Teenage daughter?

Question

I have a teen daughter who has been throwing her papers away since she has been in the 5th grade. she fakes sick so she can come home. We have been grounding her don't work makeing her stay in her room. We have tryed everything even her councler don't know what to do. She is know in 9th grade and the first day of school she went to the nurse 4 or 5X thats just 1 day. If any body has Idea how to help me please let me know. she throws her homework away and the papers she does in school.

Answer 1

I did the same thing to my mum. But i wagged and hid from her when she did what you are doing. See i couldn't tell my mum that i was having problems i didn't think she would understand. I couldn't do maths and felt when people tried to explain it to me and i still could not understand that i was dumb i to dint tell the school councilor. I also didn't tell my mum that i was having troubles with girls picking on me at school due to something that i did see i didn't want my mum to find out what i did so i could not tell her why the girls were picking on me. It makes school hard when you have no friends and you feel dumb take the time out to just talk to her you might find there is more to it then just not want to do the work and maby there is something going on at school see parents tend to think only of the education which i to don't blame you as I'm a mum know as well but to kids socializing is there big issue and when you have no Friends you don't want to be there i use to hide in the toilets at lunch time just to get away and fake sickies as well.teenagers hide things as they don't know how to say it.

Answer 2

Can you take away any priviledges? For example, start by taking away her cell phone if she has one (hopefully not). Then move to the computer and take away priviledges along with house phone taken away. Tell her she can't learn to drive until she show more responsibility. Remove anything "fun" from her room so you can keep watching her. Help her with her homework if she needs it. tell her after a 45 minute break after school, that she needs to focus on all of homewok until it's done. Is she home by herself? Could be all those trips to the nurse is because she is facing problems at school eith academically or socially. Talk to her teachers and ask them to be your eyes and ears for a while. Work with them, and keep communicating with them. Pretty soon, your daughter may tire of that and start acting more responsibly. Hang in there, I have an almost-20 year old. Been right where you are!!!

Answer 3

This daughter needs to go to a professional counselor, with you some and alone some. There is a major issue that she has with school and it will lead to her dropping out soon if you don't nip it in the bud.

She may have a learning disability. She may have a vision problem. She may have emotional problems...but either way...she has problems. And it probably doesn't have to do with school directly. Maybe she has a fear of something related to school.

She needs a professional evaluation, honestly. You sound like you really care about her. So do something about it. The problem has become too big for her and you.

Answer 4

Sit down and talk with her ask her what is going on with her, really talk to her don't yell or argue. It is for certain she does not like school and there is a reason, could it be a learning disablity, people pick on her or is it just laziness? Communication is the best way to go, something is wrong if she does not want to tell you then find someone she is comfortable with and let them speak with her, it might be her age. Best of luck.

Answer 5

What always kept me in check was my mom would take away the phone tv, music, everthing out of my room and the first or second day there was a visable change. Also I know she is aroung 14 or 15 but strait up if I had a daughter who acted like that, I would do what my mom would do to me in the same situation. Beat her ***. take of ur rings and give it to her. My mom did it to me and I love her for it. who know who i would have turned out to be without the sense of discipline.

Answer 6

Maybe I am old fashioned, but sounds like she could really use a good, sound spanking!

It's the last resort and would be very fair under the circumstances. She's crying for help. After the spanking, sit down and talk with her; she might prefer to stand.

Answer 7

Ask her why she is doing this. Ask her what she wants to do in life, and how she plans to get there. Try in a peaceful way, tell her that it won't lead her any where doing that. Be supportive, and if you can't find anything by talking. Find a Psychologist, she won't like it at first, but it probably the best thing to do

Answer 8

You should probably sit down and talk with her, just to see what's going on and why she's doing that. Either she just doesn't want to go to school, or she probably wants to get closer to you. You should probably make it clear to her about how important getting an education is, and if she decides that she still wants to act that way, then there's nothing you can really do about it, except for comfort her in her decision

Answer 9

Put clorox bleach in her soup and give her a reason to be sick. She'll think twice after throwing up her stomach lining. jk. You could see if there is a reason she doesn't want to go to school. Like the kids are being douchebags.

Answer 10

You need to find out what is troubling her. It sounds like she is upset with the world. There is probably something about homelife that she is displeased with. You might have to fix the whole family in order to fix her.