Do you believe in spanking?

Question

I got spanked growing up and I turned into a responsible working adult.

Answer 1

Yes I do. I don't believe in abuse. Anything hard enough to leave a red mark or worse is over doing it. Never ever spank when you are angry. Once a child get's older other punishment's work. Spanking doesn't have to be done often. I raised 3 children that have turned out to be wonderful adult's. They learned early that Mom is the boss. They knew better than to act up in public and when punishment didn't work Mom spanked. I have grandchildren and when they spend the summer with me they behave or , you got grandma will spank you. It is also important to talk to a child afterwards. Reassure them that you spank them because you love them and want them to learn early that respect is a must with parent's. My cousin tried the no spanking route and her son was truly a monster. The kid didn't listen to anyone. My aunt ( her mom) watched him for awhile and he got spanked by grandma. This was discussed ahead of time with the child's parent's. He was like a different child when his parent's came back. He's a grown man now and love's his grandma. He is also a wonderful father and yes he spanks too. I see so many toddlers and youngsters now kicking hitting and screaming at their parent's . I feel sorry for their parent's and anyone within earshot of this tantrum. Kids DO NOT NEED TO BE THE BOSS. They don't know what's best for them so it is assinine to give them all of the control. My opinion but I am a mom and I've seen first hand the difference in children that are spanked and not. I stopped a friendship once because even though I loved my friend I couldn't stand her bratty mouthy kid. We had argument's because she would call me crying because he drained her so. This kid was 3 years old. See my point.

Answer 2

Yes spanking is good but NOT beatings ....Also if you spank make sure the child understands why they are getting spanked then when it is over give a few minutes to compose themselves and talk to them about it .Not every child will need to be spanked you can try time out , take away a toy ,or phone ,no friends over each parent will need to decide what works for their child .

Answer 3

As regards spanking kids, I think it all depends on emotional context. Don't hit out in anger. Send the child to his/her room while you give yourself time to calm down. Then before you spank, make sure the child knows why he/she is being spanked, and that you're doing it because you care about them and want them to know what behaviour is unacceptable. Then afterwards hug and cuddle the child and let him/her know that he/she is forgiven and still very much loved. Done like that, it seems to me a spanking can only be for the good.

As regards spanking females over the age of 16 - you bet!!!

Answer 4

I got spanked as well, and I turned into a responsible working adult as well.

But I won't spank my children. From my observations, children that are spanked (especially boys) tend to view hitting as an acceptable behavior.

Answer 5

I think it's alright to spank, I mean if your kid is swearing their head off and won't stop, you spank them to let them know that it's wrong.

Spanking them for not doing the right thing especially if you've already asked them to stop more then once is ok. Just spank hard enough to sting, but that's it. It's part of educating them, and teaching them that what they just did isn't acceptable.

I was spanked when I was smaller coz I used to swear my head off when I didn't like something, and it taught me that it was the wrong thing to do.

My little bro was also spanked coz he used to spit on people when they made him angry, he's a good teeneger now.

Bashing the hell out of them is different, but spanking them to tell them they did the wrong thing is different, you don't really want to hurt them, you just wanted them to know what they can and can't do.

Just because you're parents spanked you didn't mean that they didn't love you either. My bros and sisters and I were actually given 3 verbal warnings before we got the smack.

Answer 6

Spanking is important but not the only option for punishment. a child should get rewards, hugs, and thank yous for good deeds and varying punishments for different levels of dissobediance.
I hate it when people have monsters for kids because they are too soft or hard.
I say this from experience of how I grew up and how other kids did, I am not a parent myself but I know basically what works well enough.

Answer 7

Used to.... But not anymore. Found out that what works for me, in my generation doesnt fwork for them anymore... An so, I stopped spanking them.

But yes, I have to agree with you, the spanking worked for me too.

Answer 8

There are 2 positions in this debate that i think of are the two ignorant and incorrect headed: a million. all spanking, no remember the way it relatively is accomplished, is newborn abuse. The is stupid. newborn abuse is a legally defined term and spot you later as spanking continues to be criminal, it relatively is no longer newborn abuse. it must be pointless, it ought to do extra injury than stable, it must be hypocritical, notwithstanding. notwithstanding it relatively is no longer, with the aid of definition, newborn abuse. 2. Spanking is the only sort of self-discipline, ergo in case you do no longer spank, for sure you have uncontrolled little ones when you consider that theres no opposite direction to self-discipline. notwithstanding in case you opt for to spank or no longer, notwithstanding, yet whilst it became into outlawed day after today and you probably did no longer have the alternative and you ought to no longer be sure a superb option, then you rather suck at this entire parenting subject. All appearances to the choice aside, maximum all and sundry is sensible adequate to be sure with the aid of ridiculous extremes.

Answer 9

There's a time and a place for a swat on the backside, as long as the offence is serious enough and it isn't overdone. I've seen people in stores smack their kid for what seemed like no reason at all, which I don't like. On the other hand, I've seen kids acting so badly, I'D like to swat the little beggar, but mommy or daddy just put up with the tantrum or whatever.

Answer 10

Yes I do, I was spanked as a child so I do believe in it!