he has been married by 5 months, I knew him 4 months ago. He told me that he loves me, and he desire me, he is so...
I love him, but I don't wanna hurt no one.
He does not have kids, but he is 11 years older than me. But he is everything that I dream, except he is married.
Please help me.
2006-08-17 13:27:07 · 21 answers · asked by ema 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First I must ask you, what are you dreaming about? Are you dreaming for a man that will love you and stand by your side no matter what life may hold? If this is the case, then you are most certainly with the wrong man! He is married but claims that he loves you? Let me ask you, Do you seriously want to share your man with any one? If not, then why ask his wife to do it? When people get married they get married forever or at least till they get a divorce, he has only been married for 5 months and he is contacting you? What is wrong with him? It would be my opinion that should should tell him to grow up and start acting like a man, and that if he wants a woman to have sex with on the side, then he should find one, but it will not be you!
Honestly, if it was me, I would tell his wife what he is doing, not out of spite but because if it was me he was cheating on, I would want someone to tell me, wouldn't You?
You can definitely do better, if you want a happy life, find someone else to have it with! Hope this helps, Good luck and God bless!
2006-08-18 11:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me make sure I get this straight! Your dream guy is someone who is already married and is willing to sleep with you only 5 months after he promised to love, honor and cherish ANOTHER WOMAN! You've gotta be kidding! If you sleep with this guy, here are the possible Scenarios .1) He will take your virginity and brag to all his buddies about it and you'll never hear from him again. 2)He'll have sex with you on the side and keep playing both of you until you nag him enough to divorce his wife so he can be whith you. FAT CHANCE! 3) His wife will find out, "forgive" him and he'll call to dump you over the phone so he can "save his marriage"4) His wife will find out, divorce him and keep the house so that she can have a place to raise the 3 kids that they will have by then. He'll move into a studio apartment 'cause that's all he;ll be able to afford after alimony and child support, and since you love him you'll be his prize for having been a dog to his wife. CONGRATS! 5) His wife will findout and kill him! 6) His wife will find out and kill you! 7) His wive will find out, kill you and frame him for the murder! 8) His wife will find out, kill HIM AND YOU and plea temporary insanity. She'll get off on some technicality, keep the house and you will be in the news as the whore who caused the entire mess. Your family will love you for that one. I'd keep going but I'm in the library and my computer is shutting down in less than 2 minutes... Good luck!
2006-08-17 13:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it ema, you are young and naive and he is using control games on you. He's an older married man who knows better and is using you for his pleasures.
If he really cared about you he would divorce his wife, and he wouldn't be putting pressure on you to have sex with him. Admit it, if you told him you will not be pressured into having sex with anyone until you marry, then he would leave you..
You're acting like a stupid girl. You need to dump this old dude NOW. If you don't he will hurt you, and you will destroy his marriage... Everybody is going to lose in this relationship.
Get yourself a boyfriend that is your age. You'll be better off for it.
2006-08-17 13:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on now, married?! together 4 months? Sweetie you and him are not together. He's MARRIED. why do that to yourself? you deserve better, once you give your innocence away you cant get it back. find someone who really loves you not someone who just wants to have a fling because your here. don't fall for that. now if you and him continue on with this do u think hes gonna leave his wife? and if so don't you think he'll do the same to you. or maybe he already is. think about!
2006-08-17 13:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by whitbrowneyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instincts. Just becase thousands of other women have had bad experiences with married men doesnt meant that you will. Give that man your virginity fall deeply in love with no commitment and enjoy the end results.
2006-08-17 13:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!... Leave him alone, he isn't worth of you especially if he's cheating!...I know you say you love him but if he met you 4 months ago and is truly in love with you he shouldn't of married whoever he married. Your virginity is precious you only get one, wait for someone better that loves you and only you.
2006-08-17 13:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by ShySweetNSassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't even go there. If he is married, he is not worth giving up your innocence too. I bet he did the same thing to his wife. He is truely and Adulterer and you will be one too, if you allow this to happen. Run for the Hills.
2006-08-17 13:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Norskeyenta 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. that is an affair for one and you do not want to loss your virginity to a married man you want to be with some one who loves you not lusts you. I beg you to not do it
2006-08-17 13:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need a new dream sista........ get as far away from that dude as possible....cause you will keep thinking about this until you fall into the trap.....stop talkin to this guy!!! Is it really your dream to be with a guy who cheats on his wife..... if you don't get out of there soon you'll be his wife.....or worse.....you may have his children.......ahhhhhhhh!!!!
2006-08-17 13:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Ken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a pig, and probably likes to brag about how many virgins he has deflowered. you mean nothing to him. he probably does this stuff all the time. besides, how would you like it if you were his wife? the shoe could be on the other foot. do unto others....
2006-08-17 13:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋