My boyf is in the Navy. I get to see him during summer and Christmas and Easter. Apart from a day here and there that's pretty much it.
He's already planning to go for a holiday with his navy mates at Christmas. Obviously it's up to him, but am i right to be bothered in the sense that I thought he'd want to spend it with me??
2006-08-17 12:09:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah, you are allowed to be mad. That's normal. But, you have to remember what you are getting into. The military life is very hard. In my point of view (military wife), the us significant other's have just as much of a hardship as the actual military members have. This is a good point to evaluate your relationship. Are you in love with him enough to sacrifice for him? Because that is what we do. The government tells us what to do, we do it, we sigh under our breath and then, we smile and enjoy what we've been given. That is what we do, and sometimes the guys just want to go have some fun together. So, just think about what you want. It's hard being a military wife, or a military member for that fact, but, I wouldn't give it up for anything. Good luck....
2006-08-17 12:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ca-C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's WHAT?!!!! The CHEEK of the man! If I were you, I'd certainly be bothered. He gets to have all his fun in the navy (I am so tempted to start singing, by the way!) with his pals the rest of the year, yet the couple of weeks you two get together and he's effing well planned a holiday with the blokes! Grr, I am angry with him and I don't even KNOW him!
Get yourself out there girl and meet someone who's going to treat you better than that!!
2006-08-17 12:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by Andalucia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married I would agree that he should choose you over going out with his mates. I am not saying that you are not significate as a girlfriend but the situation is different since you are not married. Is it possible to meet up with him for a couple days where ever he is going on holiday at?
Good luck!
2006-08-17 12:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him...let him know you want to see him more see what he says maybe he can include you in his plans its probably hard for him too as he is by himself wherever he is and see his buddies all the time he probably want s to be included in theveryone elses plans too since he sees them throughout the year...i know its hard i went to school away from my bf but we were always honest with each other and there were times i chose to stay at school and do something with them...if he turns them down all the time them they will stop asking...it may seem hard )and the obvious choice to you) but to him its really hard because he has to choose between the two of you. Hang in there..and good luck ( i was away for 3 years...1 year after i got back my bf and i got engaged we have been married for three years)
2006-08-17 12:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what ya mean he isn't ready u know- the armed services men get all whacked out with relationships- it made mine not so good as my bf changed deeply and it sucked. I wouldn't hold my breath.. u should have been number one IF he loved you so much- the mates are there any time U may not be.. you see a priority here????
2006-08-17 12:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that there is absolutely nothing in this relationship for you! Why would you want a relationship like this anyway? I think he decided a long time ago that he is not your boyfriend.....you just don't "get it" yet! Stop allowing him to make a fool out of you!
2006-08-17 12:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is obviously not as committed as you are unfortunately. If you communicate with him and let him know that you would like to spend it with him and he does reciprocate, then I would call it a day and date other people. Good luck
2006-08-17 12:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by AngiB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a bf in the navy and he was the same way, we just drifted apart...
2006-08-17 12:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's BS...a woman deserves a man who is there for HER, not his buddies.
Find someone who knows the value of a real woman. You must be one, if you can wait for his return...
2006-08-17 12:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes get a new bf
2006-08-17 12:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋