Is it wrong for me to have an 'issue' with the fact that my 'ex'...?

Question

Is it wrong for me to have an 'issue' with the fact that my 'ex' said he's pick'g the kids up the night before they are leaving for vacation (because they are leaving early in the am)... However, he neglected to tell me that they will be sleeping at his girlfriends house.????

Answer 1

I will not make a judgment without knowing the children's ages. Young children really don't need to know that dad is sleeping with his girlfriend. Older teens have more than likely figured it out already.

Either way you have no say in the matter. They are with him for his visitation and unless they are being abused, there is nothing you can do about it.

The best way to handle this is to hold your head high and smile like it doesn't matter. If the kids say anything to you about it, just act as if it is nothing important.

Answer 2

Although you have reason to be annoyed with him for leaving out the fact that they will be spending a night at his girlfriends house, it would be wrong for you to make an issue out of it. The only reason they are going to be there is because dad is there. It's not like they are going to go there just to see her. And if I were you, I'd be grateful that he's picking them up the night before. That way the responsibility of getting them up early and getting them ready falls on his shoulders and not yours. I can see how it would tick you off, but it's not worth making an issue out of. It's the children's vacation, his visitation, and when you are divorced, you have to choose your battles wisely and thank God that you have a huband who still maintains an interest in his kids even with a girlfriend.

There is an exception to this and that is if the girlfriend isn't suitable for the kids to be around. And if that's the case, scrap what I said and raise a little hell. Because then my dear, you have every reason to make an issue out of it.

Answer 3

I assume they're going on vacation with him and his girlfriend? If that's the case, I would guess they will all be sleeping at the same location anyways. What's the big deal?

Answer 4

It was rather inconsiderate to give you such short notice about the vacation. But the girlfriend thing might be a hint of jealousy.

Answer 5

I don't think it's wrong. It was inconsiderate of him to tell you last min. However if you know and trust the girlfriend then it should be ok. I would make sure you know where she lives and what her number is just in case.

Answer 6

That all depends. As a mother, you should be made aware of where they are staying. However, you should be more upset that he didn't inform you of where they were staying rather than who it was they were staying with. You guys are not together, so eventually he will meet and date other people, just as you are. I wouldn't be too, too upset about it, but let him know that he should have given you the respect of informing you where they would be staying.

Answer 7

Yes. The fact that you mentioned that he has a gf shows me that the issue is about her. Get over it and move on and get you bf. Let him have his life and you have yours. You arent super mom. All women after divorce develop the supermom complex.

Answer 8

Is his girlfriend not trustworthy? There's nothing wrong with any of that, it all depends on the relationship, personalities involved, and prior agreements.

Answer 9

Yes it is wrong. They are his kids too. If he wants to take them over to his girlfriends there isn't nothing you can do about it.

Answer 10

he moved on. you should too.