance all these un necessary purchases means that when the husband gets home from work that all the household chores still need doing and couples get overtired. I don't go out to work so when my husband gets home from work my jobs of the day are also finished and we can spend our evenings together doing the nice things in life, it works oerfectly and we are happy and stress free. My husband and I see each other as total equals, each playing our own, but very different part in the marriage.There's a lot to say for the hunter, gatherer way of life, we wouldn't have ours any other way and the most important thing is that we know our marriage is for life - no doubts about that ! We are really happy and love each other totally.
2006-08-17 20:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, it is due to the lack of conviction that is becoming more prevalent day by day. People are not taking responsibilities for the decisions that they make. They stand for nothing, and they fight for nothing. There is so little concern for the welfare of the person that you claimed to love, and I really do think that they think it is love. There is no communication because people are afraid that they might gain another perspective and that will just cause them to think. That right there is is my biggest concern, people being too lazy to think. It is very sad, because there is no other way to experience that ultimate compassion and caring and sacrifice than to be in a marriage. It takes constant nurturing and that is a good thing in the respect that it helps us to continue to care about something else other than ourselves. You are right, it is not like before, and I think that it is only going to get worse.
2006-08-17 17:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by lisa l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think people really get to know one another before they get married. People expect to find a soul mate at a club or in a bar. You ignore too many of the "small" things when you are dating, the small things that turn into big things when you get married. People believe they can "change" somebody once they are married. There is no give and take anymore... we are a selfish generation.... again... I could go on for days.
2006-08-17 15:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because thinking and evaluating must be hard work so few people do it. A book called - The Hard Questions, 100 essential questions to ask before you say I do by Susan Piver should be mandatory reading when applying for a marriage licence.
2006-08-17 15:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morality has declined in society, so there is less stigma to being divorced now that there was 50, 100, or 1000 years ago.
2006-08-17 15:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by what the heck? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To sum it up in one word: Selfishness.
Toss in no-fault divorce and you have a mess. I believe divorce should only be a last resort...your wedding vows are "until death do you part," not "until you get bored."
2006-08-17 16:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier today and people are no longer as dependent on their spouses as they used to be.... Women used to be dependent on their husbands financially, but today most women have a paying job as well. Also, back then most men depended on their wife to look after stuff like cooking, sewing, raising the kids and housework. Today most men are perfectly capable of doing things for themselves.
2006-08-17 17:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People marry too young, for one thing.
People don't really consider marriage to be "til death we part" and our heros and roll models certainly don't either.
Another is that divorce is not stigmatized like it was, "back then".
2006-08-18 04:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋