Okay, so I am going to college in a week as a freshman. I love this college and think it is just the right place for me to be for my future career. Only problem is that I have just recently come to terms with the fact that I am bi, and more likely a lesbian. That is fine by me, but this school is not only really, really conservative but also is 80% male! It feels that I won't be able to tell everyone who I really am and my chances of getting a girlfriend are like nil! What should I do?
2006-08-17 12:24:03 · 17 answers · asked by Broadway Baby 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am definately NOT thinking about dating guys. I am not attracted to guys. Sure, I think one or two of them is "cute", but that is normal. It is not dating guys that worries me, it is being rejected by my peers that worries me. And the fact that I have met some of the girls that are going there and they seem really conservative and the chances of me finding another girl like me is nothing. Of course I will get an education, but I also want to be accepted and find a relationship.
2006-08-17 12:38:00 · update #1
Give it a chance anyway. Maybe other women attracted to that kind of environment....would be attracted to you as well! Get your freshman classes (most are pretty stupid anyway) over with there. If it's really bad, look at transferring for your sophomore year. The Advocate publishes a book about LGBT-friendly colleges; you can use that as a starting point.
There are worse things that can happen than not having a girlfriend for a year, too.
2006-08-17 13:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The adjustment from home to all the independence that comes with being away at college is huge, and has been the downfall of many a freshman. Maybe in this situation, you will find yourself totally immersed in your education this freshman year, and that will spell success for your entire college career. But if after a year there is no chance of finding happiness there, you can always transfer. Tons of students do just that!
2006-08-17 15:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Meet someone off campus. When you are ready you can tell your peers from school or if you don't feel like you ever would be then don't. Just realize that if you do tell them and they turn on you they were not the kind of friends you wanted in the first place. Go to school, have a good time, and find someone who makes you happy. There are other people like you, you just need to go out and find them :)
2006-08-17 14:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what is this college? well, you probably don't want to say. you make it sound like it's the naval academy! 1) you might love this college now, but not in the future. so 2)you can always transfer to somewhere else. especially as a freshman, it's usually pretty simple. just stay with core classes your first year or early level classes of your major (which is what most freshmen do...) and if you REALLY feel trapped by like christmas or next summer, you can transfer. if you end up liking it, then no worries. going to college is mostly about training for your career... but it also should be a place that embraces you for who you are, so you can learn about yourself and the world around you, instead of getting misinformation or being hassled.
2006-08-17 12:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, you're definitely not a lesbian if you're thinking about dating guys because there are more of them and you don't think you will be able to find a gf. You could put a true lesbian in a place with 5,000 men and 1 woman.. and even if the woman is straight, the lesbian would still only be interested in the woman. So please don't tell people that you are. It makes them think that being gay is a choice.
And I agree with the first answerer, get an education.
2006-08-17 12:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think your best bet would be to stay to your self and feel the others out. I am sure you will meet some one that is bi or les. but it may take some time. What till the time is right before you say something that might fire back at you. I am sure when the time is right you will find a good relation ship. Good luck.........
2006-08-17 15:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl no matter how conservative the school or a person may look..I bet U there are a lot of gay, bi, and curious people attendin that school..the only problem I guess is findin one..that's when the gaydar comes in..mine is very bad..but i wish u the best of luck
2006-08-17 14:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by quizzed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
School isnt the only place to interact with peers... Go about finding a girl friend just as you would if you were not in school..
get out in your free time...meet people outside of school
2006-08-17 14:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Considering 1% - 3% of people are homosexual I am sure there will be people like you there :)
Just look out for them :)
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80% Male - As many straight males like Lesbians (Which you kinda are), I'm sure you won;t have too many problems with them disliking you.
2006-08-17 12:30:17 · answer #9 · answered by djw008 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say, just check it out. You never know and maybe you can focus on your education even easier. Make an outside life for you... I'm sure there has to be something around where you are... Then transfer if its just not for you...
2006-08-17 13:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋