My daugter's father and I have been battling it out in family court for the past 2 years. We are pretty much equal in our personalities, good and bad. I've filed protection orders on him, he filed contempt order on me. Neither of us won, be we got our revenge on one another and now were even stevens. Yesterday we went to dinner & the park with our child for the first time and got along as if nothing bad ever happened. I don't know if he's tired of all the pain we went through over the past 2 years, or if he's just trying to keep me happy so I won't pursue contempt charges on him again. It's very confusing to me because we always enjoy one another's company and talk for hours day after day. But he seems to jump to conclusions and misunderstands things I say, and doesn't trust me there after. Then he rushes to his lawyer with his suspicions, and off to court we go again. Can this mistrust between us be fixed and if so, how?
2006-08-17 12:53:48 · 10 answers · asked by booboobear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well this is never easy but at least it sounds like you are keeping an open mind, which is much better then my wife.
You have a daughter together, and that will forever bind you. I am a firm believer that if you can work things out you sound try.
Trust cannot be fixed but sometimes time can heal.
You both need to be engaged in this. I tried to salvage my family but it was completely onesided and was doomed to utter failure.
If you are both willing to try you should... your daughter is worth it and she deserves to have a proper family.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-17 13:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a mess. Do you think he can be trusted? You have a 2 year track record that shows how nasty he can be. How long do you think the two of you can be friends this time before he gets mad about something?
Who knows? Maybe counseling my help both of you get along better, but I think you can plan on another trip to court.
2006-08-17 20:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try counselling 4 ur childs sake but hes an ex 4 a reason prob 2 much waters passed under the bridge 4 any reconciliation but being able 2 b civil 4 ur childs sake is a good idea
2006-08-17 20:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never make the same mistake twice girlfriend you should have learnt that lesson by now. Sounds like he is definitely after something I would keep my distance and move on with my own life if I was you. You can do much better and shouldn't have to go through so much **** to be happy.
2006-08-17 20:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jade74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been thru a similar situation. I say he's trying 2 get something. Watch your back girlfriend.
2006-08-17 19:59:40 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if he's willing to get counseling.If he reacts to it positive then maybe.If he have a fit watch out his only trying to get over on you for something he wants.
2006-08-17 20:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY WASTE TIME POKING A STICK IN EACH OTHER'S CAGE? DON'T YOU HAVE BETTER THINGS TO DO? DON'T YOU WANT TO MOVE ON? YOU ALREADY KNOW WHAT EACH OTHER IS LIKE.....AND THAT WON'T CHANGE NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU WISH IT WOULD.
YOU ARE STILL TOO EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN EACH OTHER. MOVE ON AND GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE.
I REALY HOPE YOU DON'T HAVE CHILDREN WHO SEE YOU ACT LIKE THIS......
2006-08-17 20:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is just trying to get some of the stuff he had before......and if I am wrong....at least make him beg for the way he treated you before.....make him prove he wants to be with you
2006-08-17 20:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up on him move on.if he dose'nt trust you now he never will.keep going the way you are and you both could end up getting hurt beyond any help.
2006-08-17 20:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by Guardian_Knight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there...done that...it don't work..he is after something...once a snake always a snake...don't do it....the trust is tarnish with him....
2006-08-17 20:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋