and now I sincerely regret it. my mom doesn't "allow" me to watch R rated movies and I watched (actually bought) the 'From Hell' dvd. I've watched like the first 10 minutes and I saw this sex scene and now I'm all freaking out 'cuz I know I wasn't supposed to watch it. I feel so guilty for defying my mom and now I feel dirty and I don't even want to finish watching the movie. Is there anything I can do to stop feeling this way or get my conscience to shutup. I'm 15, but I doubt that matters. Any advice or suggestions?
2006-08-17 14:25:34 · 21 answers · asked by Over-rated and over-protected 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I wouldn't worry about it, my grandma was renting my cousins and me R rated movies at that age...I'm sure it showed nothing but breasts anyways, go ahead and finish the movie, R rated movies are usually just rated that because of the language or if its graphic( like horror movies)...dont worry though teens dont tell their parents everything
2006-08-17 16:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by snsheley0415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seemed to have run into a problem with the sex scene. Is this what caused your emotion of guilt? I feel this needs to be explored within you to fully understand what your dealing with . Could this have scared you ? What stands out to me are phrases you use in this sequence . (1) sex scene (2) i wasn't supposed to (3) i feel so guilty (4) i feel guilty (5) i feel so dirty . I suggest you face these feelings and then if you don't like your behavior for " defying my mom ", look at what enabled or encouraged you to watch this movie. Did someone you know mention this movie that made you courious enough to go against your mothers wishes ? Did you know there was a sex scene in it ? Were you curious about sex ? do you have some normal curiosity about sex and have no other outlet to know what you want to know ? you may be beating yourself up for no reason at all because you are a member of the human race and at fifteen your becoming a young adult . you have passed into puberty, you have your period and now you are in the realm of reproducing life which is very powerful and your new to this state because your closer to childhood than you are to complete adult psychological maturation . in other words your green . this world can be scary and things our parents say can haunt us, that is our conscious . The inner parent makes us feel guilty when our natural curiosity leads us to discovering things we are naturally curious about. you can either sit down with mom and discuss this on an adult level, that could help you develop your adult side more . or you can deal with it yourself by recognizing the voice in your head is you spanking yourself because mom is always right and your always wrong. what if there is no right or no wrong about watching the movie . what if the sex scene was a very unusual thing for you to see and it did not look good to you at all. well what if the entire movie was written to shock the audience so everyone would go back out into society and talk about it to everyone they met. you know controversy . well that makes more people spend their money to go see the movies and the writers and directors and actors make big bucks . sex is not dirty, or filthy in its time and place . however when we are 15 we generally know very little about sex and are very curious and our parents are scared to death we are going to learn ablout it and start doing it and get pregnant . Now confession is good for the soul . sometimes . can you approach your mother about how you feel about disobeying her wishes . can you let her know you had a learning experience without your mother having a full blown hissy fit / or can you digest all of this and say nothing and heal your thinking looking at this as a growing experience and see it all for what it is . one last question for you . do you want to finish wathcing the movie/ once again i place no right or wrong judgement on your decision . ask yourself how do i feel about the movie . what do i want to do with the movie ? then do something. you have several alternatives , don't you agree ?
2006-08-17 22:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by visayan95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You' re 15 years old. In my opinion that means that if you're resposible, you should be able to watch R rated movies. You're not guilty because you watched an R rated movie, you feel guilty because you've broken one of your mom's rules. Which is normal for a teen to do occasionally ( I'm 18 by the way) Just confess and tell her that you are mature enough to watch R rated movies.
2006-08-17 22:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tucker C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm almost that age and I read a lot of M and T fanfics. THey''re no different. Listen, just flow with it. Sometimes, your concince can't tell you what to do. Answer these in your head:
1, Did you like the movie and why?
2 would you ever watch it again and why?
OH Find someone outside of your family that you can trust. Tell them your secrets. LIke a Bff. I tell her everything. Just relax or this will not be pretty.
2006-08-17 21:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by murcelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your man enough to do it then be man enough to stand up and say you did it. This is what my mom and grandmother always told me.
Basically it means don't do anything that you would be ashamed to tell everyone you did. You need to just come clean, you'll feel better after you do. And I doubt your mom will be as upset as you think she will.
2006-08-17 21:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hate to tell you this but if you have a forgiving mother go tell her you got it and give it to her you might get in a little trouble but im sure she will be proud all at the same time. at least i would if my child felt comfortable enough to come let me know what she did wrong. i would be proud of her for coming clean. she is only four months old now but when my seven year old tells us he cursed and is honest the punishment isnt that bad because he was honest.
2006-08-17 21:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by nuzzihuzzi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its ok to listen to your conscience, but this doesn't seem like one of them. Your name is right, you are overprotected. This is an issue you should probably discuss in the open with your parents.
2006-08-17 21:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by DonSoze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how did u buy an R rated movie at 15? isnt that against the law? maybe you should just tell her you'll feel much better, she might not even be that mad
2006-08-17 21:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you did that. You will feel better. Apologize profusely, and admit that you made a mistake. It will show a lot of maturity. Good luck!
2006-08-17 22:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh you are how I want my daughter to be at 15.
Tell your mom what you did and how sorry you are.
You sound like a caring daughter who made a mistake she will forgive you.
2006-08-17 21:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋