for example, if I have a pimple on my nose, he can make fun of me for 2 days!! it gives him so much pleasure!
2006-08-17 14:48:44 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If I try to get back at him by making fun of him he says: "See, see how you are, you always make fun of me and if I make fun of you once you get upset"
He just either pretends or really forgets that he was the one who started it.
Since that approach didn't work I stopped. Now I just tell him it's not polite to make fun of people and try to explain the details of how and why it's not nice. The problem is he has been doing it all his life and now he is in his mid-forties I doubt I can't change him.
...the problem is he still doesn't give me complements.
2006-08-17 19:31:20 · update #1
Tell him how you feel. And then makwe fun of him.............
2006-08-17 14:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by LadyOreo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably he is insecure because you are so beautiful and sexy to him and others and he is trying to control you by making you feel less beautiful and sexy. Men and women do this to each other. It's called emotional abuse with a goal of controlling the other person. If your self esteem is low you will be less likely to leave him. He probably won't change. Next time he makes fun of a pimple look at it in the mirror and tell him that to you, you're so beautiful that you make a pimple on your face look like the mole on Cindy Crawford's.
2006-08-17 14:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by qwestionz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure and wants you to feel bad about yourself. Do not allow him to do this to your self asteem. Tell him how this bothers you and you do not want to hear that you have a pimple on your nose that you already know of. Tell him if he can't say anything nice then do not say anything at all. If this doesn't work dress your best when you go somewhere with him so other men will see how pretty you are. Get your confidence back and do not let him wear you down.
2006-08-17 14:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well best way to go about it, is do the same to him. If you notice he is starting to get man boobs or a pot belly. Point and laugh at him. If you do it often enough I hope he gets the message to lay off you. But if he doesn't then tell him point blank that he is hurting your feelings. If he can't listen to the honest truth then just pack up some stuff and stay with your folks for a couple of days til he realizes that its not always funny to make fun of others, especially his own wife.
2006-08-17 14:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Let him know how you feel. be sure there is communication. Maybe he thinks he is just being playful. Some men never get over the little boy phase where they think when you like a girl you must make them miserable. If you realise that he does not change, or does not make a effort to consider your feelings then maybe he is an *** hole and does not deserve you. You can find some one to treat you much better.
2006-08-17 15:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by candylishus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think he is a very insecure person. Anyone that belittles someone else is not secure in their own being. They either feel the need to bring someone down to make themselves feel better than you or whomever the victim is. Frankly, mine does the same.. if it aint bad, they dont seem to notice. But. he shouldnt make fun of you. That is mean. Just either talk to him about how you feel or give him a dose of his own meds. Good luck.
2006-08-17 15:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each time he makes fun of you, give him a compliment. It may take a while before he gets the picture and starts pointing out the good things about you. It's sort of like overcoming evil with good.
That's a big order on your patience, but you're worth it.
2006-08-17 15:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by divabylaw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are u? how long have u been married. U deserve better what sort of encouragement is that he should show more appreciation what was it in u that u found him attractive because to me he sounds as though he's grumpy and low hearted. have u ever spoken to him I think u should? tell him u need to talk about something that is constantly bothering u and view different views an try to have a connection with him and understand y he does this.
2006-08-17 14:56:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men and women are like that. You need to learn your own self worth and depend less on other people's opinion. This will make you happier in the long run.
It is easier said that done, but it is also easier to change yourself than someone else.
2006-08-17 14:53:25 · answer #9 · answered by krsh28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him jelous. If a mam on the highway next to you smiles at you, exaggerate and tell you hubby he blew a kiss at you. Engage in some mild innocent flirtation( only if you can control yourself from taking it to the next level) with a male, and giggle while recalling it to your man.Give him a run for his money. Help him realize you still got it. Bring out the goddess in you you once flaunted!
2006-08-17 14:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by goober_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make it right.
Don't drop to his level, lead by example.
A great book to read is "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" by Dr. John Gray.
He has many other books too and a nice web-site too.
2006-08-17 15:09:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋