If there's something that your friend does that you don't like, would you put it against them? I don't know how to act around this friend anymore. This is sorta vague but I don't feel like stating the actual situation.
2006-08-17 14:24:48 · 14 answers · asked by DarkBlue 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It depends on how serious these things are to you. After all, it's a person's character and personality that bonds us to friendship in the first place so if they lose those traits that we like, we have to move on. What are you holding on to? A memory of someone you once liked? People change. If it's not that big a change to you, then let it go and keep your friendship, but I don't think it's that simple or you wouldn't have posted this here.
If the person does things that disturb you, find some new friends.
Haven't you heard the old adage: Birds of a feather stick together.
You will be judged by others partly by the company you are with.
2006-08-17 14:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the whole situation it is hard to help, but I will try. Usually the best way to know how to act toward a person is by what you think inside. If you feel they have done something your against, either let them know how you feel and go from there to mend your friendship, or move on and find other friends that have the same beliefs you have.
Never judge anyone. If their actions have left you disturbed, try finding out what caused them to act that way. And again, let them know it bugged you and why, and then go from there.
Try to give everyone a fair shot, get to know them for yourself, not by what others say or do about/towards them.
Best of luck!
2006-08-17 21:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person is defined by their actions.
So you really mean
"Should i judge them by their actions or ignore that rational thought because i dont want to have to accept them for the person they really are"
It depends on what they did and how bad it was. No people are raighteous so its not like you should harp on minor things.
2006-08-17 21:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably talk with you friend and see if the is a reason she is acting the way she is, then determine if she is a friend you hang out with a lot or on occasion. Just because you don't like the way she is acting does mean you don't have to be her friend occasionally.
2006-08-17 21:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by angie1412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way to handle is to have a nice chat with your friend. Tell your friendly tactfuly that what he/she did did not make you feel good...
We do not know the reason for their action, sometime we do not even know the reason of our own actions too. Be kind and understanding :) to all...
2006-08-17 21:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by BaTu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldnt a persons actions reflect who they are. However everyone makes mistakes and maybe you could pass of what you friend did as a mistake and help them out. So the way they acted once could just be a mistake so don't destroy the friendshop.
2006-08-17 21:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by rabeekay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is that their actions really do point to who they are. An otherwise good friend who drinks or does drugs is going to be a problem no matter how nice they were before they started.
2006-08-17 21:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by united9198 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is truly a friend, then you should have no trouble talking about that which you do
not like or understand. Bring it out in the open.
It could help your friend. What have you got to lose?
2006-08-17 21:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by Judy O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it's the person first apreeesion the yea u should but if u knew they person 4 a certain amount of time then nojust try ur hardest 2 get over it and beyond that fact
2006-08-17 21:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by kekeakakeyah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to judge people is by their actions.
2006-08-17 21:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by Kikyo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋