ok heres the thing im a junior yeah i know a junior asking for advice . well this is my third year in highschool and it seems to be going down the drain and fast. i lost my bestfriend because he stole my girlfriend, he had another girlfriend at the same time, and wouldnt shut up about what he would do with her just to piss me off. and any other friends that im close to go to a different school. all my other friends at my school seem to have left me they just dont wanna hang with me. i dont get invited to partys ne more, no 1 calls or texts me no one asks to hang nemore. im not annoying im a pretty cool dude i mean i can b shy but thats only when i first meet some1 but thats it. they treat me like i have some sorta contagus disease last year was good had everything i wanted but now idk. im just really confused and have no idea what this is im going through or what'll happen . idk if any1 can help me but it would b appericiate it
2006-08-17 15:03:33 · 9 answers · asked by lostinlife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dunno what u r goin thru...but i know its sumfingg sum ppl go thru...maybe da person who u considered a best friend isnt really ur best friend if he was he wudnt do dat...n maybe its time u found sum real friendz who support u no matter what...maybe dey relayed on u for sum reason...if dey really took u as a friend dey wudnt end up doing fings lk dat to u...dont worry, it will be alright. Even thoee, u mite b shy, try talkin 2 other ppl make friendz who u know will be truly loyal 2 u...itz a diffcult stage in ur life rite now, but fingss well settle into its place soon...Hang in there...take care
trisha
2006-08-17 15:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should be thankfull for one thing, you now know your "friend" wasn't really a friend and as far as your girlfrend is concerned, it takes two to tango so she was a willing partner too.
You don't need them and the people in that croud. There is a whole world out there with 6 billion people and a lot would love to meet you and some become friends too.
I am a lot older than you and in my life I have met a lot of people and some were friends and they come and go. Some friends are only in other peoples lives for a short time and thats ok because in that short time we shared, learned and cared for each other.
There are others that last a long time too. I've known 4 for 30 or more years and and I know there are and they know I am a true friend even though we see each other every so often, even a year goes by, but we are friends.
Its quality that counts.
2006-08-17 22:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Older and Now Wiser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I graduated in 2004...so i guess u can say im fresh out of high school. I wasn't "popular", i didn't have a lot of friends, nobody was begging me to hang out with them, nobody was inviting me to parties...and i was an ok person. I wasnt ugly, wasnt mean, or anything like that. high schoolers just have their own vision of whats "cool" and if you don't fit that description then you don't matter to them. But let me tell you a lil secret that i wish all high schoolers would listen to. As soon as you graduate and walk off the football field or gym floor (where ever u have graduation), you are walking away from 98% of all your classmates. You will hardly ever see any of them again. I went to a small school in a small community, where everybody knows everybody. I had 87 kids in my graduating class, and since i graduated i only see probably 5 on a regular basis. Everybody goes off and does their own thing. BUT...i know its easy for me to say that because im out and i served my time. I know its hard. Just dont let it get you down and get the best of ya. There's life after high school. And during high school. Just find your place that makes you happy. where you have friends that won't treat you like crap and steal your girlfriend. You'll make it, only 2 more years and they will fly by. Good luck!!
2006-08-17 22:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost feeling like the new kid that NOONE likes right? I know the feeling I didnt come from a good family environment, and i ended up leaving home at 13 and working two jobs and going to highschool. so I didnt really get to know anyone at school, it was the hardest thing not knowing anyone or going out...but I had to do what was best for me and protective services wouldnt help so i was all on my own. But let me tell you one thing...Your friends in high school really arent your true friends. Honestly the ones you have after highschool is what counts the most. If your lucky you will walk out of highschool with one person you keep in contact with. dont let your friends or "so called friends" in highschool think they're getting the best of you. just go to school and act like it doesnt even bother you. move on from it! Find a new girl who seems interesting and ask her out. Smile in class, talk to someone you dont know from school while your in school and smile, if you dont know someone to do it just fake it...pretend you got things better to do. JUST dont let them think what their doing is actually bothering you because then they think they've won. Find a hobby, or just take the spare time you have and burry your face in the books. They wont know what your doing, make them think your going to parties somewhere else. they wont know. but it will make them curious as to why its not bothering you. Obviously the people you hang with really dont sound like true TRUE friends. Like i said once highschool is over you will be lucky to walk away from it still keeping in contact with one. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-17 22:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by peachy101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy, just dont worry. cheer up. its not your fault if others dont invite for party or send you text. just be there and be yourself. you should feel proud for yourself. you didnt leave with others' girlfriend so no need to worry. know that you are on the right track of life . just concentrate into study. girl friend, party, teen enjoyments these are very temporary and would tempt you to spoil yourlife. its better to be by yourself sometimes. i wish you good luck. and very soon you would fine real people are coming around you by observing your personality. dont worry buddy!
2006-08-17 22:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Deepthoughts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DON'T KNOW IF I CAN BE OF ANY HELP BUT ONE THING I DO KNOW IS THIS - YOUR BEST-FRIEND CERTAINLY WAS NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND IF HE COULD STEAL YOUR GIRLFRIEND. AS FAR AS THE SCHOOL YEAR GOES, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHY YOUR FRIENDS ARE AVOIDING YOU?WHY NOT ASK THEM. I WENT TO AN ALL GIRLS SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT CITY THEN I LIVED IN SO MY FRIENDS WERE NOT SCHOOL FRIENDS BUT NEIGHBORHOOD KIDS LIVING IN THE SAME CITY AS ME. SO FOR YOU JUST HANG AROUND WITH YOUR FRIENDS WHO GO TO DIFFERENT SCHOOLS. I HOPE THIS HELPED.
2006-08-17 22:23:42 · answer #6 · answered by Pat M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi friend, guess what everything is gonna be alright you just keep on doing what you no is right and never give up on yourself, try to pursue your dreams and goals,and don't let no one interfere with that. if you don't have no friends don't worry about it, you have your family and as long as there is life there is hope
2006-08-17 22:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by sheena s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your best friend is a friend at all. and try to meet some new people. you can never have to many friends.
2006-08-21 20:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the high school drama...it'll go away soon. It always does.
2006-08-17 22:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Curious_Camo_Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋