today, a friend of my husbands overdosed. my husband does not do drugs and the friend offered him some and he said no, but the friend did the drugs right there in front of my husband. the friend was shot a month ago and is also on morphine. he overdosed and my husband thinks it is all his fault. do you think it is my husbands fault. if my husband would have tried to stop him, it would have been a fight.
2006-08-17 12:35:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it is not your husband's fault. Who knows how much it took for the guy to OD? If your husband had taken half of the drugs, the guy still may have OD'd because of the morphine in his system.
You husband will feel guilty. That is a normal response to a tragedy like this. Just help him through and be there for him to talk to.
2006-08-17 12:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not your husbands fault. he couldn't help what happened and couldn't know that the morphine together with the drugs would be an overdose. I can understand that your husband feels guilty I would have felt the same way because when something bad happens we always wished that we could have done something to prevent it and we criticize ourselves because we couldn't do anything about it and give ourselves the blame. But it wasn't his fault. It was the fault of his friend he should have known not to take drugs when he's on morphine because he could have known that this would go wrong. He himself took that risk and it became a fatal one. Your husband didn't tell him to do so and like you said if he would have tried to prevent him from using his drugs it would have started a fight. Your husband is not to blame for what happened Just keep telling him that he didn't do anything wrong and that he doesn't need to blame himself and give him all the support and love that he needs to give this a place in his heart and pick up his life again and just allow him all the time he needs to go through this. It's always hard and difficult to lose a friend and it's even harder and more difficult when you blame yourself for it. This takes time to heal and you can help him greatly by just being there for him and comforting him so he will learn that he has no blame about what happened.
Good luck and best wishes to you both.
2006-08-17 12:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by aysha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is so sad that has happened. It is that person's decision who was doing the drugs to take them. But your husband could do something like getting help for his friend months ahead before that friend od on the drugs . You can bring the horse to the water but you can not make the horse drink the water. That person needs to be willing to do what is right. Remember this all things happens for a reason. Learn from it and give it all over to God. God sees the whole picture ..... we see a tiny part of the picture. That your husband ask forgiveness and let it go. Help your husband through this hardship and support him.
2006-08-17 13:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your husband is not the blame. Did your husband put a gun to that guy's head and force him to take the drugs? NO. If there is one thing I know it's this. A person who is on drugs are going to take drugs no matter if someone is with them or they are by theirselves. There is no reason for your husband to beat himself up over that.
2006-08-17 12:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by zelmagraves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not your husband's fault. It is unfortunate that things turned out that way, but any addiction can be lethal. This is not a time to blame anyone for what occurred.
2006-08-17 12:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is to blame for hanging out with people who do drugs like that... Other than that - no, it's not his fault by any means, this person was a grown man (I assume).
2006-08-17 12:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT! God doesn't make mistakes. It was his time to go...How he went was up to him..Drug Users have three paths..ONE- Get Clean, Stay Clean and begin a new life. TWO- Go To Prison or THREE Death. It would have happened regardless of who was there your husband just happen to be the one..Maybe it will help him not to make the same mistake.Life is too short as it is so don't let the shortcuts get a hold of you!
GOD BLESS
2006-08-17 13:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were talking about this the other day.. how when a family member or friend does something to end their life or come close to it other people that were close to them blame them selves.. we all have that "what if" or "if i only" thing that kicks in..
Tell him that his friend had a mind of his own and if he could have stopped him that time.. there would have been another time down the road.. the saying goes.. "you are not your brother's keeper"
2006-08-17 12:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not your husband's fault. The other guy decided to do the drugs not your husband. Let God sort it out.
2006-08-17 12:41:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is my husband to blame???
2014-12-13 05:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋