2006-08-17 14:33:31 · 12 answers · asked by queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is a good man he just can't shake the habit we have tried rehab more than once he may stay clean from his drug of choice for a quick min then relapse; he smokes weed and drink beer often; mr I don't drink nor smoke the habits are getting to me the six yrs I've been married to this man he's only had one month clean if that
2006-08-17 14:48:40 · update #1
Depends on what state your in. I lived in New Hampshire when I went for my divorce and even though my ex has a substance abuse problem, New Hampshire is a no-fault state so we had to claim irreconcilable differences.
But if there's an issue like that preventing you both from having a normal life and marriage, then you still have irreconcilable differences and that's grounds for divorce.
2006-08-17 14:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by CR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse is abusing drugs, he/she is taking money that could be used for your children and giving it to criminals. Things get especially bad when the spouse abuses drugs in front of the kids, or, neglects the children in order to do drugs, and begins to sell everything you own in order to maintain their habit. A person who is married who abuses does so at the expense of the other spouse and family members. Think of all of the times you were alone when the other was out getting high. Think of your financial situation and how it could be disasterously affected when the substance abusing spouse has to buy more and more drugs to sustain a habit, could get fired testing positive for drugs, poor job performance, arrested and thrown in jail. Let's not forget the very real possibility your spouse could infect you with a disease (if using IV drugs). The list goes on. Everyone says addiction is a disease, and that is the topic of another question, but this disease affects everyone associated with the abuser, and you don't have to put up with. My answer? Yes, substance abuse is definitely grounds for divorce.
2006-08-17 21:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indirectly. The substance abuser may pose a danger to the spouse and any children present. Just as an out of control alcoholic may become violent or abusive. A connection must be made between this behavior and the already established grounds for divorce.
2006-08-17 21:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happened to thru better or worse, No it is not grounds for divorce, do you think he enjoys being an addict?? Probably not. If this were any other family member would you turn your back on him?? Stand your ground , quit being so pissed and try to see things thru his eyes, I guarantee you this is killing him inside that he cant control this. Until you know in your heart that you have given it 100% to try and see the man you married thru this then you will never be sure you made the right decision. Stick it out but get real and get serious, Your his wife dont be so quick to end it.
2006-08-18 00:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by jesse_lovebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could call MANY things a form of substance abuse.
People who EAT too much can also be considered substance abuse. People who go to the doctors for drugs which they don't need is a form of substance abuse.
Does your husband provide for you? Does his "abuse" interfere with his work? Is he spending too much $$$, etc. If this is true, you need to speak with him.
2006-08-17 21:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhhhh...he has an ongoing problem that has not resolved in six years!
WHY are you still there? Maybe you like to take emotional abuse. How about you pull yourself up by your bootstraps, develop some self-esteem and move on with your life?
2006-08-17 22:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember one thing : If your house, car, or your husband ever gets searched by the cops, you're going to jail, too.
Do you really want that?
I would divorce him. He might sober up, but then he'd have to prove after several years he could handle being sober.
2006-08-17 23:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most places have no-fault divorce, but substance abuse is a good "reason" for divorce.
2006-08-17 21:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are willing to get sober, then you should see them through and help them in any way you can, however, if they are refusing treatment then perhaps you leaving will help them hit rock bottom....try a trial seperation and see where it goes before deciding that divorce is the answer
2006-08-17 21:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeap
2006-08-17 22:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋