my husband used my debit card number to set up an online poker account. he played to much i got pissed called found out he spent 2400 in 3 months i losed my account by calling the people and explaining was my ard. Anyways forgave him he kept playing poker didn't know how as he does not work i asked are you withdrawing money with my atm card at the atm and putting it in your account "no i am playing on my winning over and over" so i got mad and asked for his password and he gave it to me easily ? ! anyway i saw where he deposited 50 dollars into his bank which had to be from my account. then i saw debit for online poker i was mad but not about the poker about the fact that he lied to me He thought when i looked at the account the debits to the poker wouldn't show because when i asked him where the money was he snapped i had to pay automatic draft bills? this is a little thing but i can't trust him because he told me he was playing on his winnings lying right to me it's scary .
2006-08-17 14:44:58 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thats a big red flag!
2006-08-17 14:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kellkat 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are in for a rough time.........he is addicted to gambling and until you get him to admit this and get the help he needs you will be dealing with lying and financial loss. Why wouldn't a husband work? He has way too much time on his hands and if I were you I would disconnect the internet and make sure the money you have is secure. Believe me.......he is addicted....find out what you can do, contact gamblers anonymous. Do whatever it takes to have him realize he has a problem that is bigger than the two of you. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 14:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's lying to cover up spending money on online gambling. It will most likely get worse.
You don't need to "trust him in your heart." This is about FACTS - the fact he's lying about gambling and money which is compromising your LIFE.
You cannot trust him. All this lying can compromise your credit. How would you like that? What if you had/have a mortgage and children? Does that sound like a responsible spouse?
I'm sorry - but in my book - that's not acceptable. Demand he get immediate counseling - or separate until you can trust him again.
Some people never get over the gambling addiction. You decide how much you are willing to tolerate.
2006-08-17 15:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may have a gambling addiction. The behavior you describe certainly suggests it. If you are the only person earning money in the family, you may want to see about removing his name from all your accounts and setting up accounts in his own name.
I don't know what state you live in but you should take steps to make sure his debts do not affect your credit rating. Trust me, it sounds like he's headed down the road that's going to cause you a whole lot of hurt unless you take steps to separate your money from him.
2006-08-17 15:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by eriurana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's online poker or actual gambling pubs, it's still gambling. It's not a little thing. It's a start of something big. You have the right to be angry about his lying but you have to be concerned with this developing addiction called gambling. It doesn't matter if he does it with your money or his. Nip it at the bud before it destroys your lives.
2006-08-17 15:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend plays poker online to. This thing may be a little thing right now but it may turn into a big thing. Me and my boyfriend came to a comprimise, he is only allowed to put $100 dollars a week. The only problem is that your husband doesn't have a job. He schouldn't use your money for his poker. You really need to talk to him
2006-08-17 14:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by gismo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is bad and sounds like it going to be the start of somehting even worse. You have to nip this in the bud. If he is going to spend your money hes going to have to earn it. Im sorry but hes going to keep lying, gambling is an addiction just as bad as alcoholism and if you think its a minor problem then you may as well bury your hand in the sand and pretend the problem doesnt exist. Get help straight away make sure he doesnt do it again threaten him with divorce and contact a councillor for him.
2006-08-17 14:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Gar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not a little thing or a small problem that's going to go away. Compulsive gambling is just as serious as any other addiction. He's lying to you and he's not coming clean about what he's doing. Try to get him to go to a gamblers anonymous meeting before he starts gambling with the rent money. Good luck.
2006-08-17 14:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's lying because he has a gambling problem.
If he hasn't normally been a "liar" in the past he is probably addicted. If this is the case, you need to get him to see his problem then begin to take care of it. 1st - find a counselor or group. Next, you will have to take over ALL of the funds and access to them - giving him a small allowance. Any kind of addiction attacks character. When he conquers it he will be back to himself - but will require maintenance. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-17 14:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by LG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be alot more serious than just lying. He is probably in denial. Your best bet is to try to get him to admit he has a gambling problem and seek help, either from a support group or professionally. Online gambling has become a serious problem. There are plenty of websites out there with information to help him overcome his gambling habits. Hope everything works out(*)
2006-08-17 14:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by pinkrosez711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your husband has an addiction to online poker and it is causing him to decieve you i suggest you sit down and have a talk with him about this problem, also why is he not working he needs to occupy his time doing something more constructive. Try to be understanding gambling is an addiction.
2006-08-17 14:54:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋