Should women STAY in the home?

Question

I've a friend who sincerely believes this. I thought they were kidding but this friend has an old fashioned outlook that women are naturally more domestic than men and a family works better if the woman stays in the home in marriage lookin after the kids. Here's the punchline folks-this friend of mine, its a SHE!!!
And whats your opinion on HOUSE HUSBANDS in contrast?

Answer 1

If a woman wants to stay home and take care of her kids, then more power to her. But, it's not for everyone. I personally would want to shoot myself.

My stepbrother is a house husband and he loves it. His wife is a pharmacist, so it just makes sense since she makes enough to support them. I don't see how it's different at all. It's what works for their family. Everyone should just do what makes them happy.

Answer 2

The problem with your friend's view is that she is extending her belief to ALL women. When in reality, both women and life are too complex and diverse to be confined by such a broad statement.

The bottom line is, it should ultimately be the woman's choice. The husband may disagree, but he has no right to coerce her into a lifestyle she doesn't feel comfortable with. (Ideally, this is something they should have come to an understanding on BEFORE they got married.) Some women were born to be homemakers and stay-at-home mothers, but many others simply don't feel that that's their place in life, and that's fine.

I would agree with your friend that it is probably preferable to have a parent stay home to raise kids. But it's not a necessity, nor is there any reason that it has to be the mom. If anything, it's a slight against dads everywhere to say that it's better if the mom stays home. Speaking as a man, I think many fathers would like to spend more time with their kids, yes, even if it involves doing childcare and household chores.

Women in the workplace isn't a "liberal" thing or a "politically correct" thing. It just means having a more fulfilling life and greater control over their destiny. And despite what she may think, millions of kids with two working parents (or with a stay-at-home dad) somehow manage to grow up just fine.

Answer 3

Back in the old days when women stayed home and raised the children. Kids didn't carjack, rob people, shoot citizens, and cause all kinds of problems. Today they do drive by shootings, can't speak english(we be, they be etc...) everything is too hard, and now they are a bunch of whimps. If the wife makes better money, what a tough life it would be to stay home and raise kids and take care of the house. Whoever wrote this question is either a Dyke or a real Whimp!

Answer 4

I am a Stay at home mom.. My decision.. I do have better control of the household and want to be here when the kids come home from school. They can only count on me, we do not anybody else around.. My husband tried for a week and stayed at home and almost went crazy with the kids, the house, the bills, the cooking.. not to mention when I got home he had bounced a check, because he forgot to transfer money and I had a pile of Laundry in my living room that was almost to the ceiling..
I learned my lesson.. I have to take control of the house because he just can't, Bless his soul he tried... He makes the money and I administer every aspect of our family..
So whatever works for the family, even if we end up as a stereotype.. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

After 7 years of marraige my husband became disabled. I went to work because I had to in order to support my family. Not all women are in a financial position to have a choice about this. Life is hard enough without making sweeping generalizations about an entire gender. What ever works for a married couple is what they should do. I hope things work out for your friend, but if she finds herself in a financial predicament will she work or go on welfare?

Answer 6

That's a good question, if you're financially stable, then the woman could stay at home, if not, you got to get out and start working. Meanwhile when you have kids, it'll be hard to raise when you're not there so once you get a job, go home and spend time with the kids.

Answer 7

WPerhaps that is where she is happiest.
Some women prefer it that way
.I did until my Divorce as I married young and knew nothing else.
Was 25 yr old with 4 children
Was offered a job in retail industry.
Found I managed both easily.
I also realised that ex could have done more than work swill beer and abuse me and kids.
I think is matter of choice and personal situation.
House husbands are great as long as they realise it is not a contest to see who is the better of the two
.Please do not be offended as it is not intentional
Have a great day

Answer 8

I don't believe this is the case. But there are a lot of people that still believe it's the best. If that's what they want, it's up to them. But it just seems so antiquated and backwards and old school.

Answer 9

If that's her belief, it's her life to spend as she sees fit. I think it's up to the individual. There's no right or wrong. I wouldn't be happy as a house husband, but it might be right for someone else.

Answer 10

Only if they want to. Everyone should be free to choose how they live their lives provided they don't harm others. I don't think anyone should dictate to anyone else how they should live and more fool the person who listens and obeys.