I have been with the same girl 11 years and she has wanted to marry me for about 9 of those years but I am terrified. Why?
2006-08-17 15:03:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have talked to her and she is very upset. We are engaged but it is really for her that we are getting married. I am deeply in love with her, but I just fear that every aspect of our lives will change and I will be unhappy and want out. I would rather be with her and happy forever than married and unhappy and trapped forever.
2006-08-17 16:26:30 · update #1
Because you think there's someone better out there for you. Or you were raised to think of marriage as a trap.
2006-08-17 15:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your age, education, and personal circumstances.
Marriage is usually followed by starting a family, and if you feel ill-prepared, it is natural for you to fear the wedding bells. Have you finished school? Are you earning enough to support a family? Do you love the girl? Is her mom a psycho (we all turn into our moms)? There are plenty of reasons to flee. However, 11 years is a long time (if you've been adult for most of those years). As they say, p*** or get off the pot. Decide either to propose to and marry this girl or get out of her life so someone else can. But be prepared to see someone else propose to her within the year if you walk away.
I wanted to marry my college beau, and less than a year after we broke up, I was happily engaged and have now been married 7 1/2 years to a great guy. I'm now so friggin' glad I didn't marry the first guy- I can't imagine life any other way.
Whatever you decide, be honorable.
2006-08-17 22:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by girlnblack 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Commiting to one person for the rest of your life can be very daunting, also you may feel you are going to lose the little freedom you feel you have left. You have to ask yourself, are you really terrified of getting married, or do you actually still love this girl enough to marry her.
2006-08-17 22:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Squishygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because Satan instills fear into you. So you will not get married under God's Law and while you live with her in sin . This makes satan happy. he wins then. Marry this women and you will be happy.Good Luck, she is your soul mate, Be happy that you found her and she has waited so long on you.
2006-08-19 09:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're afraid of a commitment, and rightfully so these days. Too many guys get taken for a ride.
But you've known her for a long time...I say go ahead and marry her if you love her and can trust her.
2006-08-17 23:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because it is huge, lifelong commitment. maybe u fear that she is not the one for u, or u feel that the relationship is unhealthy, and thats why u are shying away. u really need to ask yourself the question, and be honest with yourself and open to the truth, thats the only way to get to the bottom of the situation. good luck
2006-08-17 22:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by pinkcat613 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's society. Now and days no one gets married. Or she is just not the one.
2006-08-17 22:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by jenny21gon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's supposed to be forever. That's a big commitment.
2006-08-17 22:09:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Terrified you say?
The reason hardly matters but you will need to let her know how you feel. If she loves you she will stick around.
2006-08-17 22:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea. Too little information. You need professional help
2006-08-17 22:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by Duke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋