help me be meaner!!!! please?

Question

im always so quiet and let pll do stuff...help me to be mean!

Answer 1

Give me $100 dollars you loser!

Answer 2

Meaner?

Ok. First of all forget all the kindergarted B******T and do what you want. Stop worring about what others want and worry more about what you need. If someone disagrees with you then they are wrong... period.

Secondly if someone does confront you, you need to show them you are not afraid to stand up to them. And establish dominance though whatever means neccessary. But dont go beyond that, only do just what is neccessary so that you seem to have self controll this makes you more threatening.

Finally, dont give in or give up. People are going to wonder why you have taken a turn for the worse. The people you used to SERVE, these people may possibly include your family. In these situations do not be swayed by arguments of sentiment of how you used to be so sweet or any of that.

This is only a start... its hard to be mean because no one really wants to be mean. Usually people are mean because they are unhappy and in those cases it comes naturally. But if your set on being mean try it. Maybe it will work for you, sometimes it does. Just dont expect to be mr. popular.

Answer 3

Let me give you some advice I gave to a young man over 20 years ago. (Man, I feel old!) This young man let people walk over him without ever standing up for himself. He believed that the only way to make people respect him as a person was to react in a violent way. I advised that he simply remain quiet to see just how far someone would attempt to push him. When he reached his breaking point, rather than punching the guy, do something completely different from what that person might expect. A few days later, he told me how he handled a situation that arose at work with one of the jerks. The guy cornered him as they worked and got in his face. My young friend patiently listened to what the jerk had to say. When the guy paused to take a breath, my friend reached out and gently removed the man’s cigarette from his mouth and politely put it out in the man’s chest. As he ground the cigarette out, he smiled and told the guy that the next time he would place the cigarette up the guy’s ashtray. He then turned around and walked away from the guy. From that day forward, nobody messed with this friend despite his small stature. Nobody wanted to find out just how crazy he could get.

Part of the key to handling these situations is remaining calm and in control of your own emotions and actions. When you do something totally nuts, yet act calm, you leave the other party wondering just how far you will go. The smile only intensifies mystery for the recipient. Turning his back and walking away left my friend’s back exposed and vulnerable, but also sent the message that he had no need to worry about anyone exploiting that vulnerability.

I do not suggest putting a cigarette out on someone’s chest, however, the manner of delivering the message is the key to stopping people from taking advantage of you. Since most people that exploit others have limited intelligence, fewer words make it easier for them to understand you.

Good luck!

Will D
Enterprise AL
http://www.notagz.com

Answer 4

Isn't it a sad day in the history of civilization when a nice guy is forced by society to learn to be mean!!

What a miserable place this world has become. Think how much worse it will be in another hundred years...

Please don't learn to be mean, just go take a self defense class and when the mindless idiots come up to hurt you, give them a big reason not to mess with you again!
Good luck to all young people, and to the generations to follow.

Answer 5

You don't have to be mean, you just have to be strong! Practice scenarios in your head of different responses to different situations from the day. Your mind and your words will become faster and stronger as you gain confidence. It's even better if you can always remain calm and rational, without using profanities or name-calling, as this disarms bullies or idiots! They have no idea how to react! You'll also have to learn how to dodge and duck punches, as some people do not appreciate a smart answer and lash out in frustration! I wish I had more time, Grasshopper, but I am sleepy and must go to bed!

Just say no thanks! and mean it! People will get it by the way you say it! If they don't, make sure they understand, NO!

Answer 6

Juan,
You've received many interesting answers. None like this. Forget self-esteem, and gain an understanding of what your Creator thinks of you. If the Creator of the Universe thinks so much of you that he bothered to create you in intimate detail, why would you bother caring what YOU think of you or what others think of you.
If we begin with the understanding that God created the universe, and everything in it, and you really think about the implications of that effort, you will eventually see that He has put together literally billions of events just so that you will be exactly who you are, what you are, where you are and when you are, right here, right now. He gave you millions of special qualities and talents and said, I want this person to look like this, act like this, have these talents and life experiences so he can fulfill a very special purpose that no one else can do.
Then, you'll realize that everybody else on the planet is the same way. Some go about discovering what these things are, and some people never understand that the entire universe was created just for their enjoyment, and run around with their eyes closed and their ears shut, bumping into things and kicking the things they run into.
Anyhow, when you really understand who you are in God's eyes, you will no longer be willing to be anyone's punching bag. God certainly did not put you on the planet to be used and abused by others, and he wants you to understand that.
If you've read the bible, you might think I'm crazy. I mean, those apostles, they were all crucified, or decapitated. Some of them spent years in prison being abused and tortured. However, these people did understand God's purpose for their lives, and they chose to obey it. They didn't just let it happen because they felt they were worthless, it was their joy to serve God in the manner He asked them to. They were not hapless twits who accepted terrible treatment simply because they didn't have the guts to stand up for themselves.
The second step is to learn to recognize bad treatment, identify it and deal with it. The rule of thumb is this. Would you treat another person that way? If the answer is no, step out of the playing field, identify that person as bad news. If it's someone close, you'll probably have to say "Don't do that", if not, you can choose someone else to deal with.
The third step is to make sound judgments. If you know a person and you see them treat others badly, understand that someday the other person they treat badly will be you and find nicer people to hang with. Loyalty is good if the person is worthy of it, otherwise it's wasted. Don't cast your pearls before swine. Don't give the best parts of you to people who won't understand it and won't treasure it. It's not that they're swine, it's that swine don't understand pearls, and will just trample them like the rest of the muck they live in.

Answer 7

You are confusing being mean with having self esteem and standing up for yourself. The world is FULL - no, OVERFLOWING with mean people hurting others, and a good number of them make the same mistake. I, too, tend to be too nice. I have learned to try to live my life as -I- choose to, and never allow other people's behavior (good or bad) control or influence how I live. I live according to the principles I believe in. Most of the time, it means I do the occasional favor here and there, but it's by my own choice. I've learned that even though it's hard to say no, it's OKAY TO SAY NO if you don't feel something is appropriate or if you feel it disrespects you. You are a valuable person who deserves respect, consideration and kindness. Most of all, you deserve to be true to yourself. If you try to change yourself to control others, you will lose yourself, and to me, that is unacceptable - the pricce is way too high. Instead, learn to be respectful of yourself. If someone asks you to do something you feel is wrong, consider both sides of it and make a decision - and stick by it. If you feel like the person deserves an explanation based on friendship, then explain. Stand up for yourself - defend your honor. Here's an example - I refuse to buy cigarettes for anyone, even my mother, who I love and have a great relationship with. She understands I love her and that's why I won't do it. I won't drive my car until EVERYONE is buckled in - no exceptions. It's a matter of principles. Someone asked me to take their friend somewhere, and at first I said no, but then I remembered all the people who took me places, so I decided I wanted to do it. But either way, I stood up for myself. Good luck, and remember it may take practice... just keep working at it. :-)

Answer 8

Juan, what you want & need to be is more assertive, not mean. No one likes a mean person. You can politely and tactfully tell another that you don't like or appreciate what they're doing or saying or whatever. Also, if you continue to care what others think about you as far as standing up for yourself, then others will continue to walk all over you. Remember, you can't do anything about what another person does, what is in your control is how you handle it.

Answer 9

lol..u don't have to be Mean to get what you want, or to stand up for urself. u just have to have confidence that you are a Good person, that u deserve better treatment. demanding respect is NOT being mean, no matter what anyone says.

i suggest working on yourself..how do u feel about urself? do u feel awkward about ur appearance, or you knowledge, or feel self conscious in front of others? work on it, and u will see a difference in how u feel. so, exercise, work out. change ur hair, buy clothes that are fashionable, look Good on you. next, study, work on ur mind. read more, learn more, read the news, be able to develop ur own opinions and Discuss w/ friends, family, or even strangers. once u are confident about your looks and ur brain, u will not feel as awkward in front of others anymore, because u KNOW u worked on urself. u are worth something, don't let people walk all over you. tell them what You think it is about, but don't judge them, don't bulldoze them. u don't want to do the same thing they've been doing to you.

if u focus on Good, Positive, Healthy things and people in ur life, u will be able to filter out the negatives. u don't need "friends" who treat u badly. just make sure u treat others well, and u will be able to choose who's cool enough to hang with you. once u develop that confidence, u will know u are a great person, and therefore deserve great people in ur life. good luck, and don't be mean! :) just be smart, and respectful, and stand up for what u want and believe in.

Answer 10

NO. The only word you ever need to know if you want to be mean. If someone asks you for something, "NO". Or you can say "F*** Off!", "Drop Dead", "Life is better without you". If you really want to be mean, you can give someone a complex. That is the funnest thing that yu can do while being mean. I gave my sister a complex. I told her she was fat everytime I seen her and one day I found out she was bulimec. I laughed at her and said "you are so such a stupid, pathetic, little girl!"

Answer 11

Which would you rather be around, a mean person, or a quiet person? Being quiet and mild mannered is natural for some.
The important thing is to stand up for yourself and be yourself.
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