and we talk everyday at work but lately she only calls me when it's "convince" for her. Sometimes she asks where the hell I've been all weekend (same days off) and she turns her phone off and has caller ID??!! Should I stop wasting my time with her-stop being friends with her... taking really,really personally. good friends for 2 yrs now. It drives me nuts!!! what should I do?? I tell her I called her many,many times but she says her kids turn the phone off and doesn't hear it??!! We talk about any and everything??!! We make plans and never sticks with them. Says she'll go but never answers the phone or door??!! She says she had a really bad migrane or pms really bad.... I just don't know???!!!!
2006-08-17 11:46:41 · 11 answers · asked by crazydoggielover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Find a new friend.
2006-08-17 11:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by The Hit Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off!! She has told you without hitting you in the face with it. You work together, so just keep working and being her "work" friend.
Stop calling!
Stop going to her house!
You are becoming a pain in the neck!
She can't tell you because she doesn't want to make you mad and then have to work with you like that!
Surely you have some other people that you can be friends with, or what about your family? Try spending time at home with them!! It might make you a much more interesting person. good luck.
2006-08-17 18:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by NANCY K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an honest, open conversation with her about it. The problem could be a number of things. These come to mind:
1) She is "dumping" you as a friend, but too nice to tell you.
2) Your relationship could use a little breathing room. A little time alone without the pressure to be together could be just what your friendship needs.
3) Your friend could be avoiding you because of a personal problem - financial, relationship, depression, drugs, who knows.
At this point you aren't doing yourself any good by guessing. Talk to her and find out.
2006-08-17 19:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Filbert Crunchy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention your friends age, how many children or if she is married. Going on the assumption that she is married with children, I know that spouses tend to get jealous of outside friendships that take away from the home life. She may be embarrassed that she does not have the time to do the things you want. Or, some people just need a break from the "cont ants" in their lives. If she has a home and family, then she has her hands full as it is and may be to emotionally spent to carry any extra weight.
2006-08-17 18:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should wait for her to call when she needs you and talk to her about what's been going on and what's bothering you with her. That's the only way unless she gave you a house key for you to visit her, then maybe you could go in. Ring the doorball a couple of times and if her home phone is off, doesn't she have a cell phone?
2006-08-17 18:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Back off. She strings you along as a backup. So don't call her or come running after her. Do hang with your other friends. She will notice and you will learn by her reaction on were you stand. Also you guys spending to much time together might be grinding on her nerves a bit. I love my family, but there are times I want some alone-time. It seems like your friendship has been about pleasing her, and you should stop worrying about that.
2006-08-17 18:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by sabina-2004@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs space and hates friendship for the sake of friendship. I'm like that, the same conversations eventually become boring. The best friend I could have is that friend which I never become bored of talking to.
I mean, you can only talk about the weather, sports, and girls so many different ways.
2006-08-17 18:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, seem that she want you to listen to what she doing, listen to her, etc. and NOtice she never listen.. to you and never return your call and saying that ohh kids did that all that crap.
That is not best friend, Best friend mean both listen each other and talk and have good time together no matter what. and Yeah, she does making alot of excuses and remind my ex wife who she did to her best friend and I told her show some respect and treat her as best friend if not then tell her that you don't wnat to be friend. she said well don't want to hurt her feeling. Well, lady you already hurting her alot for telling no can't go, don't feel good, my husband want me to go place with me and stuff like that blah blah.
Dump that girl and if she come to you said why are you not answering and tell her becasue I am the only person have to listen your story and your life and you don't have time to listen to me. so it worthless.
2006-08-17 18:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time you made new friends. Continue to talk to your friend lord knows we all need more of them so dont make it out to be a big thing. Nobody likes a drama queen. Move on make new friends .....your going to be okay.
2006-08-17 18:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a time and day to go hangout together just you two no kids, ask her what her problem is. let her know that you vaule your friendship, and dont want to lose her. Maybe she doesn't even realize it bothering you this much that its risking your friendship, let her know, and dont sugar coat it.
2006-08-17 18:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sublimebaby69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋