is it true or do you think they can change.....
2006-08-17 14:26:54 · 19 answers · asked by salwoman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They can change only if they WANT to change. Nobody can do it for them but themselves.
2006-08-17 14:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a complex subject and act. I don't believe "once a cheater, always a cheater" because it too easy to say that. I believe that a deep issue causes a person to cheat (in most cases). Although infidelity is a bad choice on the part of one partner, I don't believe it is solely the problem on the cheater. The other person also has a part to play. Most men cheat out of low self-esteem. For instance, their wife keeps putting them down and making them feel bad about themselves. There's no better way to boost your self esteem than having a fling or an affair. Of course that is not to say there are individuals who have commitment issues who have a history of cheating and will continue to cheat. To that person, I say "always a cheater" because of their history. However, look at the individual. If a person has never cheated before and has in a current relationship, then I think something is going on in the relationship. Hope if makes sense!
2006-08-17 21:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether or not he or she is paid a visit by three Ghosts on Christmas Eve and is ultimately saved and decides to turn away from cheating and stay true as the North Star; deciding to use his or her powers for Good mostly instead of Evil. Are there really Ghosts? Cheaters cheat for many reasons, lonely, bored or just in season. There is no way, to say for sure, that cheating ever had one cure. The reasons are millions to have an affair, even though God has given us others to care. The love can be lost and then found and then lost, and divorce and retainers and all of the cost. But be of good cheer, there be light every day, and each morning we wake to live on anyway. It's not like a human to just stay with one mate since the moment that Eden first opened her gate.
2006-08-17 22:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's true at all. I am a firm believer that if someone cheats it is due to a lack of something in their current relationship. (Attention, sex, emotional stability, feeling of worth.) I am not saying that everyone (male and female) that feels these feelings cheats. What I am saying is that when those things are lacking some people do. I think that once those things are all present in a relationship there is no need to look elsewhere. I can honestly say that I have cheated. However, I currently am in a loving, trusting relationship and would NEVER think of cheating on him. So, yeah cheaters cheat, but they can be true!
2006-08-17 22:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by la_diablita_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no absolutely true rule. The once-a-cheater-always-a-cheater rule applies in maybe 98% of the cases. The other 2% are the ones who were wise enough to learn their lesson and Lucky enough to have a spouse who forgave them.
It is possible for a cheater to realize what they did was wrong and to make a vow to never cheat again. You will know your own situation better than us.
2006-08-17 21:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how they cheat. If it is like "one night stand" just sex kind of cheating I think that they would have to work really hard to change. But if they fall in love with the one they cheat with, brake-up with the other one and start a relationship with the one they cheated with they might not do it again. If they are really in love. But there would always be that thought: ,,They've done it once so they are capable of doing it."
I don't know, it's a hard one.
2006-08-17 21:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Emina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always a cheater. if they do change it will be forever in the back of their mind that they can cheat if they really wanted to
2006-08-17 22:00:32 · answer #7 · answered by megs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really,
There are people cheat feel sp bad for doing it because it hurt the mate so bad that they never do it again.
But then u have those people who will cheat , get away with it and keep doing it, there ae people who cheat and say they won't anymore and the next thing u know the mate do it again.
So it depends on the person
2006-08-17 21:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe that people can change. But if I was in a relationship with someone and they cheated on me, I think that I'd just have to dump them. Now, if the person had cheated in past relationships and says that they have changed...I'd probably give him a chance.
2006-08-17 21:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible for one to change for the better...it is for that person within them self to be honest with someone else....if they are not capable of respecting someone else feeling than I would say no....a cheater will always cheat...they like the thrill of being sneaky
2006-08-17 21:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the circumstances surrounding the cheating. not that cheating is ever justified, but if something extreme is going on, maybe it provides an environment for someone to cheat that wouldn't do it under normal circumstances.
like i said, i don't think cheating is ever justified...but i've both cheated and been cheated on, and from personal experience i wouldn't do it again.
2006-08-17 21:49:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋