what to do when ur boss want an affair with u?????

Question

what do, you do ,when ur boss wants an affair with you,? though he knows ur married, what should u say, even though your job depends on it , should u say no u dont wont that are say yes to keep ur job?? plz give some good advice thanks..

i have not gave in to his wishes at all i just need advice on what to do next, he been askin me for several months now my answer has been no everytime, he have kids my age its really a disgrace i swear i feel ashame he askin this request of me he can be my dad... he owns a small medically facility, he is head doctor on it just 4 nurses and two other doctors there, no head boss over him at all.. i am his medical reciptionist..

Answer 1

Tape record him when he ask you to have an affair. Tell him no and then if he fires you , you can get him for sexual harrassment. Tell him how happy your husband makes you and you will never cheat on him. Everytime you say something try to bring your husband in the conversation. Hopefully he will get the hint and stop.

Answer 2

1. Do you want the affair? You may want it , if, & only if you are ready to risk your marriage.
2. Is your boss the owner of business he manages or just an employee like you? If he is an employee like you can always go to his superior with the complaint & blow the whistle loud & clear. Chances are more that he is going to be fired & you will get a new boss or old boss chastised.
3. If he is the owner of the business then better collect proofs, & drag the matter to courts, newsrooms, NGOs & human rights organisations.
DO NOT GIVE UP just because he is your boss.
There are chances that he is just testing the waters, making flirting moves. In such case you can give him stern warning in sugar coated words. Believe me it works. That should be enough to chastise him if is concerned about his business, family & social reputation. If it does not work or he threatens you, you can go ahead with all the above mentioned steps.
Good Luck & may God almighty bless you with a safe job.

Answer 3

It depends on whether or not your Boss is paid a visit by three Ghosts on Christmas Eve and is ultimately saved and decides to turn away from cheating and stay true as the North Star; deciding to use his powers for Good mostly instead of Evil. Are there really Ghosts? Cheaters cheat for many reasons, lonely, bored or just in season. There is no way, to say for sure, that cheating ever had one cure. The reasons are millions to have an affair, even though God has given us others to care. The love can be lost and then found and then lost, and divorce and retainers and all of the cost. But be of good cheer, there be light every day, and each morning we wake to live on anyway. It's not like a human to just stay with one mate since the moment that Eden first opened her gate. So pray and be true to yourself if you can, and decide with God’s help pick your boss or your man.

Answer 4

That is sexual harrassment, pure and simple. Find a way to get proof, then nail the guy with a lawsuit. Be sure to name both him and the company in the suit; that will get the attention of his boss and insure that the company cooperates with the investigation instead of just silencing you. But you MUST have some kind of proof (a witness, a recording, etc.) or you'll just lose your job and he'll pull this again with someone else.

Answer 5

Tell him no have proof he came on to you and you refused by having a friend hear it, depending on the state record it, then if he fires you higher a lawyer because that is sexual harrassment. NO woman should have to sleep with some sleeze to keep her job he needs to get a life or a new wife. No job is worth that.

Answer 6

Hi

First of all. Is there another boss on top of your boss? If there is, tell him about your problem. Someone has to stop the guy.
Second, I would suggest you to start talking about your family and husband more at work. That really pushes away most of the guys :)

Answer 7

Women shouldent be in those kind of positions u should be strong and tell him to go to hell ... who cares about ur job how about ur principals u might lose ur job but how could u look at ur husband for the rest of ur life after doying this ??? if he does fire u let everyone know who animal he was

Answer 8

take a good recorder with you to work and record his sorry ***. Take him to court and sue him u could get a million.

But on a more serious note. Marriage is sacred and not to be taken lightly. just like you put ur relationship in gods hands and now it is a marriage trust in him in this situation. It's 2006 there are ways to fight against criminals

If u do he'll screw u when ever and how ever he wants to for the rest of ue employment. what if ur husband finds out or u get pregnant? u don't want to be on maury!

If u consider taking any advice, please take this. I don't want anything bad to happen to ur marriage

What about having to one day having to explaning the situation to ur kids?

Answer 9

is there a personal rep where you work because what he is trying to make you do is against the law. you can sue him and take him to court. this is sexual harassment and he is more than guilty. i know this is scarey es[ecially in this dayand age when the economy is so bad and everything is so expensive, but he has no right to do this to you and it is against the law.
i wish you well and hope you legally nail his butt to the wall and get him fired or else sue him and own the company by the time you get done.

Answer 10

It is your boss that could loose his job for what he is doing. You have Human Rights, The Better business Bureau you can go to. Go to your bosses supervisor. You have rights and you can exercise those rights. Don't let your boss make you do something that you don't want to do and do something that isn't right. Don't let him intimidate you!