Today is my first night of college...well at a regular college, I went to community college before. There are only two people living on my floor so far, the rest move in in a couple days, so i'm not that concerned yet, but everybody makes friends at college, even quiet people...right? Has anyone ever known anyone who went to college and did not have one friend that they could spend time with?
2006-08-17 15:16:41 · 9 answers · asked by Amilucky0707 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I am an incredible extrovert- one would assume I have lots of friends. I do not. By choice, I am fully committed to my friends.
I have 2 that I trust with my life and 2 that can be trusted with other things. I have 20 or so acquaintances. I am very select on who gets to my heart and their voice is heard in my head.
I joined a sorority at University. I did it to create a bond of sisterhood and literally have friends. I only had two people that I kept as friends. We three all took very different paths and have not spoken in 5-10 years. Yet, It was some of the most incredible times of my life. I wasn't a party girl, nor a study monkey, just a regular pretty girl with lots of maturing to do. I learned "who" I was as a woman and warrior.
Many people that I know became best friends, lovers and spouses with the folks that lived in their dorms or roommates. Yet, I was not one of those.
My advise to you, go to all the events, have fun, be smart, make wise choices, enjoy life before the reality of the "real world" becomes a mundane commitment on your time.
Becareful, people will seek you out to harm you- college girls are prime targets. My rule is never drink anything that has left your hand-for any reason and NEVER let anyone get or pour you a drink, never drink punch at partys and most of all never let them in your room after hours. I lived in a restricted sorority house [no men in house after 11pm] so that the "house mother" got the blame to keep "me" safe. We could have on PJ's in the livingroom and play board games till we crashed.
Join a few clubs and GO to the football or Lacrosse games! Its really a bonding thing, like sports or not.
Good luck! Be brave, your not alone and the next person at the Free movie night maybe your bestfriend for the next twenty years.
2006-08-17 15:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Denise W 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone definitely makes friends at college. Think of it this way: you're at a college because the admissions office thought you would be a good fit there, that you would be a great member of their student body. College is eclectic, much more so than high school, and everyone eventually finds their niches. The first few days, especially, people are going to be very friendly and extroverted because they are all in the same boat as you, even if they've been on campus longer. I'm sure by the end of this upcoming week, you'll have a lot of new acquiantances and probably even some new really good friends!
2006-08-17 23:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had about the most anti-social roommate you could imagine. We were on an almost all-freshman honors floor, and there were constant activities being organized to the point where you'd think it impossible not to meet someone. Still, after the entire year, I was one of maybe 3 people (out of 50ish) on the floor that she knew by name. But even she managed to find a few people to hang out with socially (I'm assuming she met them in classes, but I don't know).
The simple answer to all of this: just get involved. You'll probably have a floor meeting once everyone moves in, so this will give you a chance to meet your neighbors and see what their interests are. On your way to the cafeteria, stop by any open rooms and see if they want to head to dinner with you. You should also look out for a student organization fair, where you can meet people who share your hobbies and interests, whether its some kind of recreational sport, religious group, or whatever. Talk to people in your classes and set up a study group. One of my best friends from college I met just by randomly sitting next to him the first day of class. I'm a pretty introverted person myself, but it just takes a few small gestures to make some really good friends.
2006-08-17 22:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by phaedra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! There will be many people for you to be friends with. The friendships that are formed in college usually last for the rest of your life. These people become like family. Stop worrying and enjoy your new life at a new college. It will be great once you get all settled in and start meeting people. Good luck and have a great time!
2006-08-17 22:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by georgiapeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not social at all and when I went to college I made tons of friends. Community college is totally different than a big college or university. It is very easy to find people with common interests and people are less cliquey and more mature for the most part. Good luck!
2006-08-17 22:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by hechicera_de_la_alma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of. I heard a story of one person at the college I go to who didn't make any friends and was on the verge of leaving (I'm not sure if she was dropping out or just transferring). Anyway, her roommate decided to get a bunch of her own friends together, and they took this girl out one night. After that, she changed her mind and stayed.
If you don't make friends at college, then what's the point of going? There's much more to college than just classes.
2006-08-17 22:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are anti-social people out there that did not have friends in college, but as long as you are a nice, friendly person (even if you are quiet/shy) you will most definitely make some friends.
2006-08-17 22:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first year of college, i didnt make any friends-- i took all my classes online. sorry joke.
yes. everyone will make friends and enemys at college... even the quiet ones. just try to join groups that interest you.
2006-08-17 22:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax....smile, say hello. You will be fine. Good luck at college. and yes even quiet people find friends.
2006-08-17 22:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by scanner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋